what DH told me broke my heart (sensitive)

blessedhope · May 2012

My husband doesn't talk very much so when he does I know it is something he has been dwelling on alot before he says it.

Last week on our baby's birthday/anniversary he left work early to come home and be with me. As he was collecting his stuff to leave all the guys started cheering because one of them got a text message saying one of the guys wives had their baby.

It breaks my heart to see him hurting and I wish more than anything I could give him a living breathing baby. I know most the guys he works with are in their early 20's and he is one of the older ones being almost 31. I know it is hard on him seeing all those young guys on their 3rd child already and he doesn't have any.

I guess I'm just rambling now but it just hurts so much that I love him like I do and I can't give him a baby.

DaisyZH · May 2012

I am so so sorry for your DH and for you. It's so hard to see a partner hurting. (( Hugs )) to you, I wish I had some magic words to take away your pain.

raashton · May 2012

Oh sweetie! I am so very sorry that you and your husband are hurting.

However, you did give him a baby; the universe, in all it's mystery decided it was not for you all to have an earth bound baby right then. It sucks, and it cuts to the core, especially when others around you are getting what you would move heaven and earth for.

Take it easy on yourselves. I am so sorry again. Much love and hugs to you.

blessedhope · May 2012

thankyou, it was just so hard that all those guys were celebrating that baby being born and i know they had no idea we lost our baby the same day a year before and that was why H was going home early

MissRachel621 · May 2012

Oh, honey. I am so sorry. What awful timing the universe had right then. I don't know you personally, but I would be willing to bet that your husband loves you for YOU, not for whether or not you can "give" him a baby. You guys make a family together, try not to forget that. Smile

I hope you get your rainbow baby soon. XOXO

Spruce14 · May 2012

raashton:
Oh sweetie! I am so very sorry that you and your husband are hurting.

However, you did give him a baby; the universe, in all it's mystery decided it was not for you all to have an earth bound baby right then. It sucks, and it cuts to the core, especially when others around you are getting what you would move heaven and earth for.

Take it easy on yourselves. I am so sorry again. Much love and hugs to you.

This. I understand what you're feeling, but please never blame yourself. Hugs

barbie92 · May 2012

((hugs))

killian09 · May 2012

((hugs)). I'm so sorry.

minicheezburg · May 2012

I know what you mean sweetie, I feel like I am a huge disappointment to DH. 2.5 years of TTC, one loss over a year and a half ago and still no baby. I am sorry and wish I had some words that took your pain away and could help DH to cope. Hugs.

HopingforChange · May 2012

ncchnat:
HUGS for both you and your husband. Watching T grieve broke my heart all over again and I hate that men don't get the same kind of support women do. Hang in there together. You'll get through. More HUGS!

This. And, know it is not your fault. It's not something you "can't" do; it's just something that didn't happen. ((hugs))

dtowngirl · May 2012

(((huge hugs)))

sunsetlove · May 2012

Sending u (((HUGS)))... i know how you feel.. i too get sad when I hear my DH wives celebrating their kids birthdays and milestones and my dh doesn't have any children stories to share...

Gregermis · May 2012

((hugs)) for you and your DH

EKGibs · May 2012

(((hugs)))

panacea05 · May 2012

God, what horrible timing for that text message to arrive. And I understand what you're saying about your DH; the only thing that hurts me more than my own hurt is my husband's. ((hugs))