Before having LO.. What was your biggest fear in becoming a mom?

MOONGIRL2467 · May 2012

Any fears? Worries?

Now that we are nearing the yr mark.. How have those fears changed? Etc

Has being a mom been what you expected? How has it differed?

clineak · May 2012

My biggest worry was probably about DH since he hadn't been around many babies before DD. He has pleasantly surprised me, though, and is really a great dad!

pettycrocker · May 2012

This is a great post!

Any fears? Worries?

I had a terrible fear that LO would be a beast of a baby! I mean a screaming collicy mess. I had major anxiety through my entire pregnancy, thinking about how I would cope with everything. I think I had one of those "expect the worst but hope for the best" types of moments, that lasted through my entire pregnancy.

Now that we are nearing the yr mark.. How have those fears changed? Etc

I felt like a damn fool pretty shortly after she was born because she was IMO the easiest baby I could ever ask for. She was a wee bit difficult with gas from 0-3m, but looking back even that was a breeze to get through once I got her on the right formula for her tummy issues. I remember going to one of my follow up visits with the midwives and saying "If all babies were this easy I'd have 6 more just like her" LOL Things could not have been more different than I envisioned.

Has being a mom been what you expected? How has it differed?

Being a mom is still kind of weird to me. I feel like the same person, but I keep thinking I am supposed to "feel" differently? In my mind, women are supposed to "feel" like a mom.. If that makes any sense.. I have these moments that I'll be sitting on the floor playing with LO and feel like "Ok kid, when will your mom be here to pick you up??" LOL it's still really surreal.

CocoBrynne · May 2012

My biggest fear was childbirth, and then once he was here I was terrified of SIDS. I'd check him constantly to make sure he was still breathing in his crib.

JennV514 · May 2012

Breastfeeding. If you've never done it before, you have no idea what's you're getting into, and that was terrifying to me. Not to mention, not knowing if I would even produce milk! I wanted to bf so bad, but I was scared.

boogerbearoriginal · May 2012

MOONGIRL2467:
Any fears? Worries?
Now that we are nearing the yr mark.. How have those fears changed? Etc
Has being a mom been what you expected? How has it differed?

Generally it's pretty intimidating being Mom. Moms have all the answers, moms are calm in a crisis, moms know the right thing to say/do. I probably feared doing something wrong and somehow harming LO more than anything else.

Those fears haven't really changed much, I still worry about making the right choices, doing the best I can, etc. And him dying, for some reason I cannot shake the fear that he is going to die. It used to be SIDS, now it's an accident that I fear.

For the most part being a mom is different. I really can't articulate how, but it seems natural sometimes, like I know what to do. It's when I start over-thinking every choice that I feel lost, I do better if I just go with my gut. And I guess I never understood how much I would love this little person. Sometimes it shocks me how just looking at him and seeing him smile makes my heart ache with joy. The pride when he figures out something, like putting the spoon in his mouth the right way AND keeping the food on it. I knew I would love my kid, I just didn't expect it to be so overwhelming, in a good way.

Although sometimes I think to myself - holy crap who let me have a kid?!

carrielb12 · May 2012

I was afraid that I wouldn't get that motherly instinct but, I think I have that down pat now.

swimiz500 · May 2012

carrielb12:
I was afraid that I wouldn't get that motherly instinct but, I think I have that down pat now.

This exactly! I was afraid I would not be attached to my LO, or that I wouldn't know what to do, or I would hate being a mom or something. Of course, none of that happened!

katiewhompus · May 2012

I was afraid of everything. I had never been around a newborn or held one. I was scared I would drop her, or break her, or diaper her wrong, or feed her wrong. A good friend told me "no baby ever died from being diapered wrong" and it helped a lot.

MOONGIRL2467 · May 2012

Any fears? Worries? When I was pregnant I had a dream that I would just be a bad mom...as simple as that. I would be mean, wouldn't understand my LO. I even asked my 8 yr sister if she thought I would be a good mom. She said yes, and not to worry She made me cry and feel 110% better (I was just entering second trimester).

Now that we are nearing the yr mark.. How have those fears changed? Etc I can understand the fear especially since I am a first time mom. I am no longer fearful of being a good mom. I see DD and when she smiles at me I feel that I am doing it all right. As long as I meet all her needs and never neglect her, give her attention I think I will be a great mom.

Has being a mom been what you expected? How has it differed? I definitely had no idea what being a mom would feel or be like. So far it has all been amazing...I will never forget the struggles with breastfeeding/crying while I fed her...because honestly those have been the hardest.

I never imagined loving someone sooo much! Giving anything for her and making sure her world is perfect. Her happiness makes me the happiest I could ever be.

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