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June 2012 Moms
angelfire02
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XP: Multiples: Bittersweet Arrival of our Twins
angelfire02
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Our babies were due to arrive by scheduled c-section at 37 weeks on May 21st. I went in for a check on the 14th and my BP was 156/106 so they decided that was the day the babies were coming! My husband and mom came to the hospital and we were scheduled for a 4:00 c-section, right before we were going to go back we were bumped by an emergency so we just hung out until we got to go back at 6:30. My doctor couldn't stay for the later time so he handed us off to another doctor and said he was totally confident in her ability to deliver me because I had had no complications up to this point. We agreed that was fine and went with her. Baden Robert was born at 6:39pm weighing 5lbs 7oz and was 18 inches long, one minute later Nolan Charles was born weighing 5lbs 9oz and 17 inches long. Right after delivery I could tell that something wasn't going well, the doctor and the resident got very quiet and suddenly very busy. They started giving me a ton of medicine, I ended up getting 3 bags of Pitocin pushed through my IV, 6 injections into my thigh, capsules of something shoved in my bottom, and finally injections directly into my uterus. They couldn't get the bleeding to stop and my uterus wasn't contracting. They worked for over an hour, they brought my husband back in to be with me because it was taking so long and I was so scared. I was sick the entire time and they were having a hard time regulating my blood pressure and my pulse kept dropping. The babies were getting all checked out and even being delivered at 35w6d, neither had to go to the NICU. In the end the doctor had to do an emergency hystorectomy and I lost my uterus. I was shocked and crushed, this was my first pregnancy and I am only 28. I know, and I knew in the moment that it was a very serious situation and they wouldn't have taken it if they didn't have to. Working through all my emotions I have felt everything from extreme gratification to be here with my babies to intense anger at my doctor for leaving and not doing the delivery myself. My doctor came to talk to me two days later and was in tears over his decision to hand off my surgery, turns out he was home doing home improvements. I met another girl who was in the exact same situation the week before I came in and have reached out to her in hopes of finding someone who understands. I feel very alone and like it doesn't make sense why this had to happen. I know it's part of the grieving process, but I'm so sad about having the choice to have more children taken away from me. My husband has been wonderful and very supportive but I was the one that wanted more kids. We have talked about our other options to have children but right now just the financial aspect of all of it is too daunting, and our babies are only 9 days old. 
Anyway, I have learned so much on this board and have followed many stories so I wanted to share mine. For all of you who are still pregnant, please, enjoy it. I know it's so hard and by the end I was literally begging my doctor to take the babies out. Now I would give anything to have them back in, especially knowing I will never again have that feeling. So enjoy them in while you can because once they are out time starts going way too fast.
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Re: XP: Multiples: Bittersweet Arrival of our Twins
Congratulations on your healthy baby boys! I'm so glad they were able to avoid the NICU.
I am so sorry about the hysterectomy though. Just be happy for the two wonderful boys that you have right now and take things one day at a time. I hope that between you and the other lady in a similar situation are able to support each other though this.
*hugs* and congratulations. This sounds like such a difficult time for you - I cannot comprehend how mixed your emotions must be or even how you are coping.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is wonderful to hear that your boys are doing well and were able to avoid a NICU stay. As for your personal recovery - I hope that you are able to find the answers you need and most of all I hope you are able to find joy. You deserve it.
Please continue to keep us posted with how your recovery (both mental and physical) is going. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Oh my goodness! What a scary thing to have happen. I am so sorry that you had that experience and the option of having children in the future was taken away from you.
I'm glad to hear that both your boys are doing well though, and you were able to bring them home so quickly.
DS#1- 7/2002
DS#2- 6/2004
DS#3- 9/2007
Congratulations to you on the birth of your twins. I am so relieved and happy to hear that they arrived healthy.
I am so heartbroken to hear about what you have been through with your own health. I can't imagine how shocking and devastating it must've been to have all of that happen to you!! My only advice is that you let yourself grieve because you have, despite how much some may try to downplay it (and they will), you have lost something very personal and precious. It is my hope that you will allow yourself the time you need to work through your loss and come to terms with it on your own timeline and in your own way.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Congratulations on the safe arrival of your boys! That is great they did not have to go to the nicu!
I am so sorry you had to go through this horrible experience. I hope you are able to find support from the other woman in a similar situation. Best wishes to you and your family,
TTC #1 since 5/10
BFP #1 7/22/11 - EDD 4/2/11 - M/C 8/15/11 (7w0d)
BFP #2 9/23/11 - EDD 6/5/12 ♥It's a Girl♥
BFP #3 2/20/13 - EDD 11/2/13 ♥It's a Girl♥
Congratulations on the birth of your twins! Keeping you in my thoughts.
Agree 100%. This is a tragic loss and you have every right to feel sad, angry, confused, etc.
Congrats on the boys!
I agree as well and I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Congratulations on your healthy babies! Take good care of yourself!
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I can't imagine going through something so traumatic and what should be the happiest time of your life.
congrats on your healthy baby boys. Try your best to focus on boys for now/
best of luck to you and your family
Congratulations on the birth of your twins. I'm glad that they are doing well and did not need to go to the NICU.
I'm so very sorry for the experience you had to endure. I cannot even imagine how you must be feeling. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. *big hugs*
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Congrats on your two little boys!
DS - Born 6/17/12
DS#2 - Due 2/11/15
Double congrats on your lil' boys! That is amazing!
I am also so sorry to hear about the complications. I would be really upset too, and I hope that you can find peace and solace.
We are thinking of you and can't wait to see pictures of your lil ones!
I'm very sorry that you had a hysterectomy. That is extremely traumatic.
Congratulations on having your twins!
I hope that you are able to find a support system to help you.
Dont be overwhelmed by the adoption process. There are solutions. Give yourself time to grieve and love your babies. Then look into the options. Your definitely will want to talk to a counselor.
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