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sparks2987 · May 2012

ready its friday, lets hear it!

preggersINschool25 · May 2012

I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.

noryang · May 2012

preggersINschool25:
I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.

Nope. We certainly did not. Anyone who is in her life and cares for her will learn her name in two seconds. I don't care if the baristas as Starbucks can't get it right and we will raise her not to care either. Oh hell - my first name is April and people misspell and misspronounce that all of the time (don't ask me how). My daughter's name is beautiful, has a special meaning to us AND she won't be one of five in her class. I think we gave her a real gift when we named her.

noryang · May 2012

I don't have time to give the lengthy backstory at this moment but we are seeing a pediatric plastic surgeon today for a consultation on a cosmetic procedure for DD. my heart is breaking and I have no idea what the right thing to do is. This is where parenting gets tough, ladies. I will update in a separate post once we return from the apt.

btartaroind · May 2012

noryang:
preggersINschool25:
I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.
Nope. We certainly did not. Anyone who is in her life and cares for her will learn her name in two seconds. I don't care if the baristas as Starbucks can't get it right and we will raise her not to care either. Oh hell - my first name is April and people misspell and misspronounce that all of the time (don't ask me how). My daughter's name is beautiful, has a special meaning to us AND she won't be one of five in her class. I think we gave her a real gift when we named her.

Just curious, is Eowyn pronounced YOU-in? That's how I read it, but I would actually like to know

My confession is that my DH's MIL is in the hospital, again, (she has spent 90% of the last 6 months in the hospital or rehab for various breathing, obesity, heart related issues). I feel super guilty for not wanting to drive 2.5 hours to go see her on Sunday for just a few hours, but I really DON'T WANT to. DS will be screaming in the car the whole time and I am really not comfortable bringing him into a rehab facility where there are sick people. So my choice is:

1. Bring him, risk getting him sick and having him cry the whole day, but make MIL in law happy (she is SUPER depressed and her son/grandson is the only thing she cares about in this world

or

2. Not go, and feel a lot less stressed and not put DS in a bad situation, BUT feel guilty about denying DH's mom a chance to see her grandson when honestly I don't think she will alst another year.

Meganequine · May 2012

(NBR)

The penalities for drunk driving are not severe enough and at least in my experience they reduce the "stated" consequences. THEY DON'T LEARN IF THE CONSQUENCES AREN'T ENFORCED OR HARSH ENOUGH! I don't care if you only had a little, didn't cause an accident, the cop had it out for you, etc. There is no excuse for getting a 2nd DUI, much less a 3rd!

Edit (not me personally getting a DUI, but my BIL-- I could go on and on about it. . .)

lancyjo · May 2012

noryang:
preggersINschool25:
I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.
Nope. We certainly did not. Anyone who is in her life and cares for her will learn her name in two seconds. I don't care if the baristas as Starbucks can't get it right and we will raise her not to care either. Oh hell - my first name is April and people misspell and misspronounce that all of the time (don't ask me how). My daughter's name is beautiful, has a special meaning to us AND she won't be one of five in her class. I think we gave her a real gift when we named her.

I'm going to agree with BOTH of you. Preggers, there are some names that are ridiculous, I agree, and those names do their children a disservice. Making up a name isn't usually in the best interest of a child. That said, my name isn't in the top 1000, but it's a real name, and I love it. Nory, your daughter's name is not one of those. It's a real name, uncommon yes, but real. I, personally, think the fact that it's so unique makes it beautiful.

A "different" name can be a gift to a child... it's just the ones that take it too far (thinking clearly made-up names) that are doing their kids a disservice.

katied022 · May 2012

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

preggersINschool25 · May 2012

noryang:
preggersINschool25:
I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.
Nope. We certainly did not. Anyone who is in her life and cares for her will learn her name in two seconds. I don't care if the baristas as Starbucks can't get it right and we will raise her not to care either. Oh hell - my first name is April and people misspell and misspronounce that all of the time (don't ask me how). My daughter's name is beautiful, has a special meaning to us AND she won't be one of five in her class. I think we gave her a real gift when we named her.

