Thank you notes
daisy662
member
Hello!
My shower is in about 3 weeks and out of town in my home town (1300 miles away - I am flying to it). I have already received several gifts that my guests have had shipped to me from off of my registry. How do I handle thank you's? I was thinking I would send one now - thanking them for the gift and indicating I am excited to see them at the shower, and then sending another thank you note after the shower, thanking them for attending. I also planned to print out pics off the BRU website of the gifts that were bought to acknowledge and thank them and pass around at the shower. Is this appropriate? Am I doing it wrong - should I do more/less/something completely different?
Not sure if it matters, but none of the gifts (so far) were wrapped or anything, so I did not actually "open" anything... It was obvious what they were (i.e. stroller box sitting on my front porch).
Thanks so much for your help!
Re: Thank you notes
I would just send out a thank you note once, after the shower. The thank you note can thank the person for the gift and for attending the shower.
I don't think you need to pass around pics of gifts you have received. As a guest I wouldn't be interested and it would just add extra time to the gift opening process which is already long enough. Just make sure you individually acknowledge the person at the shower during your coversation with them and let them know you received the gift. Besides I know when I mail gifts ahead of time for out of towners, I generally put a pic of the gift in the card.
All good points - thanks for the response! I am actually thinking that there won't be many gifts to open - seems everyone is sending them to me - that is why I was thinking about the pics. Not to mention, there will only be about 20- 25 people at the shower. Does that make a difference in your opinion? Usually, I am right there with you - the long drawn out gift opening is boring...
This exactly. Send a thank you as you get the gift, even though you're pretty sure it's tied to the shower. I'd open all gifts that came early, even if they were wrapped - why not? The alternative is to bring them with you and open them there (defeating the point of them shipping the gift) OR opening them after the shower (which means you wouldn't be able to talk to the giver about the gift and thank them in person if you want to). Not good.
No need to do a "thank you for coming to my shower" thank you card - you can say that verbally. You do send a thank you for gifts, no matter when you received them.