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Kaiterz
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3u3 Moms
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DH is already talking about #3 
While I'm open to #3, I'm not committing to a time frame while STILL COOKING #2! lol
The thought of 2u2 never scared me. I realize it will be challenging, some days more than others and so forth, but always felt doable. However, the thought of 3u3 is cause for pause. So I'm interested in the thoughts of those who have raised or are raising 3u3.
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Re: 3u3 Moms
haha, we are taking it one at a time, though we knew we would have at least 3.
I wont have 3 u 3, but under 3.5. We purposefully avoided less than 2 years this time since I wanted DS closer to being in pre k.
18 months apart was great, but i wasnt ready for 3 kids within 3 years. In 6 months a lot has changed with my kids and I think it will help me. ie: DS potty trained at 3 (glad we didnt have a baby then, he couldve regressed). DD is speaking great and communicating, and I weaned her from BFing at 14 months..I didnt want to BF while PG again. They play really well at this age and I hpe that works to my advantage.
GL
I am so glad to hear that all of your kids are low maintenance. DD is incredibly easy going and low maintenance and everyone is telling me that #2 will be the opposite.
Honestly I think it has a little to do with personality, and A LOT to do with parenting, but of course all of my friends with high maintenance kids won't let me take the credit for good parenting
. It's not easy to keep your cool sometimes, but taking extra steps (like making your child walk back to the car when they run ahead of the stroller, even when you are already running 15 minutes late) and thinking of the big picture helps me to the "right thing" MOST of the time.
I hate when people tell me "I don't have time for that" or "it doesn't matter right now, I'll deal with that bad behavior later" like it's going to get any better as they get older! ... now I've said too much!
My DH tried to talk me into it when I was pregnant as well (and shortly after the baby was born) and honestly I'm glad I didn't agree.
Having 2 kids close in age was a blast. I think it would have been far too hard to deal with another pregnancy (and infant) shortly after.
We're ttc now, so when the baby arrives (if we get pg right away) my oldest would be 38 months/youngest would be 25 months. Close enough in age where they could share common interests, but far enough apart that I got a break from pregnancy (both physically and mentally). I wanted them to be older so they could play together while I dealt with the end of pregnancy/the newborn phase.
If you don't feel ready to do another closely spaced pregnancy, that might be a nice compromise for DH.
I honestly won't know how I feel about it until we're at least in a groove w/ 2. I appreciate all the thoughts!
This is definitely the type of decision that needs to wait until you know what you've gotten yourself into.
When I was pg with #2, I thought I'd want a third at some point, and DH said he wanted to stop at two kids. Then when #2 arrived, I had no interest in a #3 and was really enjoying just having two kids, and DH grew fond of the idea of a #3. It took me some time to decide if I wanted a third, and whether to do it right away or give myself a break from being pg/BFing.