Possible single mom future...

snoangel79 · May 2012

Here is my post from April 12 please ladies give me your advice (my husband has been caught doing this crap over 25 times during our marriage sometimes with other products other than oil/butter... (he has also stolen medication from me in the past (my oxy from my c-section, and oxy from my gallbladder removal). I'm at the end of my rope here with this marriage and he doesn't seem to "want" to change. He drinks 5 days a week also (2-3 scotch a night), smokes cigs (left one of the cigs burning in our basement once till I smelled smoke coming up through the vents). I could go on and on... >:

Hi everyone:I'm at my final straw with my husband and need some advice. My husband looks at porn (not my issue). I came home today from work ,my husband was buzzed watching the kids alone, he also had jerked off at his desk while the kids were sleeping in front of him in the RNP. He uses olive oil and butter yes butter. I had a talk with him last week about this and told him to order some f'in astroglide and go up in our bedroom and jerk off in private... Well the astroglide hasn't arrived yet so this is what I came home to. He has done this many times over that I cannot count anymore, (oil and butter spattered on my walls)... This to me is absolutely disgusting and unacceptable (also considering I own this house). He's ruined furniture also. This first started happening the week we werre to be married... I'm at a point I cannot take this anymore, on top of this he owns guns and back in the day he mistakingly shot a hole in our house not realizing the gun was loaded... I feel like I'm living in a nightmare. He was slurring his words when I got home (Iwas going to make a nice dinner but instead I had to deal with this). Our son was sitting in his RNP with a bottle in his mouth and a blanket under it and he was completely soaked through shirt and bib. My husband was like "I burped him a 1/2 hour ago... We proceded to get in an arguement about this I went in the other room for a bit and he went and got ethan another bottle (told me he warmed it) it was ice cold... I had also put a bottle on my husband's desk that I found in my car under the seat (1 month old milk) he picked it up later and almost gave it to our son!!!

Please tell me I'm not crazy for thinking this stuff is beyond what anyone should deal with... I got to a point where I called his mom to have her come and get her "buzzed" crazy son. Well she bit$hed me out telling me I was crazy and I'm making her have physical stress and illness, she also told me if we divorce she will see the kids and they will be brought to her house! She also yelled at me and told me to stop telling my "Mom" our problems. Please help>: I didn't want this, seriously who the F would! But for my kids I'm at a point of selling my house (financially i cannot go it alone but if I sell this house I can get a smaller one and have a good amount of money left over ) and raising them myself... I can't have a husband and father who does this, I'm living in hell and so unhappy...

mamastich · May 2012

Kick this man out... the safety of you and children is the most important and Im sure quite a few ladies will be able to give you advice on that.

As far the sexual issues.. in my eyes those always escalate and his sounds pretty odd (im sure everyone has some weird thing but thats disgusting)

Get out and find a happier place. It is possible.

PaigeAndMarkA · May 2012

I personally would kick him out, I would move on and find happiness within myself, my children, a new home and a new start to life. He sounds dangerous and perverted. Masturbating is normal because, it helps stimulate and calm the body but, that kind of masturbating is NOT OK. To be doing that in front of your kids, with your products, ruining furniture and not caring for the children on an adult level because he has a *** in his hand... not ok.

I would have called his mom also, she obviously is in SERIOUS denial yelling at you because, her son is a lowlife mutt.

Like I said, I would kick him out, get a new house and raise the little ones on your own. You can do much better and having a man in your home who refuses to help properly, masturbates in front of your children with household or personal products, shoots holes in walls "accidently" and is drunk watching the kids.... pathetic and needs to be kicked out. Seriously.

I wish you the best of luck and I am sorry that you have gone through this.

FyreFlyeRush · May 2012

In the words of 'N Synch, "Baby, bye bye bye!"

PrincessFiona9 · June 2012

You definitely need to get rid of him. What a loser.

FWIW I've been through almost the same thing so I'm not just blowing smoke. You will be so much happier, and most importantly the babies will be so much safer.

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