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October 2012 Moms
Starry Again
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Wanting another child because the first is a boy/girl?
Starry Again
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I saw this mentioned on the thread about only children multiple times. Along the lines of "we probably want one, unless the first is a girl, then maybe try again."
Please explain. You do realize that there is a 50% chance (approximately) that the next one will be the same sex. Then you will have TWO of your non-preferred sex.
Also for those who agree with me at some point visit ingender.com's forums for some of the most crazycakes stuff you will ever see.
I am prepared to be flamed over this opinion. IT IS WORTH IT TO ME.
DD 9/15/12
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Re: Wanting another child because the first is a boy/girl?
I will admit that I had a slight preference for a girl. HOWEVER I knew full well going into this that I had a 50% chance at a boy and I was really excited at the thought of having a boy too. Even if we had 3 kids (our absolute max, but probably two) and all three were boys, I would have been fine with it. There is no way I would have the sex play into the should we or shouldn't we conversation AT ALL. Maybe if I was super rich (like more than Obama rich).
I will never, ever understand the point of trying for another child in hopes to get the sex you want. I can get hoping for one sex over the other, but trying for another kid just because the sex of the children you already have isn't your preferred is insane.
Do I even want to check out ingender?
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Ingender is completely insane. They make bump acronyms look like child's play. I believe one commonly in use is BSF - baking soda on finger.
I will say I am partially opinionated by DH's idiot aunt having SIX girls before finally having a boy and the boy is a total piece of shizz and most of his reasonable sisters are treated like crap. I just don't see it as normal behavior.
I guess I understand having a third if you had two of the same gender, and you want to just experience the other. Because that's like loving both equally that you want to have both. But it makes me sadder that people would have one if it was one gender, but if it was the "disappointing" gender first, THEN they would have another. Does that make sense?
And yes, ingender is CAH-RAZY! I went on there to post my dangle pic just to get their opinion. But then as I started to read the other posts, I kinda slowly backed out of there. There are women having 4,5, and 6 kids just to get the gender they want!
The best/worst ingender forum is "gender disappointment"
https://ingender.com/cs/forums/6.aspx
If you scroll through the posts with multiple replies you will see people who have 5 boys and pregnant with their 6th, 32 years old, etc. I honestly think most of these people have some form of mental illness / severe PPD so I feel a bit bad gawking yet... every now and then I do.
I think this is totally normal. I think most people have a slight preference or even more than slight. I am not judging that
whoa! those ingender posts are insane!
I feel like someone who has 5-6 kids to keep trying for one gender has something more serious going on...it's like a gambling addiction or something. And they're bound to be disappointed by the child of the "right" gender given how much it's built up.
I judge people who say that. My husband was one of them. I was furious with him and tore him a new one.... only then he realized he was saying DD wasn't good enough, and completely backtracked.
(He does love DD to pieces!)
hahah yes, this! I am henry the 8th how did you guess?
I think I posted I would maybe consider having another if I had a girl first. I've just always wanted a boy but I feel like my opinion on it is more that if the timing is right, and we had the means to I might change my mind on an only child... but you never know until it happens how you'll feel. These are just my thoughts now as a pregnant lady. It's not like if i keep having girls I will try and try and try... that's whack. It might also go the other way, I might have a boy and down the road really want a girl and then try for one...
Okay I just have to say, as someone who has had multiple losses, I find this sick:
https://www.ingender.com/cs/forums/t/247929.aspx
Currently going through our second deployment. Can't wait for Zoe to meet her daddy!
I don't understand this viewpoint.
Both my husband and I wanted a healthy baby for our first pregnancy and for this one. We were "team green" although that name had not been coined yet, for our first one. We were so happy when our baby was born that it took us a minute to ask what we'd had. We've been very blessed with a happy, healthy, precocious daughter.
With this baby, again, we just want a healthy baby. We are finding out the gender because we are living far away from our family and want to make it easier on them as they've indicated a desire to provide baby gifts (we've had quite a space between our babies) - and our daughter would really like to know. We're hoping to find out tomorrow, but more importantly to get confirmation that the baby is healthy.
Gender will play into our decision of a third child. If this one is a girl that will make two girls for us. We love having a girl and will loving having another girl if that is what this baby is but neither of us are sure we want to raise three girls though. 3 weddings, 3 hormonal teenagers, just not sure we want to do it. So if this next is a girl we will probably stop at two. If this next is a boy it is more likely we will have a third child.
I would never be dissapointed though as to what gender I have. I just don't understand that.
I never understand when people say this. I understand hoping for one or the other but it's not a reason to have a child.