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New CIO research

kristin172429kristin172429 member
in February 2012 Moms

I read this and wanted to share: Babies left to cry feel stressed, research says

The research is an isolated study without long-term effects, so take that for what it's worth. I did find it interesting that it seems like the child just learns how not to cry.  It seems like they aren't really calming or soothing themselves to sleep. They are just as physiologically stressed when they are quiet as when they are crying.

**I want to add that this is not meant to be a judgment of those who want to use CIO or those who don't. I just wanted to share the information. I know what I feel is right for us, as you know what feels right for you!**

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Re: New CIO research

  • Lena122Lena122 member
    This is one of the main reasons I want to avoid CIO. Obviously if DS is crying he's upset and stressed (as am I) but I know that when he stops crying it doesn't necessarily mean all is right with the world again.
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  • liberty95liberty95 member
    Interesting.  I agree, not passing and judgment on CIO, but this study does shed some (albeit limited) light on another perspective of the cry it out technique. 
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  • Lizg1799Lizg1799 member
    Just out of curiosity, how would those opposed to CIO recommend that we teach our LOs to fall asleep on their own?  Currently my DS has to be asleep in order to be put down.  I would love to not do CIO but I have no idea how to teach him to fall asleep on his own.  I don't even particularly mind rocking him to sleep but I have found that when he wakes he can't put himself back to sleep on his own since he is so used to use helping him.  Do you think the older he gets, it's a skill he will learn?  
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    imageLizg1799:
    Just out of curiosity, how would those opposed to CIO recommend that we teach our LOs to fall asleep on their own?  Currently my DS has to be asleep in order to be put down.  I would love to not do CIO but I have no idea how to teach him to fall asleep on his own.  I don't even particularly mind rocking him to sleep but I have found that when he wakes he can't put himself back to sleep on his own since he is so used to use helping him.  Do you think the older he gets, it's a skill he will learn?  

     

    This.  I always thought I was opposed to CIO but now I have a baby that cries no matter what I do.  So, in essence no matter what... he will have to CIO. There are (many) times when he is so tired that I can't soothe him.  Whether I'm holding him and rocking him, laying him in his crib and rubbing his belly or lying down next to him he screams so... I have no choice but to let him CIO even if I'm attempting to soothe him at the same time. :( 

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  • aglennaglenn member

    imageLizg1799:
    Just out of curiosity, how would those opposed to CIO recommend that we teach our LOs to fall asleep on their own?  Currently my DS has to be asleep in order to be put down.  I would love to not do CIO but I have no idea how to teach him to fall asleep on his own.  I don't even particularly mind rocking him to sleep but I have found that when he wakes he can't put himself back to sleep on his own since he is so used to use helping him.  Do you think the older he gets, it's a skill he will learn?  

    Yes, it is a developmental skill that they learn when they are ready.  That can take a long time....but like the article points out, teaching them not to cry does not equal teaching them to self-soothe.  

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  • btartaroindbtartaroind member

    Interesting. I only pick up DS when he has the "I'm screaming, red face, and will not stop probably ever" cry. He has like ten cries and that's the only one I react to if he's in bed. The other ones he has learned to soothe himself, but when he cries like that I know he really needs me for something.

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  • MollySmMollySm member
    imageaglenn:

    imageLizg1799:
    Just out of curiosity, how would those opposed to CIO recommend that we teach our LOs to fall asleep on their own?  Currently my DS has to be asleep in order to be put down.  I would love to not do CIO but I have no idea how to teach him to fall asleep on his own.  I don't even particularly mind rocking him to sleep but I have found that when he wakes he can't put himself back to sleep on his own since he is so used to use helping him.  Do you think the older he gets, it's a skill he will learn?  

    Yes, it is a developmental skill that they learn when they are ready.  That can take a long time....but like the article points out, teaching them not to cry does not equal teaching them to self-soothe.  

    I don't think this is true.  Sure, some children are just good sleepers and can teach themselves, but I know many older children (4 - 9) who are still terrible sleepers.  Their parents never taught them the skills they needed.  I'm not saying CIO is necessarily the way to do that, but I don't think it's always just something that happens.  

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  • bluejaywaybluejayway member
    imageaglenn:

    imageLizg1799:
    Just out of curiosity, how would those opposed to CIO recommend that we teach our LOs to fall asleep on their own?  Currently my DS has to be asleep in order to be put down.  I would love to not do CIO but I have no idea how to teach him to fall asleep on his own.  I don't even particularly mind rocking him to sleep but I have found that when he wakes he can't put himself back to sleep on his own since he is so used to use helping him.  Do you think the older he gets, it's a skill he will learn?  

    Yes, it is a developmental skill that they learn when they are ready.  That can take a long time....but like the article points out, teaching them not to cry does not equal teaching them to self-soothe.  

     I have a 22-month-old DD. We always have rocked her. She used to need to be rocked after every waking, but eventually just learned how to fall back asleep on her own. I want to say around 10ish months? We read in her rocking chair, still, every night before bed, and rock until she's drowsy, then I lay her down and she is out for 10-12 hours. We never did CIO, won't with DD2, and I'm glad. The article just confirms what I knew in my gut. It's easy to get frustrated when they're little and just want to be on top of you all the time, but so worth it, I think. Dd1 was not an easy baby, but patience was key.

     

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