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Meltdown at baby shower (preg. mentioned..)

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So friday I posted that I was feeling overwhelmed about a baby shower I was helping with for my good friend...all the posts I received were encourging and I went into the shower saturday with a open mind and focused to do what I had to do..

Everything was going great until not 1 but 2 other preggo ladies walked in for the shower (making a total of 3 being there)...so there I was doing my hosting duties when someone turned to me and said" Man look at all these pregnant ladies here" and I lost it...had to leave the room and compose myself but I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ONE OF THOSE LADIES... The lady didn't mean anything by it at all...It just caught me completely off guard...

 It has been almost 2 months since my loss and I thought I could handle being in that situation...and to make it even worse one of those preggo women walked outside twice during the shower to smoke....UUUGGGHHH....

People like that drive me crazy...if they only knew how long some women try to get pregnant they would appreciate the gifts they have been given...

 

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  • LSzwayaLSzwaya member
    I am so sorry. Baby showers are hard. I have experienced people in my life who treat pregnancy as some game or something rather than a gift. I am glad it is over and you don't have to stress about going and getting through it anymore. ((HUGS))
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  • britny08britny08

    Sorry it was rough for you! I'm sure your friend really appreciates you doing the shower for her! You're a great friend and brave for going through it! Keep your head up!


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  • VikingQueenVikingQueen member
    I'm so sorry. ((hugs))
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  • killian09killian09 member

    ((hugs))  I'm so sorry you had a rough time.  It sounds super stressful.  :(  If there is any plus side, maybe it's that it is over now?  Hope you have a good week!

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  • EKGibsEKGibs member
    I'm so sorry you had a rough time. It's hard seeing other people who are where you are supposed to be. especially one that doesnt appreciate what she has or apparently cares much about her babys health by smoking. that makes me want to burn their face with their own ciggarrette Angry (((((hugs))))
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  • Mash67Mash67 member
    I'm sorry you had to go through that.  I would of said something to the smoking pregnant girl, that drives me INSANE, and I wouldn't of been able to bite my tongue on that one!
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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    I'm so sorry sweetie.  I'm sorry it was so tough for you, and that's awful about the smoker ((hugs))


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  • baby&theseababy&thesea member

    I'm so sorry (hugs). I was really hoping something like that wouldn't happen to you. And ugh to pregnant people who smoke! That just makes me mad! 

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  • tdmd09tdmd09 member
    You are very brave for going to that shower at all, let alone just two months after your loss. I went to my first one 6 months after my first loss (two days before my EDD) and it was really tough. And I've not been to another since. I've actually picked up hours at work so I would have excuses not to go. Don't be too hard on yourself for having a tough time... it's totally understandable.
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  • SmootiepieSmootiepie member

    *HUGS*

    And major throat punch to anyone who smokes while KU...

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  • juttek30juttek30 member
    UGH! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Sad I am pissed for you. I'd like to think I would snatch the cigarette from the prego girl's hand and stomp on it, then give her the look of death....
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  • bananersbananers member
    I am so sorry. ((big hugs))
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