Ladies, first off I want to say thank you. You are a fabulous, knowledgable group of women and I felt so at home here. I will be leaving the board and didn't want to drop off without an explanation. I hope this is not inappropriate.
Well, as you may know, my husband and I were thinking of tta because of some medical issues (related to a PTSD and a possible neurological condition). I've been under a ton of stress due to his mood swings etc. We have only been married since August 2011 and things are very rocky. So adding a child to this situation would be wrong.
He has been avoiding me lately and acting very abnormal. I went through our cell phone statement(family plan). I just had a gut feeling something was "off". Well, I discovered frequent calls and texts to a certain number over the past month or so. All things point to the fact that he has been unfaithful. He of course denies this.
I called a divorce lawyer...for me, cheating is a deal breaker. Ladies, I am truly heart broken, disappointed, sad and angry all at the same time. I thought we were starting a life together, But sadly I was so wrong. My life is falling apart. So this is goodbye. I wish you all the best. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I hope someday I will be on this board again happily.
Re: No more ttc, my life is falling apart. Long
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you have set your boundaries, and realized you can't be with someone that has been unfaithful. That is a hard decision to make for some people.
Poke in every once in a while and let us know how you are doing.
((Hugs))
2002 Lap. surgery Stage 3 Endo
Amenorrhea/Anovulation since 2009
3/2012 HSG left dialated/Hydrosalpinx, right tube blocked
3/2012 SA - Normal! Go little swimmers!
Lap. surgery 6/13/12 stage 4 Endo Cleared tubes, removed cysts and adhesions.
Repeat HSG, right tube blocked/left hydro. PCOS, and Endometrial hyperplasia.
Moving forward with purchasing a home, then maybe IVF/ adoption/embryo adoption/ or child free.
BFP #1: 6.26.12 EDD: 2.11.13 missed m/c: 7.31.12 @ 12 weeks
BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.13 Born 6.13.13
I am so very sorry you are having to deal with this. I understand the "cheating is a deal breaker." It is for me as well. Honestly, I don't know what to say. I am so sorry. Hang in there. ((((big squishy hugs))))
"A man walking backwards does not see what lies ahead, only what he is leaving behind."
BFP #1-7/22/12 EDD: 4/8/13 It's a Boy!! Born 3/30/13
BFP #2 2/3/14 EDD: 10/15/14 - My Chart
TTC since August 2011 (Me-29, DH-32).
4/28/2012 - SA: 5% motility.
5/21/2012 - SA: same results.
Only shot is IVF (ICSI)
5/31/2012 - HSG: all clear
6/22/2012 - appt with RE, confirmed ICSI is necessary.
8/3/2012 - First IVF Monitoring Appointment
8/17/2012 - Egg Retrieval (retrieved 23 eggs, 3 made it to freezer)
8/18/2012 - OHSS - hospitalized, need to wait one cycle to transfer embryo(s) due to OHSS
8/29/2012 - begin meds for frozen cycle
10/12/2012 - FET one embryo
10/24/2012 - Beta #1: 442
10/26/2012 - Beta #2: 947
10/29/2012 - Beta #3: 2900!
11/15/2012 - first u/s: baby measuring perfect, heart rate is right on target
2/6/2013 - A/S looked perfect. Still team green by choice!
7/6/2013 - Baby girl born after 44 hours of un-medicated labor, 2 hours of pushing, and emergency c-section due to transverse head. DD was perfectly healthy at 6 pounds, 14 ounces. We are thrilled!!
Obviously, I don't know your whole story, but this seems really quick, especially since he hasn't admitted to it.
I'm not suggesting that he's not guilty because, obviously, I don't know. I'm just saying I'd consider some counseling before calling a divorce attorney. Especially when he is dealing with PTSD.
Just a thought. Best of luck to you in whatever you choose. I know this must be incredibly difficult for you.
TTC since June 2010.
DX hypothyroidism, pituitary hyperfunction, and PCOS.
On med/treatment break indefinitely. Not currently trying.
Lots of love to all of my Golden Girls!
The Vagtastic Voyage
I have to agree with this and this was also my first thought. Again, we all know the details of our own situations better than outsiders but counseling may be a better first step? Good luck to you. I hope things work out well for you and I'm sorry about what you're going through.
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BFP 8/03/12 EDD 4/18/13
My super all about me birth story:
Then: Fraternal twins born at 26 weeks in 1983. Me: 640 grams. Brother: 840 grams. Family kept watch in the NICU for 5 months before being allowed to go home. On oxygen for a year and a half after being released.
Now: Me: PhD student and married. Brother: Lawyer and married.
Dad's wedding speech: Thank you to all the family who stood watch and prayed for our children's survival. Well now the little scrawny chicken is married. Who would've thought? (Thanks dad for making me laugh and cry at the same time).
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Me: 34 Dh: 41, Married: Oct 15th 2011
Me: Deteriorating Ovarian Reserve, Hostile Uterus
Dh: Slow but Healthy Swimmers
Round 1 Clomid 100mg 7/12/2013
BFP 8/2/2013 EDD 4/14/2014
Charlotte Born on 4/23/3014
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I am so sorry you are going though this. I do think that Lolli made some great points, but of course, you need to do what is right for you. Sending positive thoughts your way.
** After 2 1/2 years of Unexplained IF, 2 failed medicated cycles, and 4 failed IUI's - our baby girl came to us through the miracle of Mini IVF! **
Started fertility treatments 11/2010
Ovarian dysfunction, LPD, male factor
6 failed medicated IUI's
Pregnant 5/2011 - Miscarriage at 6 weeks due to triploidy
Decided to adopt - 6/2012
SURPRISE! Pregnant without intervention - 7/2012
Sweet Baby James Born 3/2013
Decided to be "One and Done"
....OR NOT.
Pregnant 12/2018 despite birth control pills
Here we go again...
Due 8/26/19!
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lots of to my TBBFF Sothernpeach80 - BABY ETHAN IS HERE! 02.04.13
TTC #1 since Jan 2012
BFP #1 07/27/12 - EDD 04/07/13; C/P on 07/31/12
BFP #2 10/11/12 - EDD 06/24/13; Blighted Ovum; D&C 11/30/12
BFP #3 03/10/13 - EDD 11/17/13 - PLEASE BE OUR TAKE HOME BABY!
Beta #1 - 95.8 (12DPO); Beta #2 - 502 (15DPO); Beta #3 - 2003 (18DPO)
First U/S showed one beautiful baby measuring 7w1d with a HR of 148!!! Second U/S showed baby measuring 9w0d with a HR of 173!!!
My Ugly BFP Chart
“I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much." -Mother Teresa
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Lots of love TBBFF lobosabby!! Always rooting for the TTGP girls
My Chart
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
Cycle #1(08/2012): Clomid 50 mg CD3-7, Ovidrel CD13 + Progesterone = It worked!
BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013
BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014
Our furbaby Lexi
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The name is Angel. I'm 27 years old & DH is 28. We have been together for 12 years, married on May 21, 2011. We are TTC #1! I was diagnosed with endometriosis via laparoscopy in August 2010. Off of BC since March 2012. I am a 2nd year OB/GYN Resident physician. I love getting to be involved in precious miracles first moments of life, and I can't wait until the day we are blessed to have our own miracle!