Pregnant after a Loss

Saying her name outloud...

I posted a couple weeks back that we had chosen Baby Girl's name.  We're not telling IRL people until the day she's born.  We plan to use the same chalkboard we've used for our weekly bump photos and creating a "My Name Is" sign with her name written so that when the curtains are pulled back for the family viewing at the time of the c-section, DH can hold it up as the "announcement".  {this part makes me smile because DH is so excited about this idea}.

Back to her name.  I am whole heartedly in love with her name and am 100% sure this was the name she wanted as well...but...I just can't seem to say it outloud.  I said it yesterday in conversation to DH and he mentioned that that's the first time he's heard me say it other than the day we decided.  I thought about that fact.  It's true.  Even now.  I could tell you her name...Emma June.  <3  But actually saying it outloud.....It's probably best I don't because I'm not likely to slip that way...but in some ways I feel bad because it was so easy to refer to Logan by his name the moment we decided.  For now, I just call her Baby Girl...and I guess in a way that's my personal, intimate nickname for her.  Also, I kind of feel like calling her by her actual name makes it too real before it's real real.  Make sense?

Don't really have a point to this post.  Just blabbing!  I usually would blog something like this, but today's post was reserved for DH only and our anniversary.  Needed to tell someone though...it's been plaguing me for days.

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  • skye83skye83 member
    I get it. DH and I have Charlie picked out for a girl or Charles (Charley) if it's a boy after his dad who passed a couple years ago. I love the name but I still can't bring myself to call the baby Charlie/Charley out loud. It does make it seem much too real for me to handle just yet.
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  • I totally understand this... Im kind of the opposite though, I say his name as much as I can to DH to really believe he's real.  I'm a little worried about slipping to someone else... but it hasn't happened yet.

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  • I totally get it! I think we had trouble settling on a name because of the same reasons...I was almost afraid to name him because it just made it all so real...and the more real it was the more painful it would be if we lost him. Since he was born so early we hadn't even decided on a name and after being asked for his name over and over by he doctors and nurses I finally was able to say chase...which is the only name dh and I could ever agree on! I don't know why I couldn't just settle on it weeks ago but I just couldn't let myself. Ok sorry for the babbling... I think I am over tired!
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    I totally understand this... Im kind of the opposite though, I say his name as much as I can to DH to really believe he's real.  I'm a little worried about slipping to someone else... but it hasn't happened yet.

    BTW- Happy Anniversary!!! Party!!!

    This is me too. We've also told family and friends bc I don't really care what they think since I love the name. I also feel like saying it for me not only makes her more real but it helps distinguish the pregnancies in my head.  

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  • Well I say her name every time I talk about you!  It's a beautiful name and perfect for her even though I liked calling her Princess.    :-). That being said, it's totally normal to be nervous.   She is going to be here soon ---try to stay positive.  You have done so well the entire time.  I'm proud of you!  I can't wait to hear the name reveal details.  Everyone is going to love it!  

     

    ETA-- Happy Anniversary to you two love birds!  

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  • It took me a long time to say DD's name outloud.  Sometimes it still feels weird saying things like, "my daughter" or "Lilliana" even though she is here.  I still catch myself saying "the baby."
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