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Have you regretted having another baby?(long)

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I feel horrible posting this but I dont know what to do to be able to handle the way I am feeling now....

I am 37 years old, happily married. We have a 10 year old daughter and a 3 week old son.The reason the gap between them is so big is because my daughter was a very demanding baby. She cried a lot, had reflux and was never a good sleeper so I think thats why we took so long to have another child. Last year I decided that I wanted another one ...I thought would be good for my daughter so she is not an only child.My husband is an only child and always wished he had a sibling so I started bugging my husband to get pregnant again. We started trying and I got pregnant in 3 months. Now , here I am with a 3 week old, starting all over, sleep deprived and really contemplating if I messed by having another baby.I miss my pre baby life where my husband and I could do a lot more things but now I just feel trapped. Sorry....I am in tears and just need to vent

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Re: Have you regretted having another baby?(long)

  • Sunshine+LuvSunshine+Luv
     I felt like this with my baby. I have ppd and got on Zoloft. Perhaps you should talk to your ob.
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  • frecks2112frecks2112 member
    I think the first 6 months to a year are really hard. BUT I think once you get settled back into a new routine and find happiness there, that can help. Also medication can help too. I try to focus on a few good things a day, I'm starting to write them down in a journal. Now that my son is 19 months, i have so many more good things to say. My life will never be how it was, but this new normal is pretty fun most of the time.
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  • findingmyshoesfindingmyshoes
    Well, supposedly a period of depression for about two weeks after you give birth is normal, but you are just outside that so you probably want to go see your doctor.  Regretting the birth of your child is totally a sign of PPD, and getting help will make things so much better for you and your baby.  Believe me, I have definitely been in your place, you are not alone.  Stay strong.  Things will get better.
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  • madcat0701madcat0701
    it's okay. really, it's ok. I am almost 40 and we had baby #2 that was born oct. 2011. we love her and she's great. BUT--this was after alot of thought.ALOT , because we had our first daughter in 2007 and she was colicky, cried 24/7, and the first few months were HORRIBLE. I mean--terrible. I didn't know what was happening to me, i was afraid to be alone in the house with our child, I wasn't eating, i wasn't sleeping. I couldn't recognize myself. I finally called my ob/gyn. She recommended somone to see a psychiatrist that specialized in PPD. he was AWESOME. and three weeks later, I was feeling much better. Let me tell you--I waited 4 yrs. to have our 2nd child because I was so AFRAID of it happening again. Then one day , I realized that I had a plan in place, I had a support system and I knew I could see the doctor again if I felt the same way with baby #2. As soon as baby #2 was born, i called the doctor and a week later I KNEW i was starting to feel the same way again. I started on zoloft and felt better a few weeks later. We know now that we're done with having children. We have two wonderful girls that are healthy and I am so glad that I knew that I could talk to someone and to my hubby --i sort of knew what to expect. Seriously, you will be ok. Talk to someone, get help, contact your OB or see about going to a specialist that deals with post partum depression and you may need meds--you will be OK! you will
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