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jolynn326
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Intro and question about bed sharing with #2 on the way
jolynn326
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Hi all! I think I belong here. Before DD was born, I never would have guessed the extent to which I would identify with the AP philosophies. DH agrees, too. We're 26 and expecting #2 five days before DD turns 2!
DD has always been challenging for us in regards to her sleep. A little background... We have bed shared since nearly the beginning, and she has been free to nurse as she wants throughout the night. She was one of those newborns who never was happy to be put down. She just wouldn't have it. Eventually, she progressed to sleeping in her carseat after being transferred there from our arms and the. Even 75% of the time she would tolerate getting in the seat awake and falling asleep. Now she will occasionally fall asleep nursing in bed... Would be more often if it didn't take so long. She also falls asleep well anywhere there is movement: car, stroller, ergo.
We can move her much more easily now, especially if it's to a moving something rather than a bed/crib. I have loved bed sharing, but I am starting to be weary of the effort it takes for us to help her sleep and the near-constant latching/nursing. Especially with the baby coming, I'm not sure what to do. Even if DC2 sleeps better, baby will still need nursed throughout the night, and now I'm lucky to get a chance to pee at night without DD waking and screaming until I return.
Someone tell me what to do lol! I don't mind continuing the bed sharing, but how do we do that safely with a newborn and infant?
BFP #1 6/3/10 | EDD 2/5/11 | Noelle born 1/28/11
BFP #2 12/20/11 | EDD 8/24/12 | Natural M/C 12/22/11
BFP #3 5/13/12 (Mother's Day!) | EDD 1/23/13 | Natural M/C 6/9/12 (blighted ovum discovered 6/7/12 at 7w1d)
"And to think when their little eyes opened, the first thing they saw was the face of Jesus."
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BFP #2 12/20/11 | EDD 8/24/12 | Natural M/C 12/22/11
BFP #3 5/13/12 (Mother's Day!) | EDD 1/23/13 | Natural M/C 6/9/12 (blighted ovum discovered 6/7/12 at 7w1d)
"And to think when their little eyes opened, the first thing they saw was the face of Jesus."
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Re: Intro and question about bed sharing with #2 on the way
I don't have much advice but im in the same position - what i PLAN on doing is night weaning off the boob - so far it's a work in progress- and we set up a toddler bed in our room - so far we've transferred him over 3 nights in a row when he's in a deep deep deep sleep (before he would read books and feel comfortable with the bed) ...so far that's been working for us.
Tip on transferring - at least what worked for us - we use one of our pillows in order for LO to lean against - i'm assuing the smell and feel reminds him of our bed?
Our plan is to sleep with DS in between DH and I and the NB in the crib side-car just next to me. DS does some naps in a floor bed in his own room and he starts the night there, so I don't think he and baby will ever be napping together without an adult, which I know won't be safe until baby is older.
As for nursing, you may find that your DD's nursing habits change naturally by nature of her aging and by nature of your supply changing during the PG. Check out the book Adventures in Tandem Nursing for more on this.
Personally, at 12 mo, DS was nursing every 2 hours at night, now he nurses around 12:30 am, 4:30 am, and 6:30 am for 5 min or less and that is about it.
More Green For Less Green
i have no advice beyond i weaned the boob before the bedsharing by first reduciing length of time nursing then offering water in the night.
i just wanted to ask pixieprincess what wrap is in her siggy, i love that shade of red
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
More Green For Less Green
Keeping in mind that my DS was 19 months when I got pregnant, night time is SO MUCH BETTER now that I'm pregnant! DS hardly nurses at all. He went from sounding a lot like your LO to night weaning easily by probably 10 weeks and now he is down to asking for "na na" twice a week, and then usually not latching (or if he does it is only for 30 seconds).
But really. The changes in your milk may make a big difference in night time in a few weeks. It has helped us out a lot. GL!
Oh gosh I hope so! She is SUCH an avid nurser!
BFP #2 12/20/11 | EDD 8/24/12 | Natural M/C 12/22/11
BFP #3 5/13/12 (Mother's Day!) | EDD 1/23/13 | Natural M/C 6/9/12 (blighted ovum discovered 6/7/12 at 7w1d)
"And to think when their little eyes opened, the first thing they saw was the face of Jesus."
My Ovulation Chart | My Baby Name List
I could have written this post when DD was small. My due date was her 2nd birthday and she was still nursing all night long! As my milk changed, she actually weaned herself and was completely done BF (we were only nursing at night after a year) by about 19 months.
As for bedsharing, DD sleeps between DH and I and DS sleeps on the other side of me. Now that they are both older, depending on what side I am nursing on, I don't mind if the two of them are both in the middle together.
Thank you for the hope!
BFP #2 12/20/11 | EDD 8/24/12 | Natural M/C 12/22/11
BFP #3 5/13/12 (Mother's Day!) | EDD 1/23/13 | Natural M/C 6/9/12 (blighted ovum discovered 6/7/12 at 7w1d)
"And to think when their little eyes opened, the first thing they saw was the face of Jesus."
My Ovulation Chart | My Baby Name List
I'll echo this. Once I hit second Tri, my supply tanked. She barely gets anything from the breast. She still needs to be "nursed" to sleep, but her night feedings have decreased, coinciding with my supply ranking.
As far as advice, I have none. I was just about to post the same thing. DD won't sleep anywhere except snuggled up to me.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12