I thought that this is the Flame Free Friday Comment thread?

I googled "Eowyn"and a bunch Lord of the Rings things came up. Never saw that movie, so I don't know how significant that character is, but is that what the special meaning is about?

ssm250 · May 2012

My mom has been watching DD while I started work since last Wednesday. She's leaving today. I can't wait for my mom to leave.

She can't put my baby down for naps and she's over tired every night. Last night my super calm, happy, puts-herself-to-sleep baby screamed for 20 minutes when I was trying to put her to bed.

Here's hoping Grandma 2 (who is overall more confident and capable) does a better job getting Claire to go down and stay down. Jesus.

lancyjo · May 2012

I'm freaking sick of everyone telling me how awful it is that I have to work, how much I'm going to miss, etc. Seriously people, I know this. It was bad planning on my part. (I never realized I'd so badly want to stay home!) But I want them to shut it, because:

1. It makes my husband feel horrible that he can't let me be a SAHM. It's not his fault that I didn't set up our finances to where I could stay home. (I control our budget) He makes excellent money, but we made financial commitments based on being a two-income family, so I have to work to honor those commitments. I hate when people say things about how awful it is, because it makes him feel inadequate as a husband and father which couldn't be farther from the truth.

2. Telling me how awful it is only makes it worse. Do they think I don't know how hard it is to be away from her so much? Do they think I enjoy this empty ache in my chest that I have the entire time I'm away from her?

3. They make me feel like a bad mother. I'm working because I have to in order to do what's best for my child, so that should give me some "good mother" credit, right? Wrong... they just talk about how awful it is that I have to work. I freaking get it, alright?

Shut up already, you negative jerks. How about telling me that it'll be ok... Aria won't be emotionally damaged by me working... that I'm being a strong, good mother by doing what I have to in order to provide for my family... that instead of praying that I "find a way to stay at home" (which won't happen... it just won't) you'll pray that I "find peace and strength and enjoy every spare minute I get with Aria." Just get off your "I stayed home with my kids until they started school, and this is the only way you'll raise secure, happy kids" soapbox already, and support me. Don't pity me.

slv0606 · May 2012

katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

wow I am really surprised that your SIL's OBGYN would allow her to have elective c-sections let alone get insurance to cover that...

noryang · May 2012

btartaroind:

[Just curious, is Eowyn pronounced YOU-in? That's how I read it, but I would actually like to know

It is pronounced A-oh-win. It has Celtic roots.

liberty95 · May 2012

We let DS have a blanket in the crib/PnP. He likes to smush it up around it face and twiddle it between his fingers while he falls asleep. We take it away once he is asleep and keep a close eye on him until then so we don't feel like its a big deal. However, the "No Blankets" is so strictly reinforced that I always feel like Big Brother knows and someone is going to swoop in and say we are unfit parents.

(Please don't think we are unfit. I promise he is perfectly safe and not left unattended. )

noryang · May 2012

lancyjo:

Nory, your daughter's name is not one of those. It's a real name, uncommon yes, but real. I, personally, think the fact that it's so unique makes it beautiful.

Thank you very much. DH heard it and that was it for him. He just loved it so much We are used to people being surprised by it and don't by any means need everyone to love it. To each their own - right?

noryang · May 2012

katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

My step-sister had an elective c-section early too. Because she had a job interview!!! Angry Now her son spends weeks at a time with her in-laws while she is off on business trips. Honestly! Why did she bother??

katied022 · May 2012

Her doctor did not want to do it, but some how ended up doing it anyway at the last minute. I have no idea about the insurance thing.

mkarns · May 2012

I want to get drunk. Not hammered, staggering drunk...But uninhibited drinking. No drinking for 9 months while pregnant, had my first glass of wine when Colt was about 9 weeks old. Now I'll have a drink or two here and there...But it's Memorial Day weekend. I would love to go to a cookout and be able to booze with the rest of them, but I EBF and Colt won't take the bottle from me so *sigh*, one drink limit for me.

