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AmandaP678 · May 2012

how long did you live together before you got married or did you wait until you got married to live together?

We got married first

swimiz500 · May 2012

Oh man okay this involves an explanation, but we moved in together 2 months after we started dating. We had bought our house before we were married too. But let me explain the situation:

We were friends before we were in a relationship, and we had decided to get an apartment with this other girl we were friends with, like a 3 bedroom place, just so we'd all have somewhere to live cheaply. Well, we got together, and the third girl backed out, so we ended up just moving in anyway. We got a 2 bedroom in case things did not work out, but it did so far!

pettycrocker · May 2012

Ummm... I *think* it was 2 or 3 years.. I know we've been married for around 4 years, and together 6 or 7?

lol.. I honestly can't remember atm.. but this is my 2nd marriage and both times we lived together for a couple years before getting married.

AmandaP678 · May 2012

swimiz500:
Oh man okay this involves an explanation, but we moved in together 2 months after we started dating. We had bought our house before we were married too. But let me explain the situation:
We were friends before we were in a relationship, and we had decided to get an apartment with this other girl we were friends with, like a 3 bedroom place, just so we'd all have somewhere to live cheaply. Well, we got together, and the third girl backed out, so we ended up just moving in anyway. We got a 2 bedroom in case things did not work out, but it did so far!

We bought our house before we got married too.

CagleBaby · May 2012

We waited untill we got married before we moved in together.

clineak · May 2012

AmandaP678:
how long did you live together before you got married or did you wait until you got married to live together?
We got married first

Us, too!

awisern · May 2012

We lived together for 16 months before we married, we were engaged the entire time.

Nutrguru · May 2012

We started living together 6 months after we started dating. We got married after being together for for 3.5 years. We are now going on 5.5 years!

LyndseyLC · May 2012

knew each other for 5 months then started dating

dated for about 7 months then I moved in to a house he had bought and owned about a year prior

lived together for about a year then got engaged

engaged for about 4 months then got married

jk4ever · May 2012

We were together for 2 years before we moved in together. Then we got engaged after living together for a year and then we got married the next year. I had always said that I wouldn't live with my spouse before we got married, but at the time it just made sense. We have been married three years, so far so good.

Cindilouwho24 · May 2012

We knew each other for about 8 years before we started dating. He was looking for a roommate and I was looking for an apartment. We lived together for a year before getting married. We had L a year after we got married. A year after L was born we bought our house. This year is our 10 year wedding anniversary. We have lived together for 12 years.

jesstellina · May 2012

We waited til we got married to move in together (and have sex!! Surprise

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dairygirl19 · May 2012

It's complicated...lol.

We lived apart the whole time we were dating and all but 3 months of our engagement.

In our last months I quit my job (teacher, it was summer anyways) and we were building a house. I moved in with my inlaws where he still lived so I could keep an eye on the house, get a new job etc. etc. blah blah.

However his parents are super religious so we were in separate rooms with separate bathrooms on opposite ends of their house.

isacdimi10 · May 2012

Uhm lol

Okay we started dating in Nov of 2007 (I was 16 he was 17).
In March of 2009 (I was 17 he was 18) DH's mom physically attacked him in front of me and a friend while driving us home from school. My parents picked him up from work and he lived with us.
In April of 2009 we moved into our own apartment (I was still only 17 lol).
We got married on May 31, 2010.

So in theory we lived together for over a year before got married.

aeklotz · May 2012

When I first started dating DH he was just out of college and was living with his parents. His mom is crazy so it got to the point that I told him I wouldnt go over to his house anymore. We finally decided to just move in together to get him away from her, it was only 6 months into our relationship. We got engaged 5 months later and married a year later.

tawillers · May 2012

We lived together for 2 years before we got married. By the time we got married we had been together for 5 years.

jssica2 · May 2012

I'v ben whith my DH for 8yr ben married for 5yr i lived whith him for 2yr then moved out for 3yr then got married ben together ever sines.

Deblondie1 · May 2012

We lived together while planning our wedding, so 5 months or there abouts. H had gotten orders to Korea and was supposed to leave the month after our wedding. It was easier to just consolidate everything well before he left instead of hustling at the last minute to do it when we had a deadline. Plus, we wanted to actually live together for a little while since we knew he was leaving for a year right after we got married.

I'm glad we lived together first. I got to learn his bad habits and he got to learn mine LOL

katiewhompus · May 2012

We moved in together during the 4th month of dating. We were engaged at the 1 year mark, and then married 8 months later, so all out we lived together for about 1 1/2 years.

I had lived with a boyfriend before and it was crucial for me to live with my future husband prior to the wedding. There were many deal breakers in my past relationship that I would have not have been exposed to prior to living together that would have quickly caused a divorce or, at best, a lifetime of ill will.

Deblondie1 · May 2012

katiewhompus:
We moved in together during the 4th month of dating. We were engaged at the 1 year mark, and then married 8 months later, so all out we lived together for about 1 1/2 years.

I had lived with a boyfriend before and it was crucial for me to live with my future husband prior to the wedding. There were many deal breakers in my past relationship that I would have not have been exposed to prior to living together that would have quickly caused a divorce or, at best, a lifetime of ill will.

Completely agree with the bolded. And it isn't even about the silly "socks on the floor" stuff for me. I will probably encourage E to live with her future SO before they get married.

katie4253 · May 2012

A little under a year. But, we were in college the year we were dating so frequently stayed over at with each other before we lived with each other.

scuba2011 · May 2012

We bought a house together a month and a half before we were married. We both moved our crap in there after graduating from college but we never really moved in and lived there together before the wedding. There were probably a total of 5 nights that we were both there together before our wedding.

weebos8 · May 2012

We did not move into together until after we were married.

I graduated college, moved from my dorm into "our" new apartment, and 2 months later we married and he moved in from his own apartment.

Timshel17 · May 2012

Married first. We got engaged in January, the lease on my apartment was up in June and I moved in with my parents while H moved 3 hours away to our house after he started his job here that July. In September, we got married and I moved in.

ksulli · May 2012

Dated for 2y before he asked me to move in, I said I'd do it only if another question was to follow shortly thereafter. He said ok, show me what kind of rings you like & start packing. 4 mos later we were engaged, 9.5 mos later we bought a house, and two weeks after that we were married.

s_deorio · May 2012

We lived together for six years before we got married and we have been married for 1 1/2 years

12bailey18 · May 2012

Married first.

AmandaP678 · May 2012

Interesting to see so many others who were married first and then moved in together.

Firefly9 · May 2012

We dated for just under a year before we moved in together (we were always at one place or the other, anyway). Another year after that, we got engaged. 16 months after that, we got married and were in the process of buying our house.

lisamoe · May 2012

We waited until we were engaged before moving in together. We were engaged for 14 months and then got married. Big Smile

COMomma81 · May 2012

We didn't. We dated for 5 years, got married, then moved in together

No regrets. Been married almost 8 years.

hecallsmecat · May 2012

We got engaged about a year and a half after we started dating and I think I moved in with him about 6 months after getting engaged. We were planning on moving to London and figured we should live together for a few months before we moved countries together just to make the big move a little less pressure.

JessandIgli · May 2012

We were originally going to wait to move in together until after we got married, but then decided to move in 8 months before the wedding.

We had already been engaged for a year, and it was the best decision for us! We literally started out with nothing for our condo...2 months later we were finally done furnishing, decorating, filling, and painting the place. So glad I didn't have to deal with doing all that after coming home from the honeymoon.