Adoption

Former TTTCer's

I lurk from time to time on TTTC and SAIF to check on some of the girls I *know* from there. I never post on SAIF though and was just wondering if any of you do? Adoption does feel like SAIF for me but yet I don't feel like I belong over there, ya know? I'm not sure why either. I admit it though that sometimes it's too hard to see the belly siggies

Re: Former TTTCer's

  • I lurk very very occationally.  I think for me adoption definately is SAIF but in our personal journey, we decided that we wouldn't pursue anything that involved meds as I don't do well on hormonal prescriptions.  Therefore I didn't really feel like I fit on that board as so much of it was discussing things that I didn't understand or relate too.  I don't have trouble with the belly siggies anymore (although I used to), it just feels like another world that I made a conscious choice not to enter from the ART perspective, and the other thing is that all of those women are experiencing a pregnancy and while I am 'expecting a child' I'm not pregnant so to me, it doesn't hurt, it just feels irrelevant to my life.  Does that make sense?
  • I post on SAIF all the time.  I truly feel that we are a success story.  We took Ben to my RE's office and they said they didn't care if I got pregnant and had a baby with their help or if I adopted, as long as we had our beautiful baby.  The women there are so nice. 

    I still read the TTTC board too, but I don't post because I've got Ben's pictures in my siggy.

     Amy
     

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  • I can't go to either right now.  Maybe someday when we have a placement I will go to SAIF or SAPL, but right now I can't.
  • i use to visit T-TTC board, but quit because they really made me miserable, because they're all miserable. i was just talking to MrsB about it as well. i went over there out of pure boredom the other night and definitely won't be visiting again. i was reading a post that mention adoption and they are all so adamantly against it. a few even said "if God doesn't want me to get PG, then i wasn't meant to be a mother." i just don't like that attitude.
  • Once in a while I peek at the tttc board, but I agree that it's hard sometimes.  I used to post on it all the time. 

     I do go on the SAIF once in a while, but I haven't posted (yet.)  Maybe I will at some point. 

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  • I lurk on SAIF because I went through treatments with so many of them (21 cycles of trying, 17 weeks of pregnancy) that I want to see their happiness, even if it hurts a little.  I've only posted to a couple people (one lost her FIL tragically, and MayDayGirl, when she had her baby).

    I lurk on TTTC as well sometimes - much less frequently.

  • I am a huge lurker. It does not seem to bother me seeing the belly's. I tend to lurk on SAIF. I do not lurk on TTTC, those seem harder to read for me. Strange.

    I work from home so I spend wayyyyyy to much time lurking online. Big Smile

  • Hi I also lurk and occasionally post over on TTTC and SAIF but I have to be honest there are alot of downers over there and at this point in my journey I can't and won't have that attitude.  I love it over here because even though we all have a long journey ahead of us we tend to be very positive about it.  That is what I need now to help me through our journey!!!  PS I too work from home soooooooooooo  I am on way to much also hahahahaha
  • I did post when lrrb lost her fil. That was horrible. I really don't know anyone on tttc anymore. Most of the girls have moved to saif which is awesome and why I mostly lurk there. After 21 months ttc it was hard to move away from that board and mindset though!! I'm so glad to say that I feel so much more peace at this point!
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    i use to visit T-TTC board, but quit because they really made me miserable, because they're all miserable. i was just talking to MrsB about it as well. i went over there out of pure boredom the other night and definitely won't be visiting again. i was reading a post that mention adoption and they are all so adamantly against it. a few even said "if God doesn't want me to get PG, then i wasn't meant to be a mother." i just don't like that attitude.

     

    I know I am way late in responding, but I wanted you to know that this is not the way we all think... In fact, I am here because I am trying to find out more about adoption. We were incredibly lucky to have a child, but there is little chance (less than 1% naturally and little chance of IVF again) of another, and we would like to adopt another child. I hope my siggy is not offensive, but he really is a miracle to us, as any child would be, regardless of how they join our family.

    I will also say that all the boards have ebbs and flows and although there is a lot of heartbreak on tttc, anyone seeking adoption is totally considered SaIF to us! Success means having that family you yearn for, regardless of how you did it. 

    Robin

     

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