Lawren · May 2012

DH packed my pump this morning and I specifically asked him if he put the little white flaps back on the flanges. I get to work, hook up the pump AND he forgot them. My boobs are going to explode by the time I leave. We carpool to work so I can't even leave to go get them. I swear I could pecker punch him when I see him!

noryang · May 2012

preggersINschool25:

I thought that this is the Flame Free Friday Comment thread?

I didn't flame you. I was perfectly polite. Did you honestly think that you weren't going to ruffle some feathers with that post? But again - I didn't flame you. You shared your opinion and I shared mine.

I googled "Eowyn"and a bunch Lord of the Rings things came up. Never saw that movie, so I don't know how significant that character is, but is that what the special meaning is about?

First, the name has Celtic roots which is significant because of my family's ancestry.

It was also used for a minor character in the books. (Let's please remember that Tolkien's series is generally considered classic works of literature.) The character, in my opinion, is fantastic. She was both a diplomat and a warrior. In the story, she fought for her people and saved them. Much of the character Eowyn's story was cut out of the movie. H and I think it is wonderful to give our daughter a name after a character who was both loving, strong and could kick a little bootie. That is definitely who we want her to be as she grows up.

Lawren · May 2012

mkarns:
I want to get drunk. Not hammered, staggering drunk...But uninhibited drinking. No drinking for 9 months while pregnant, had my first glass of wine when Colt was about 9 weeks old. Now I'll have a drink or two here and there...But it's Memorial Day weekend. I would love to go to a cookout and be able to booze with the rest of them.

I feel the same way. I have a glass or two of wine every now and then, but I'm ready to get my drank on

noryang · May 2012

Meganequine:

(NBR)

The penalities for drunk driving are not severe enough and at least in my experience they reduce the "stated" consequences. THEY DON'T LEARN IF THE CONSQUENCES AREN'T ENFORCED OR HARSH ENOUGH! I don't care if you only had a little, didn't cause an accident, the cop had it out for you, etc. There is no excuse for getting a 2nd DUI, much less a 3rd!

Edit (not me personally getting a DUI, but my BIL-- I could go on and on about it. . .)

I agree but just want to offer this. Not as a point of arguement but as food for thought. Anyone getting multiple DUIs likely has a serious substance abuse problem. They need help, first and foremost. It is a disease for which there is treatment but no cure. Punishment does not resolve the underlying problem.

mkarns · May 2012

Lawren:
DH packed my pump this morning and I specifically asked him if he put the little white flaps back on the flanges. I get to work, hook up the pump AND he forgot them. My boobs are going to explode by the time I leave. We carpool to work so I can't even leave to go get them. I swear I could pecker punch him when I see him!

Ohhh shizz. I would die. Honestly...There is no way I'd be able to stay. I think my boobs really would explode. DH packs my pump parts too and he forgot a part to ONE of my flanges before. That made pumping a hassle that day. But not being able to pump at all is AWFUL! I feel for ya.

katied022 · May 2012

noryang:
katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

My step-sister had an elective c-section early too. Because she had a job interview!!! Now her son spends weeks at a time with her in-laws while she is off on business trips. Honestly! Why did she bother??

I wonder the same thing about my SIL. Right now their son spends every night with my ILs because he doesn't like his sister and they don't want to interupt his life too much. Then when they go anywhere is is always yelling at BIL to do everything for the kids and she does nothing but sit in the chair and act like she is so awesome. Ugh!!!

jmccall79 · May 2012

lancyjo:

I'm freaking sick of everyone telling me how awful it is that I have to work, how much I'm going to miss, etc. Seriously people, I know this. It was bad planning on my part. (I never realized I'd so badly want to stay home!) But I want them to shut it, because:

1. It makes my husband feel horrible that he can't let me be a SAHM. It's not his fault that I didn't set up our finances to where I could stay home. (I control our budget) He makes excellent money, but we made financial commitments based on being a two-income family, so I have to work to honor those commitments. I hate when people say things about how awful it is, because it makes him feel inadequate as a husband and father which couldn't be farther from the truth.

