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Need support XP on breastfeeding
I am superfrustrated and am not sure what to do. Here is some background. DD started daycare and using bottles around 8 weeks. She took 3oz every 3 hours (despite me asking that she be fed on demand) up until last month. Then they said she was draining her bottles and needed more per bottle. Being a little hesitant, I agreed to send 3.5oz bottles. FWIW, she usually eats 3 bottles but I have always sent 5 in case she is hungrier one day. That seemed fine until last week. She started eating every 2 hours so they asked me to send bigger bottles. Thinking it might be a growth spurt, I started sending 4.5oz bottles. She kept eating every 2 hours and was now eating 4 bottles. Now this week, they have asked that I increase the bottles again. I have a good freezer stash, so I sent 6oz bottles figuring she wouldn't finsh the bottles. I figured that I could then go back to smaller bottles and the DC would be satisfied that she didn't need bigger bottles. Today she ate 29 oz while at DC (~10hrs). And she is still eating every 2 hours.
When I expressed my concern that she is eating too much, DC teacher told me that she needs rice cereal. I do NOT want to give her anything but BM until she is 6 months and then I want to do BLW. Am I overreacting? I just really dont feel supported in my choices as a mom. Help? Tips?
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Re: Need support XP on breastfeeding
You need to talk with your DCP about how/when they are giving her a bottle. Is she just getting one whenever she cries? Are they forcing her to finish the whole thing? I would read these tips on giving a bottle to a BF baby and go over it with them. 29 oz is a LOT. Most BF babies drink about 25 oz in an entire 24 hr period.
Do NOT give her rice cereal if you don't want to. The only person I would take advice from on solids is my dr, and even then I did my own research and did what I felt was best. (We did BLW too)
https://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/feeding-tools/bottle-feeding/
https://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/milkcalc/
No to make you paranoid, but do you really think your daughter is eating all that you send? I mean, are they being irresponsible with your milk in some way? My daughter NEVER took more than about 12 oz in the ten hours that she was away from me when I was working (up to 13 months).
Does your LO nurse well when she is with you? Is she night-weaned or anything like that? I didn't check out the kellymom links the pp posted, but you should look up info on paced bottle feeding and educate your DCP about it. Also, I have heard and found to be true with my DD that BF babies don't need to increase oz the way that FF babies do since BM changes to meet a growing baby's needs. Maybe they're trying to match her to other babies who are FF?
Is it possible to pop in a time or two to try to observe how they're handling her feedings? Good luck! What a tough situation.
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You aren't over reacting. They're over feeding her. They think breast milk = formula and they're pushing her to eat like it is.
Talk to them. And then if it's not changing, look for new care.
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DH asked the same thing. He was wondering if they aren't giving her milk to some other baby. I am pretty sure they are not since she is the only one with her bottles. It would be hard to accidentally give her bottle to another kiddo.
I'n glad that's not something you're worried about. I would be worried they were intentionally giving another baby your milk or even being very careless with it by spilling it or not fully understanding BM storage guidelines and tossing it out prematurely or something.
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This. As you probably saw on Kellymom BM needs to come in smaller bottles than formula. I only ever made 3 oz bottles for DD. Remember a bottle has a steady flow so the baby just keeps on sucking. A breast is slowly emptied and does not suddenly empty the same way. It means it looks like the baby is still hungry when in fact he/she is slightly confused :-)