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Still waiting on period--anyone else dealt with this?

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Hi, everyone,

I just desperately need to hear some positive stories and get some reassurance that after a really trying and sad time that good things can happen. I'm hoping someone here has been through what I am dealing with and has come out the other side with a positive story they would be willing to share.  I had wanted to post this on the PGAL board, just to hear from some women that came through this with a healthy pregancy, but I'm concerned that this much MC talk might upset those ladies who are finally moving beyond their own terrible experience. Do you think this would be appropriate to post there as well?

WARNING: MC discussion ahead

I had a missed miscarriage a couple of months ago. The miscarriage happened early- around 6 weeks. I waited two and half weeks in hopes of miscarrying naturally, but ultimately had to have a manual vacuum aspiration on April 10. I've been processing all of this and it has been difficult, but I felt like I was turning a corner, putting all my hopes on trying again. Unfortunately, however, my period still has not arrived and I'm heading into my 8th week. They had told me to expect my period around 4-6 weeks, but to call if I hit 8 weeks (so, I will be calling them this coming week).

My cycle has always been like clockwork and being this late is causing me a lot of anxiety. I'm nearly 35 and I am scared to death that I just missed my chance. I've been hanging all my hopes on getting pregnant again, but every day my period doesn't come, I just feel more and more freaked out and sad. I'm also having hormonal symptoms--my therapist says if she did not know better that I was suffering from post-partum depression--I'm crying A LOT over everything.  But, I think the ongoing health concern is also making the miscarriage that much harder--I feel like I'm still looking for closure, that getting my period would be the milestone that made me feel like it was going to be ok. I was starting to turn the corner and feel "normal" again, but every day I am later and later, it just reopens the wounds of the miscarriage and the scary what-ifs.

I had some VERY light spotting right on time right after 4 weeks. VERY light, only saw a tinge on TP once or twice (TMI, sorry), but nothing since then. Ugh. I have my fingers crossed that something happens this week, but I am scared that it won't and scared what that means.

 Anyone else dealt with this or are dealing with this?

 Thanks for reading!

Mandy

 

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Re: Still waiting on period--anyone else dealt with this?

  • panacea05panacea05 member

    I'm very sorry for your loss--and that AF isn't cooperating. Sometimes, AF needs a jump start after a loss. Definitely call your doctor this week. He or she will most likely prescribe you something to get things going. Good luck, and welcome.

    Oh, and PgAL is open to questions about m/c, as far as I know; they like to share their stories because they've been in our shoes. 

    It was a rough road, but Arlo Daniel was born April 1, 2013—and our second rainbow is due October 12, 2014.
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  • raashtonraashton member

    I did deal with this.  I was very regular both on an off BCP, but m/c is a trauma that knocked my cycles crazy.  I m/c in August.  I had to do 2 rounds of medication (one in Nov, the other in Mar) to get my period.  My first non medicated cycle was the beginning of this month.  So what you are going through is not unheard and it relatively common (heartbreaking and frustrating, yes, but not abnormal)

    Call your doc at the 8 wk mark (I waited until 12ish weeks) just to touch base and get his recommendation.

    I am so sorry for your loss and if you plan on staying around (which I would suggest, offering and receiving support is a great healing tool.) take a look at the blog https://www.ttcalblog.blogspot.com/  it can answer so many questions.

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  • katharine25katharine25 member
    Cycles are almost never clockwork after a miscarriage. Many women here have experienced that. If you have had unprotected sex, you should take a home pregnancy test. If it's positive, call your dr. because you're pg. If is it's negative, call your doctor and ask for a provera prescription.
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  • Mom of two 2012Mom of two 2012
    I had ectopic/tube removal 2/29 and still waiting for AF. Tonight is my last pill of my provera prescription so hopefully she will rear her ugly head in the next two weeks or back to the dr I go. Hopefully AF will cooperate with you.
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  • figgs0831figgs0831 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had a success story. I delivered my son in January and still haven't had AF. Provera didn't even work. Ended up having a D&C 3 months later. Now.... Still nothing. I meet with an RE next week to try a figure things out. It's scary.

     Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012

     After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows

    ((BFP 7/29/13))  ((EDD 4/12/14))  It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!

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