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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
Mary Berger
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My MIL never listens to me
Mary Berger
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I don't understand why no one every listens to me. Okay so when I say no one I am specifically referring to my MIL. She thinks we should be feeding and rocking our son to sleep everytime. I have explained that we don't want him to depend on us to rock him to sleep every time and that we are trying not to create a eat sleep association. Am I crazy? Am I wrong? Am I doing it right? Because every time she comes over, she makes me feel like I am thinking about this way to much. I'm not even having to think about it, but I am alway having to explain it to her. When she's not here, it just happens. What do you guys think? Is everyone still feeding and rocking their babies to sleep at almost 6 months old? I know he's still just a baby, but what is wrong with trying to teach your baby to fall a sleep on his own?
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Re: My MIL never listens to me
I deal with this exact problem! My ds self soothes really well now, but it is such a struggle for mil to understand we put him down awake! She constantly comments how she rocked all of her kids and they turned out. I have to bite my tongue to not be like this MY kid and I don't want to rock him all night long! It doesn't mean I don't love to cuddle him!
and now that ds can self soothe, he sleeps awesome. So I know its the right thing to do, for us. Its just so annoying to have to argue her. If I have her babysit, I tell her he needs a nap around blank time, and I'll come home and shell say oh but he was so happy, he never napped! Makes me crazy. My baby can't stay awake for six hours! Then she will rock him till he passes out from Exhaustion!
anyways...yes I feel for you! Guess we have to stick to our guns, mommy knows best!
Some people don't understand. I have to admit the sleep training was not what I had intended on doing as it was I didn't do anything, my LO did it on her own, she just didn't want to be held and rocked any longer. I really wish I still could just hold her and rock her to sleep but she hates it now. In the long run it is what's healthiest for them as they can fall asleep on there own without depending on you. My brother unfortunately did not do this with his kids and because of it he has a 22 month old and a 3 1/2 year old that needs to be rocked every night to sleep. If my SIL travels for work he has to have someone come over to help put the boys to bed because one needs to be rocked with a bottle and the other needs to have someone lay down next to him until he falls asleep. Ignore her comments, or just say evey baby is different as well as every parents methods, what worked for you may not work for us. I am fortunate that my MIL agrees with being able to lay the baby down in her crib kiss her give and walk out of he room. If its work
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I'm dealing with this exact opposite problem.
I feed/rock to sleep and have had everyone tell me LO needs to be falling asleep on his own. I just tell them we are doing what works best for us and then change the subject. That usually drops it.
That's really interesting because I didn't realize that I was sleep training. We just follow a eat, play sleep routine and it has been working for us without a problem. I always thought sleep training was CIO and we don't do that. I just put him down for his naps when he is tried after playing for a while. By following this routine he never has to scream or fight sleep because he is tired and really for his nap. I say he's on a schedule, but really he's just tired at the same time everyday so we put him down when he needs to sleep.
I guess I find it really funny how each generation has it's own parenting trends. When my son was first born she kept telling me not to hold him to much or over use the paci. Nowadays, we sleep train and baby wear. Honestly, I'm starting to believe there is really no one right way to raise your little one, as long as you love and nurture them.
Make my words, I am done trying to figure it all out. I am sick of worrying about whether I am doing it right or wrong. My son is loved, care for and cuddled all the time and that is all that really matters.
Us too. We tried CIO one night...was NOT for us! LO is a hyper sensitive baby and needs his comfort. He will eventually sleep on his own but for now we do what works for us. LO is a horrible self soother still but he's been like that from day one.
She needs to get over it and you just need to continue doing what works best for you and your LO.
My MIL is the same. She's always telling me I should be rocking DS to slee Because he's a baby, she rocked all 4 of her children until they were a year, bla bla.
However, she takes it a step further and would rock him to sleep for naps when she babysat then tell me she did so with a "tone", as though I was harming my child and she saved him or something. I would have a hard time putting DS down for a few days after every time she babysat. Well, she doesn't babysit anymore and that's the end of that.
Same thing here. She act like I am a terrible mother for not rocking him to sleep and every time she does it, she's the hero.