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Holding to much

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Is there such thing as holding your baby to much? I do want to hold him, but I want to make sure he is not getting the signs of if he cries then mommy will pick him up all the time.He is almost 4 weeks old. I know right now he can't self soothe himself.
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  • kmm2150kmm2150 member
    OMG no. Hold him all you want, and all he wants. Before you know it he will have much better things to do than be held by you, like rolling over and crawling and walking. You aren't going to "spoil" him.
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  • cecilyandgautamcecilyandgautam member

    The idea that holding a baby "spoils" them was made popular a few decades ago and wasn't based on any real science - any modern article or book would tell you to hold your baby plenty: it's good for their emotional development, your milk supply, and your relationship with your child.

    A lot of fads come & go with parenting and to me, it seems any "new" advice that tells you not to follow your natural instincts as a mother isn't worth listening to.  

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  • janamgjanamg member
    Our country is one that criticizes us for "spoiling" our children. In other countries they wear their children for along time and like 2years. Mommas even wear thier kids to work. Hold that baby as much as you and he want to. Before you know it he will be pushing you away. 
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  • pinkshades05pinkshades05 member

    imagejanamg:
    Our country is one that criticizes us for "spoiling" our children. In other countries they wear their children for along time and like 2years. Mommas even wear thier kids to work. Hold that baby as much as you and he want to. Before you know it he will be pushing you away. 

    So true! And when you look back on this time with your LO, think of what do you want to remember most--cuddling and cherishing these baby days or fighting with yourself to "not spoil" you baby? They are only babies once! Next they will be asking for our cars and going to college!


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  • treble_cleftreble_clef member

    My son LOVED to be held.  He was happy as long as I was holding him.  So I did. It was hard at that time because I have back problems, but I have no regrets.  Now that he is 5, he wouldn't let me hold him more than 5 seconds!!  

    Personally, I think it's important for my kids to know we are here for them.  If I were crying, I would want my husband to ask me if I was okay.  I would do the same for my kids.  

    m/c - Dec 2005, DS - March 27, 2007, m/c - Oct 2009, DD - Feb 20, 2012

    Proud mother of two breech babies:)

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