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I'm scared.....

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hey ladies... I don't post much but I'm just feeling extra stressed lately and feel I need to vent. My husband and I conceived very quickly in December after stopping BCP but I had my first loss in February of this year. May has been the first month that we are able to start trying again. I thought I was ready.. but my period is almost a week late and I'm scared to test... I want to be pregnant again so bad but just fearful of going through another loss.. I want a healthy baby.... ughhh do I keep waiting or just tough it out and take a test!??

Thanks for listening ladies...

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  • panacea05panacea05 member

    Oh, God. This really, really isn't the day for a post like this.

    If you think you may be pregnant, take a test. If it's positive, go directly to PgAl, and they'll welcome you with open arms. If it's negative, and you decide to stick around here, please be sure to read the blog before posting again. 

    Good luck to you. 

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  • delinodelino member
    imagePetraStonegirl:

    The fear of another loss is common to us all.

    Your period isn't necessarily late. There is no way to know unless you are charting your BBT. No amount of 'just like clockwork' and 'but I had EWCM' can alter this fact. If you do chart, and it is late, I'd suggest testing sooner rather than later so you can get proper early monitoring. If it isn't, there isn't anything to worry about.

    Either way, if you do test and you are pregnant, direct all further comments to PGAL. No offense, but we don't know you. If you aren't pregnant, please feel free to join us, but read through the blog thoroughly first. The link is in my siggy.

    Wow...that is some rainbow fart you laid there Petra.  I can smell it from here.

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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    The only way to get rid of that fear is to take a test and face it. If it is positive then head over to PgAL as no one is pregnant here. If it's not then please stay and get to know everyone. We can be a big support while going through this journey.

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    3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!

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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    It's completely normal to have long cycles after your loss.  It's also normal to be scared.  I would suggest that you take a test.  If it's positive, congrats, and good luck on PGAL.  If it's negative, I would suggest that you think about whether or not you're emotionally ready to TTC and have that discussion with DH.  Its okay to give yourself some time.  Testing is really all you can do at this point.
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  • cielos1980cielos1980
    imagencchnat:

    Take a test. If it's positive, move over to PgAL. If it's negative, keep taking tests until:

    1) you get a positive,

    2) AF shows

    3) it's been 60 days with neither in which case, you need to call your doctor.

    Also, if it's negative, like PP said, you need to seriously consider how scared you are now and whether or not you are truly ready to be trying again.

    I agree with this 100%  especially the part in bold.  I do wish you the best, and I hope that you are headed straight to PGAL, my advice would be to test ASAP, I know its difficult and scary, but if you think you really might be pregnant the sooner you can get your DR involved and taking care of you the better he can help you and your baby.  I know for several of us we have issues early on in pregnancies so we need all the medical help we can get as early as possible.  Good luck!

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  • minicheezburgminicheezburg member
    imagedelino:
    imagePetraStonegirl:

    The fear of another loss is common to us all.

    Your period isn't necessarily late. There is no way to know unless you are charting your BBT. No amount of 'just like clockwork' and 'but I had EWCM' can alter this fact. If you do chart, and it is late, I'd suggest testing sooner rather than later so you can get proper early monitoring. If it isn't, there isn't anything to worry about.

    Either way, if you do test and you are pregnant, direct all further comments to PGAL. No offense, but we don't know you. If you aren't pregnant, please feel free to join us, but read through the blog thoroughly first. The link is in my siggy.

    Wow...that is some rainbow fart you laid there Petra.  I can smell it from here.

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  • beachbum4304beachbum4304 member
    I agree with PP in hoping that you are headed toward PGAL. I also had a long cycle this time (I was two weeks late) but I have POAS-itis and wasted some money with HPTs. I'm attributing it to my cycles being wonky after a loss. But I wasn't scared. I was really wanting that BFP. Spend some time thinking/praying with your DH about TTC. It's ok to wait.

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