2. Telling me how awful it is only makes it worse. Do they think I don't know how hard it is to be away from her so much? Do they think I enjoy this empty ache in my chest that I have the entire time I'm away from her?

3. They make me feel like a bad mother. I'm working because I have to in order to do what's best for my child, so that should give me some "good mother" credit, right? Wrong... they just talk about how awful it is that I have to work. I freaking get it, alright?

Shut up already, you negative jerks. How about telling me that it'll be ok... Aria won't be emotionally damaged by me working... that I'm being a strong, good mother by doing what I have to in order to provide for my family... that instead of praying that I "find a way to stay at home" (which won't happen... it just won't) you'll pray that I "find peace and strength and enjoy every spare minute I get with Aria." Just get off your "I stayed home with my kids until they started school, and this is the only way you'll raise secure, happy kids" soapbox already, and support me. Don't pity me.

RIGHT THERE WITH YOU...

And if I hear, "Oh, I bet it was hard leaving him." No DUMB A$$, it feels wonderful leaving my son every morning while I cart off to work...leaving him for 10 hours a day is the greatest feeling in the world! WTH! Why don't they rub it in a little more

Meganequine · May 2012

noryang:
Meganequine:

(NBR)

The penalities for drunk driving are not severe enough and at least in my experience they reduce the "stated" consequences. THEY DON'T LEARN IF THE CONSQUENCES AREN'T ENFORCED OR HARSH ENOUGH! I don't care if you only had a little, didn't cause an accident, the cop had it out for you, etc. There is no excuse for getting a 2nd DUI, much less a 3rd!

Edit (not me personally getting a DUI, but my BIL-- I could go on and on about it. . .)

I agree but just want to offer this. Not as a point of arguement but as food for thought. Anyone getting multiple DUIs likely has a serious substance abuse problem. They need help, first and foremost. It is a disease for which there is treatment but no cure. Punishment does not resolve the underlying problem.

I totally with you! That being said, most of them don't recognize that they have a problem- my BIL has done the required alcohol classes and it didn't seem to make a difference. Now he's doing a year program with no drinking. However he (and his family) don't see his drinking as an issue, just the driving part. . . . in their eyes to be an alcoholic you have to be getting drunk everyday and have it affect your work/job. . .

Lizg1799 · May 2012

noryang:
preggersINschool25:
I'm all for naming your baby something that is not common, but the people who name their children something that is not even on the top 1000 and when you see the name you aren't sure how to even pronounce it - I think are doing a real disservice to their child.
Nope. We certainly did not. Anyone who is in her life and cares for her will learn her name in two seconds. I don't care if the baristas as Starbucks can't get it right and we will raise her not to care either. Oh hell - my first name is April and people misspell and misspronounce that all of the time (don't ask me how). My daughter's name is beautiful, has a special meaning to us AND she won't be one of five in her class. I think we gave her a real gift when we named her.

I think her name is awesome! Truly awesome! Not to mention, since she will be living all over the world with her parents...she was destined for a cool name!

FWIW, my LO's middle name is after my husbands favorite musician, Thom Yorke of Radiohead. So we are obviously in the "to each their own" camp.

Noryang...my DH is so super jealous of you and your husband. He is an attorney but his dream job is to be a FSO. He has passed the test twice but never made it past the essay round. I secretly breathe a sigh of relief every year he doesn't go onto the next round because I don't know how I could deal with the travel. But I would love for Elliott to be exposed to what Eowyn will be exposed to. What a great gift to give your child!

Lawren · May 2012

mkarns:
Lawren:
DH packed my pump this morning and I specifically asked him if he put the little white flaps back on the flanges. I get to work, hook up the pump AND he forgot them. My boobs are going to explode by the time I leave. We carpool to work so I can't even leave to go get them. I swear I could pecker punch him when I see him!

Ohhh shizz. I would die. Honestly...There is no way I'd be able to stay. I think my boobs really would explode. DH packs my pump parts too and he forgot a part to ONE of my flanges before. That made pumping a hassle that day. But not being able to pump at all is AWFUL! I feel for ya.

