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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
sarahns80
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S/O do you drink in front of your kids?
sarahns80
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I almost always get a glass of wine or margarita or something when we go out to eat once a week. I might have a glass of wine or two one other day at home usually on the weekends. If we drive to dinner my DH doesn't drink anything and he drives (he's not a big drinker anyways). I sometimes wonder if I'm setting a bad example for DD now that she is older. One time she asked for a sip of my margarita not knowing what it was and I said "it's an adult drink". What do you do?
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Re: S/O do you drink in front of your kids?
I do not think it is setting a bad example to drink responsibly in front of your children. I think that is actually setting a good example. Now, if you are getting drunk and doing a strip tease on the table, or drinking and driving, then you are setting a bad example.
I do the same thing when DD asks for a sip of my drink, "No, that's just for grown ups."
I have a glass of wine and beer in front of my kids all the time.
I wouldnt do something like a margarita only because it takes very little hard alcohol to get me buzzed.
My SS is 14, I've known him 9 years...I've had a drink with dinner here and there, never anything excessive. I will probably do the same as DD gets older. I don't see the point in hiding it.
This reminds me of a story about my nephew who is 9. Maybe a month or so he was over and I was having a beer with pizza. He informed me that i was going to "DIE!!!" and wanted to know why I was drinking. I was caught off guard, and BIL told me later he just does not drink in front of him, because nephew gets so upset. I was just speechless...I need to see what everyone else says would be a good answer.
We only ever occasionally drink a glass of wine or a beer anyway, so yes, we drink in front our son. If it was an every day thing, or more than a beer or two I would worry about the influence on my child. I think it's important that we role model responsible drinking for our children.
ETA: Not the royal we, me and DH.
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I don't drink much anymore (I think I have developed an actual allergy--sad), but DH has a beer or glass of wine pretty much any time we eat out and often with dinner at home. He is very into craft beer (beer snob) and DS knows this. DH even gets the Beer of the Month club and DS knows how excited DH gets when it arrives. I don't see the big deal at all. It's not like we get drunk and act irresponsibly in front of the kids. They know it's just for adults and call it "Daddy juice." LOL.
I took DD to the liquor store at 8:30 AM this past Monday and bought beer for DH's birthday. Some people would judge that, but it's NBD to us.
We don't have a problem with it and will have a drink with dinner or out at a restaurant. As PP's have stated, as long as you're modeling responsible behavior, I think it's a good thing for kids to see.
My friend's neice was told that they were adult only drinks and that at 21 her taste buds would change and she would like them too but that they would taste yucky until them. We may go that route lol.
I don't think responsible drinking is a bad example. You have a drink or two, DH drives. I think it's an excellent example actually. Lots of parents hide it and make it forbidden which leads to binging.
I will have a drink or two during the afternoon/evening while DD is around once or twice a week and will tell her it's for adults if she wants some.
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We(dh and I) drink infront of him as does my dad. the other night we were at my parents house and my dad and put an empty beer bottle in the trash and x went and took it out and turned it up like a sippy.
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As for the OP, yes, I drink in front of my son on occasion, as does DH. We both drink responsibly. TBH, I don't drink in front of him that often because he wants whatever I have and sometimes I'd rather wait and have a glass of wine in peace than have to protect my drink.
My DS isn't at the age yet where he would notice either way. But, I'm sure I'll have a drink in front of him once he can understand. I want him to know that one or two drinks (when he's old enough) is fine, and that there are limits and responsibilities to consider.
I want him to learn that there are some negative consequences to drinking too much.
I plan to model responsible drinking and that you don't have to drink to have a good time. Sometimes DH and I have drinks when we go out, sometimes not. We have a good time without alcohol, and I want DS to see that.
Yeah, we drink responsibly in front of the kids. I didn't know it was something to question.
We actually joke that DH's beer is daddy soda after we heard some weirdo calling it that at a restaurant.
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No. If DH or I want to drink, the other has to stay sober just in case.
And the idea that drinking in front of your kids as "modeling bad behavior" is ridiculous.
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What's the point of drinking when the children aren't around? I'm a much better mother after a relaxing glass of wine.
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