I'm sure this is going to end up being flame-worthy...but I'm curious
kathyo1982
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For anyone who KNEW/KNOWS that someone is having a shower for them, how far in advance did they let you know what the date was going to be? DH's family is having one July 15th, which is good to know -- I'm hoping thats the LATEST one I have, so I/we have time to get things that we DON'T get for the shower. My sisters are having one for me, but at this point, all I know is that its going to 'late June/early July' -- I know its a good at least 4 or 5 weeks away, it would just be nice to know when its going to be. Plus the fact there are a TON of DH family activities on the weekends from now until EDD. I would think they would at least have a date (or 2) options, to make sure that I'm available, and so I don't end up with plans on that date. I know that the 2 sisters are really busy right now(1 is due any day with her 4th child, and the other just finished getting approval/certification to be a foster parent, plus they both teach, so its end of the school year) - but when I originally asked a different question about the shower (about possible location since the 2 families live about 2 hours apart) - Neither of them responded to me, or even acknowledge that I had asked them a question.
Re: I'm sure this is going to end up being flame-worthy...but I'm curious
Sounds like it is a surprise.
Surely they will coordinate dates with your DH.
They are your sisters, you know they are throwing a shower so it's not a surprise - I'd just flat out say "Hey, what's the date, or if a date hasn't been set yet, I'd like to get one on the calendar. I have a lot of things going on and I'd hate to miss my own shower...."
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Might be a surprise...since they mentioned that they are throwing you a shower maybe you could let them know if you have something important ready planned. Like "I know you mentioned a shower and I'm very excited. Here's a date that we might want to avoid due to this. I won't ask anymore questions but please let me know if I can be of any help"
That way if they are keeping it quiet you don't ruin anything but they know in advance.
Unless you think they will check with your DH on dates to make sure your available? Maybe say nothing then?
"What did my fingers do before they held you? What did my heart do with it's love?"
Let it go, especially since one of your sisters is about to give birth. They know you're pregnant and they know your due date. If they're planning a surprise, you don't want to make things awkward.
This.
They must not be "surprise" shower since you know they are happening...just not when they are happening. I am not at all for surprise showers and if that is what they are and they don't give you a date I would probably be conveniently busy on the day of when you "think" they are.