Good news He left work and brought them to me. I can never stay mad at him.

slv0606 · May 2012

I am getting a pedicure while I bump this on my "extended" lunch break and I'm not telling anyone! I am in heaven!

kittyh8r · May 2012

katied022:
I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

Ugh! My cousin begged to be induced one week before her due date. She wasn't dilated or anything. FAILED INDUCTION. She went back a week later (on her due date) ANOTHER FAILED INDUCTION. She went back a couple days later, ANOTHER FAILED INDUCTION. She had a c-section. It made me so crazy. Also, it makes me a bit crazy when people don't research pregnancy before they start trying to have a baby. I have a sister inlaw who thought prenatal were a drug used during labor...so guess who hasn't been taking them for the first 6 months of pregnancy...wth?

songstress503 · May 2012

sort of NBR:

Even almost a year later, I am still suspicious that DH's cousin's GF got pregnant the only time they slept together after they broke up (on another note, who does that?). It just seems to convenient. But ateast looking at the baby, you can tell he is definitly her father, no funny business there, thankfully.

katied022 · May 2012

Meganequine:
noryang:
Meganequine:

(NBR)

The penalities for drunk driving are not severe enough and at least in my experience they reduce the "stated" consequences. THEY DON'T LEARN IF THE CONSQUENCES AREN'T ENFORCED OR HARSH ENOUGH! I don't care if you only had a little, didn't cause an accident, the cop had it out for you, etc. There is no excuse for getting a 2nd DUI, much less a 3rd!

Edit (not me personally getting a DUI, but my BIL-- I could go on and on about it. . .)

I agree but just want to offer this. Not as a point of arguement but as food for thought. Anyone getting multiple DUIs likely has a serious substance abuse problem. They need help, first and foremost. It is a disease for which there is treatment but no cure. Punishment does not resolve the underlying problem.

I totally with you! That being said, most of them don't recognize that they have a problem- my BIL has done the required alcohol classes and it didn't seem to make a difference. Now he's doing a year program with no drinking. However he (and his family) don't see his drinking as an issue, just the driving part. . . . in their eyes to be an alcoholic you have to be getting drunk everyday and have it affect your work/job. . .

I agree with you ladies. I think the punishment should be more and that no it isn't going to make them stop, but it may make them think about it more. My father is an alcoholic and has been in jail for DUIs. He was sober for 6 months and the day the ankle bracelet came off he went to the gas station (walked because he still doesn't have a drivers license) and got a case of beer. His family doesn't think he has a problem either. There isn't really anything anyone can do until they realize it themselves and want to fix it. Alcoholism is a terrible disease. I feel for all of those that have to watch their loved ones suffer from it.

katied022 · May 2012

EmmaBoBemma:
katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

Ugh! My cousin begged to be induced one week before her due date. She wasn't dilated or anything. FAILED INDUCTION. She went back a week later (on her due date) ANOTHER FAILED INDUCTION. She went back a couple days later, ANOTHER FAILED INDUCTION. She had a c-section. It made me so crazy. Also, it makes me a bit crazy when people don't research pregnancy before they start trying to have a baby. I have a sister inlaw who thought prenatal were a drug used during labor...so guess who hasn't been taking them for the first 6 months of pregnancy...wth?

Oh wow! People really do need to think LONG and HARD before having babies. I was 17 years old when I had my son. Yes, I did not plan it. But if I do say so myself I work a whole lot harder at being a good mom and making the right decisions for my kids than my SIL. She planned and tried to have both of hers. She is always saying that she wants to have the most opportunities for her kids. However she won't put her son in sports nor will she be sending him to school yet because she isn't ready for him to grow up.

sparks2987 · May 2012

1.I also want to have some drinks!!! BUT I dont have a babysitter, since we exhaust all of our baby sitting options while I work and I couldnt drink while knowing I have to care for LO, it has been a year since I have had a drink

2.I hate when people look at my baby (or any baby) as an inconvience or a crutch as to why I cant do something. Having her is a blessing not a curse and I can do anything and everything I did prior to her, just in a different way.

