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TTC After a Loss
Support for the "Oldies" from a "newbie"
My internet has been down all weekend until this morning and when I read some of the things on this board it made me sad....I have been on this board for a few weeks now....not long enough to be considered a "oldie or veteran" of the board but long enough to know these women were so much a part of the reason I have been able to move forward from my loss and they have all been so encouraging. Women like them that have been around a long time know just what us newbies need to hear and I personally am very grateful they DON'T SUGAR COAT any of that...
If all I heard when I came on this board was how easy everything was going to be I would not have been able to heal the way I needed to heal...We need to hear the good, bad, and ugly of the TTCAL process....Some ladies are lucky enough to only have to spend a little time here...others are not so lucky...
THANK YOU TTCAL "OLDIES, VETERANTS" for everything you do to keep this board a some what safe haven for ALL NEWBIES that come here...afterall none of us want to be here but having long lasting support from people that don't really know you helps alot on this journey.
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Re: Support for the "Oldies" from a "newbie"
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
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Thank you! And it's not just the Oldies. There are a few newbies, in-betweenies, and no-clue-what-i-amies who do not shove puppies and rainbows up people's butt.
It's not that we're mean. We don't try to seek out to be the snarkiest person on the board. It's just that we're honest. It honestly does the board no good to feed the trolls, support drainers, etc.
We've tried that before, and the board got the crappy end of the stick because of it! GracieStar, EtsyQueen, Fingerscrossedmom, TwistedMetal, and a few others who's mind slips me right now... were all out to destroy our board. Especially those who tried to gain our personal information and used pictures that we had in our siggys and claimed them as their own! We are protective of this board, and a few others understand why we're so hard.
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Well said. I was lurking through the last few days of posts here, and it makes me sad to see the things that have been going on, and the misunderstandings between newbies, oldies, regulars, etc.
It's hard to see the oldies go so under/unappreciated and have their support go unnoticed just because they are also the ones to post board etiquette reminders that some people may find pointless, but are the few baseline rules holding this place together (TB as a whole) and as new people rotate in and out, it is important for these reminders to go out on occasion.
It's also hard to see the newbies that feel as though they are being looked down upon and feeling the need to defend themselves. I understand that getting snarky replies to your very first post can be a bit alarming, but I can also see the "regulars" annoyance with being used as a search engine and expecting to give support when they aren't going to get any in return.
I am terribly sorry to see Kacy and Wicked go, as they were great sources of support when I was here. I am also sad to see that many of the "regulars" that were posting when I first started here have taken a step back. It is a huge loss in support, knowledge, and experience that the new rounds of people coming through will never even get to experience.
I am sorry the board is going through a transition period, and I hope everything can even itself out eventually.
BFP 12/19/08- DS born 8/25/09 9lbs2oz via Zavanelli Maneuver
BFP 8/26/11- Missed miscarriage discovered 10/19/11 at 11w2d, measured at 9 weeks gestation w/ no HB. D&C 10/21/11
BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
BFP 4/23/12 at 10dpo Stick my little one! Beta #1: 83.3 @ 13dpo Beta #2: 197.7 @ 15dpo
Our little man is getting bigger every day!
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I hope mine wasn't taken as "oldies v. newbies," because that is why I also put in "regulars." It looks to me to be misunderstandings all the way around, and it's just sad.
BFP 12/19/08- DS born 8/25/09 9lbs2oz via Zavanelli Maneuver
BFP 8/26/11- Missed miscarriage discovered 10/19/11 at 11w2d, measured at 9 weeks gestation w/ no HB. D&C 10/21/11
BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
BFP 4/23/12 at 10dpo Stick my little one! Beta #1: 83.3 @ 13dpo Beta #2: 197.7 @ 15dpo
Our little man is getting bigger every day!
My BFP Chart
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
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I don't think it has turned into an oldies vs. newbies war...I did this post because I didn't want all the oldies thinking they were not appreciated and that they were not welcomed here which is how wicked felt...(i think)....I think there were vaild points on the original post she started coming from both sides...
I love giving support just as much as I get it and it doesn't matter if it comes from a oldie or newbie...I also think that everyone wants to feel like they make a difference and that they are appreciated and I just chose to call out the oldies here...
I love all you ladies and I am truly greatful for all the support that I see being given to anybody new or old on this board every day..