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BiscuitEater21
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Feeling a little lost in life :/
BiscuitEater21
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Not sure why I feel this way exactly. I mean I have all these things I'm doing and trying to do to get the life I want for myself and for LO but it's so hard. And it isn't getting any easier..
Like last night, I was exhausted and pissed the eff off all day yesterday because I hardly got any sleep the night before. So my fiance tried to take care of LO for a few hours so I could get some sleep. NOT HAPPENING. LO bawled and bawled and acted like he was in pain, his face got bright red and everything. Then finally I got tired of listening to him (because how am I going to sleep through it?!) and had fiance give him to me... he slowed down and stopped crying almost as soon as I got a hold of him!
I think he's going to be a mama's boy which is great and all, but I can't be there for him all day everyday.
What am I going to do? Just keep moving forward and thinking positively, DESPITE what some people might say. That's what I've been reminding myself since this morning when LO woke up...but it sure is easier said than done.
Sorry, I guess I'm just venting.
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Re: Feeling a little lost in life :/
How old is your LO? Hang in there, it gets better. I had a hard time with DD1 and my husband and I seemed to fight for the first few months since we were so sleep deprived and stressed. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, it is amazing how much is affects your life in other ways.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Don't worry about getting things done during the day, sleep is more important. Nap when the baby naps as best as you can. You will feel better and be better prepared to deal with having a new baby and face the day.
Do you have any family or friends who could help you out? I was so reluctant to have anyone watch my daughter since I felt like it was my job to take care of her and soothe her and no one could do it as well as me. Have someone help you and take the baby for a walk or watch the baby while you take a nap. Don't feel like you need to always be the one who does it all, you will just resent your fiance more. Allow him to help and maybe suggest he take him for a walk or a drive, get out of the house if you need quiet to rest. Get a yoga ball and have him bounce up and down with the baby, that instantly worked for us.
Do you have a swing? If so, put the baby in it and either have your fiance watch him or put it in an area where you can lay down nearby on a couch or something.
It's funny, I was miserable the first few months and everything seemed hopeless and permanent, but now that I have DD2, I am actually enjoying the newborn stage since I know it will soon come to an end.
hang in there
I have a "mama's boy" too. He is 10 weeks and it's definitely getting easier
If you think you may have a touch of PPD maybe talk to your doctor... and I agree with the other post that said to let your fianc? help if possible, in fact, get all the help you can get. It takes a village. 
xo
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
All of this is great advice (: I will definitely remember it...
Only problem is that sometimes my insomnia really kicks in and I have no choice in the matter
I am however, getting all the help I can! My grandparent's are taking LO overnight on Wednesday!!
My grandma also told me to bring extra food for him in case she wants to keep him longer *fingers crossed* (:
LO is 6 weeks 2 days old btw
Thank you (: I have suffered from insomnia since before I can remember (I'm talking like 6-years-old!) and it has actually only acted up from time to time since LO was born! So maybe he was a partial cure lol but I don't think I am dealing with PPD, thank goodness. And yes, I am taking all the help I can get (: I can't wait for my grandma to take him on Wednesday!!
I'm not going to lie, you are probably right about me needing someone to talk to! The only girlfriend I get to talk to is my friend through my fiance and I can't talk to her about everything.... And thank you, I think it will get easier (: