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October 2012 Moms
Why hide my baby bump?
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I am a married mom of a 14, 12, and 6yo girls. After a huge bump in my marriage we had a son who will be 2 in Aug. We are not over our problems but have another baby girl on the way, due in Oct. That's 5 kids!!!
My mother thought it would be best if we were married when I was 1st pregnant at 17. She and my father signed me away to a 19yo highschool dropout without any push from me. For some reason every adult(my parents and his) thought this was right.
We now live modestly. We own a small home and 1 and a half car. He has a stable, full time job with benefits. I have been part time / part time since the start. We do not get along because of a filthy affair he had. I am devastated and want a divorce. He wants things to go back to the regular rhythm so we can raise our family but I don't trust or like him anymore.
The killer is my mom who thinks I'm crazy. She said I wouldent put my life on the line for another baby. She suggested abortion with my son and had the nerve to ask how I am going to educate all those children. Note: she thought my wedding was more important than my graduation. My oldest has the highest grades in her class and has been accepted into a prime high school. Her siblings are also model students who display grace, tact and intelligence. She hates the father of my children for every reason under the son but primarily cheating.
We have not talked to each other since I told her and for that I have not told very many others. I am very, very sensitive and insecure since my marriage problems and do not want negative feedback. Other than my bitterness toward my husband, I am healthy, and gorgeous pregnant grown woman. All my kids are by this one man and we are doing the best we can despite the odds. We are a self sufficient family, and my kids are well behaved and maintained.
Help me with advise to uncover my baby bump and be proud. What do I say to naysayers?
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Re: Why hide my baby bump?
I am sorry you are going through this, I hope it is MUD but it seems like it may not be.
Please get tested for STDs if you haven't been yet, for your sake and the sake of your baby.
I agree I would want a divorce. You definitely need counseling if you aren't involved already. Your kids probably need it as well. Start there.
Good luck.
This.
Yup. Except I think it's MUD.
We now live modestly. We own a small home and 1 and a half car.
I want to know what half a car is.
Ha! I was thinking the exact same thing.
MUD = made up drama...
If this is real - go to counseling, a pregnancy board is not going to help you...
Like others, I'm wondering what is half a car? Is that like having 2.5 kids?
If this isn't real- your kids are perfect, you are gorgeous and healthy, everything has been going great except for this one infidelity? Wow, I can recommend a few creative writing classes to help you.
I would also like to know what half a car is.
I read it as they have a car halfway paid off.