Whose next?

VikingQueen · May 2012

I just got home and logged on only to see wicked's goodbye post. So let me ask you TTCAL who is next? Who is the next one that this board is going to run off? You didn't like her bluntness, her truth... Y'all are missing out on a wonderful friendship. Wicked is a beautiful lady inside and out and she stuck around as a support when she didn't have to. I am ashamed of this board right now. Wicked was a valued and loved member by many, many of us ladies who have gotten to know her. And here I am going to say it... But the "newbies" that didn't take the chance or want to try and get to know her. Believe me it's your loss... Its total bullshiiit when this place no longer feels like a home to the women who help make it what it is... Without the ladies that have been here the longest who could you run to to be your personal google, who would you ask to chart stalk, who would you run to for comfort that while you never forget, it will get easier... So whose next ladies? Me? Cashew? Petra? or another long time member? Such total BS

Mmm79 · May 2012

I'm catching up with all of this today and I'm sad to see all that went down. I value all the women on this board. I have received answers and support and tried to provide the same in return. Though I have intro'd and re-intro'd, I am still a newbie who is sometimes scared and feels alone out here in the "real world". Because I don't have friends who have gone through what I have, I come here to feel less alone and to talk about things I don't get to talk about. I want all women who have suffered a loss to feel the same.

I love the balance of a board that can talk about heartbreak and hand jobs. I love that I can go from teary to laughing in the span of a few minutes.

VQ, I value your knowledge and your lightheartedness and hope that you will continue to provide both. To all who have offered information and support- I am more grateful than you can imagine.

vanessa lynne · May 2012

What the hell happened?!?! It is hard enough to be here for over a year and see people come and go..but at least they are heading over to PGAL when they go! I feel comforted to see familiar faces on here....they are all disappearing. ::tear::

funny bunny · May 2012

Good morning VQ.

I've been a member since January (how has it been 5 months already??).

I have candidly shared my appreciation for all the support I've received here, and I hope that I'm giving back at least half of what's given to me. My road here started bumpy. If you go back to my first couple of posts, I was called out in a 'less then polite' manner for honest mis-wordings.

I've never been a P&R kind of girl, and although I can offer them I can see they are not necsarry.

I read LilMaggs' post this morning, and she confirmed what I sensed from the TTCAL oldies previously. You have been burned, and thus you are defensive / protective. The message is right, the blog is great, and these are truly the ways to preserve this board.

What irks me is the language / attitude used to convey this message.

We are all grown ladies.

Is it necessary for 15 of us to repeatedly call-out the same person?

My proposal is that when a troll enters we have 1-2 people do a call out, and close the thread. Meaning, we can either lock the thread, or not respond anymore.

If you would like, I'm glad to fashion a badge for this that we can use as a sign to others that this is indeed a troll.

I really wish we weren't losing people here. Especially not such experienced wonderful people. I hope these people can reconsider, as we will miss them very much.

I hope we can preserve the TTCAL I've always known.

I would hate to lose it.

CashewsMommy · May 2012

I was actually going to write a similar post before Wicked left. Because it seemed like we had 2 people who decided to leave and take others down with them.... it was a big "Fluck you, fluck you, you're cool, fluck you, i'm out" style of leaving.

I'm so glad Wicked left with class!! Shows a lot about her that she didn't do the same as the others who left before her.

If you're reading this Wicked, because I know how hard it might be to just quit TTCAL cold turkey.... many props to you! You left with style and class, just like the person I know you are.

jenn0021 · May 2012

CashewsMommy:

I was actually going to write a similar post before Wicked left. Because it seemed like we had 2 people who decided to leave and take others down with them.... it was a big "Fluck you, fluck you, you're cool, fluck you, i'm out" style of leaving.

I'm so glad Wicked left with class!! Shows a lot about her that she didn't do the same as the others who left before her.

If you're reading this Wicked, because I know how hard it might be to just quit TTCAL cold turkey.... many props to you! You left with style and class, just like the person I know you are.

I'm with you Cashews. Wicked left with style and that just shows how classy she really is. I hate that this is happening though.

lsuhoneybadger · May 2012

I hate that anyone at all feels they don't belong or are not wanted on this board, and it makes me so sad that great members are leaving because of that. Sad

ChloBub · May 2012

I'm still on vacation, so I haven't been posting, but I've taken the time to catch up. After seeing everything that happened, I have a true feeling of sadness. It doesn't feel like home, and since I've been away, that makes it really difficult to know how to jump back in.

I'll say this as an in-betweener. A lot of the beauty of this board is that everyone is different. I feel like I truly "know" many of you because we're not all blowing rainbow kisses at each other. Through the hundreds of posts I've participated in, personalities come out. Where some of you might see snark or meanness, I've grown to see fierce loyalty, humor, and sisterhood. It's not my personality to use a lot of snark; however, I can appreciate it when I see it because I've gotten to know the girls on this board. And I also know that the same ladies who use it are also some of the most loyal (see above) and supportive ones here, at least to me. And that's because we've taken the time to get to know each other, even if our personalities are different.

I can also appreciate those of you who are more stand-offish during conflict and avoid it, because that's your personality. I also know that some of you are more "fixers" and try to mend the situation by being positive, and that's okay, too, because that's your personality. We're all different, and I can see that. I like that about this board. Where it rubs me (and others) the wrong way is when someone shows aggression and/or defensiveness when we have no idea what her personality is because we don't know her, or when defensiveness/aggression comes from someone we thought we knew. It feels like an attack on the relationships and community we've built.

Like I said, I feel sad about what happened, and I hope we can find a balanced dynamic again soon. You ladies were so amazing leading up to and on my EDD on Saturday, and THAT is what this board is about. If you take the time to get to know the personalities and the culture of the board, you can appreciate and embrace the differences, even if everyone is not like you.

minicheezburg · May 2012

CashewsMommy:

I was actually going to write a similar post before Wicked left. Because it seemed like we had 2 people who decided to leave and take others down with them.... it was a big "Fluck you, fluck you, you're cool, fluck you, i'm out" style of leaving.

I'm so glad Wicked left with class!! Shows a lot about her that she didn't do the same as the others who left before her.

If you're reading this Wicked, because I know how hard it might be to just quit TTCAL cold turkey.... many props to you! You left with style and class, just like the person I know you are.

Amen sister!

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