3. I HATE when people ask how much LO weighs and tell me they gave birth to a baby that big, okay I get it you had a big baby...but mine is small and weight is a touchy subject for me, so please dont rub it in my face that your baby was born bigger than my baby is at 3 months.

hpharding · May 2012

I am tired of people telling me I have a big baby. Grey weighs 14 pounds and is 24" that's not big. Go away before I slap you!

firewife9278 · May 2012

noryang:
katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

My step-sister had an elective c-section early too. Because she had a job interview!!! Now her son spends weeks at a time with her in-laws while she is off on business trips. Honestly! Why did she bother??

I had an elective c-section at 39w1d, and I chose the date based on DH's work schedule at the fire dept. My insurance covered it, but I do have a medical condition that prevents vaginal delivery. Not sure if it would be the same for her, but maybe it would?? Also, my OB wouldn't let me schedule it any earlier than 39 weeks...that surprises me that she was able to go at 38w.

Lena122 · May 2012

katied022:
I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

Do you think it's only those 2 factors that may have contributed to their learning disabilities? Because if so I think you're way off. Many babies are born early and aren't breasted and don't have learning disabilities. Now if she's done other things since their birth then that's another story.

jldubb0626 · May 2012

I love my SIL - she's a great person and a wonderful mother. But I'm seriously side-eyeing her now that she is pregnant with #4, due in December, when baby #3 was born 2 weeks after my son was born. Her DS #3 isn't even 4 months old yet. I know she has 3 boys and really wants a girl, but I feel bad for her DS that was just born since I know she wouldn't have gotten pregnant right away, or ever again, if her DS #3 had been a girl. Like, he wasn't the right sex and now he doesn't matter, moving on to the next. I have no problems with kids being close in age or big families for that matter, but I can't help but feel irritated that since she wants a girl so bad, she'd be willing to try again to quickly. I just don't think that's the right motive for having kids.

noryang · May 2012

firewife9278:
noryang:
katied022:

I blame my SIL for her kids possibly having learning disabilities because she had both of them by elective c-section 2 weeks before her due date because she didn't to feel any contractions and then she didn't try to BF because she didn't want to inconvenience her life. However when she was pregnant she did EVERYTHING by the book. Oh it bothers me SOO much! I feel bad for my niece, nephew, and BIL.

My step-sister had an elective c-section early too. Because she had a job interview!!! Now her son spends weeks at a time with her in-laws while she is off on business trips. Honestly! Why did she bother??

I had an elective c-section at 39w1d, and I chose the date based on DH's work schedule at the fire dept. My insurance covered it, but I do have a medical condition that prevents vaginal delivery. Not sure if it would be the same for her, but maybe it would?? Also, my OB wouldn't let me schedule it any earlier than 39 weeks...that surprises me that she was able to go at 38w.

It was entirely because of the job interview - at least this is what I was told. Medical conditions get no side eye from me. Convience c-sections sure do.

PALGal · May 2012

My son sleeps with a blanket around his hips and legs. I didn't realize this was a problem so now I feel dumb an guilty. Guess he will get a sleep sack from now on...

SrhA1984 · May 2012

sparks2987:

1.I also want to have some drinks!!! BUT I dont have a babysitter, since we exhaust all of our baby sitting options while I work and I couldnt drink while knowing I have to care for LO, it has been a year since I have had a drink

2.I hate when people look at my baby (or any baby) as an inconvience or a crutch as to why I cant do something. Having her is a blessing not a curse and I can do anything and everything I did prior to her, just in a different way.

3. I HATE when people ask how much LO weighs and tell me they gave birth to a baby that big, okay I get it you had a big baby...but mine is small and weight is a touchy subject for me, so please dont rub it in my face that your baby was born bigger than my baby is at 3 months.

I totally agree with this, Ava does not even weigh 11.5 lbs yet and she will be 4 months old next Friday. We have been to the doctor multiple times and she is perfectly healthy, just a peanut!

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