Fell in love with a middle name I can't use

JoJo1111 · May 2012

I have fallen in love with the name Amelia Grey. I love the idea of a strong middle name with a feminine first name and surprisingly, my husband likes it as well. On mother's day I mentioned to my sister and her boyfriend of 4 years that we liked the middle name Grey and it turns out that is his middle name and his fathers and his grandfathers. Although they are not married and are not expecting, I don't think I could use Grey without causing some huge drama. Any ideas of strong names on the masculine side of things? Preferably 1 syllable? My distant second choice is Amelia Sloane. Thanks!

mrsbird1129 · May 2012

Wait, so you can't use Grey because your sisters boyfriend uses it as a middle name? Even IF they have a child together and IF it's a boy and use it as a middle name, why can't you both use it? It's a middle name, not a first.

What about Amelia Rae?

DoublePortion · May 2012

Amelia Rae

Amelia Drew

Amelia Ryan

Amelia Vaughn

clineak · May 2012

If it were me, I'd probably still use Grey. What if he and your sister break up at some point? You'll probably kick yourself for not using it. You said you talked to her, right? Did she make it seem like there would be major drama if you used the name? All that being said, other middle name ideas could include (although I'm not sure how "strong" they are--sorry:

Delaney

Opal

Rain

Ryann

JoJo1111 · May 2012

mrsbird1129:
Wait, so you can't use Grey because your sisters boyfriend uses it as a middle name? Even IF they have a child together and IF it's a boy and use it as a middle name, why can't you both use it? It's a middle name, not a first.
What about Amelia Rae?

I know it is just a middle name and they may break up or have 5 girls but my sister would be upset if I used it first so I am trying to put it out of my mind and find something I love equally or more. Rae is a good one, thanks!

mrsbird1129 · May 2012

That is very thoughtful of you. It bugs me when people pull the whole, "I want to use this name one day maybe and you better not use it" guilt on people. Hopefully you find something you love just as much then! I personally love the middle name Rae.

Wufroggy79 · May 2012

Name your kid whatever you want. It is childish to expect people "not to use your name." They didn't copyright it. Do what you want. You came up with it before you even knew the history there. Plus, this is a boyfriend. They aren't married. You have "dibs" if you are going to play games.

Manderlin923 · May 2012

Well, I love Gray and think you should still use it.

Other ideas, not sure how strong these are-

June, Brynn, Dane, Flynn, Rain, Ruth, Blue, Blake, Brooke, Greer, Paige, Quinn, Sage,

JoJo1111 · May 2012

My sister is a drama queen but I love her! Thank you all for the great ideas, my husband and I really like some of them (Greer and Ray especially).

kerribear1717 · May 2012

It's a middle name use it.:::stalkibg TB for another BSC post about " my sister stole my future baby's name":::

stahlop · May 2012

I've always loved Amelia Wren.

vilaro · May 2012

Amelia May

zaramarie81 · May 2012

I say use Grey. It's a middle name, which means it's easy for other family members to still use it if they want to. I have been pondering giving our LO the same mn as my nephew (actually, it's very similar to Grey!). I share a mn with two stepsisters. And if a child was given my mn as a fn? It wouldn't feel weird at all since we would still go by different fn's.

ETA: Well, unless your sister will make your life miserable if you use it. (Hate it when family members do that!). I like Joy, Pearl or Clare (sorry, never been a fan of the name Rae!).

Cynthia1207 · May 2012

It's a MN. It's not like it'll actually be used and the fact that you didn't even know about her BF of 4 years' MN is a testament to how this is a non-issue. I understand you don't want to upset her and that's pretty awesome of you but I would still name her the way I want. She is your child, not your sisters and so many people have the same middle names in families. I think she's being a little selfish here...

MelissaRae1525 · May 2012

I don't think it's a big deal. Has she TOLD you there is going to be drama? IF they ever have a child and IF they ever want to use the same mn it's not a big deal. On my dad's side, all the boy cousins have either the middle name James or Richard. It's kind of cool, James is after one of my dad's brothers and Richard is his father. It's something they all have in common. I know Grey wouldn't be "after" the bf but it would be a pretty cool little secret for two cousins to have

But I do agree that Rae is a great name

kacelle · May 2012

Your sister's boyfriend having Grey as the middle name wouldn't keep me from using it. The popularity of 50 Shades of Grey would.

TofuMama7 · May 2012

I liked the suggestion of Rae that a PP put. It still gives the name the same sound, and I think it goes together well.

ChristyML · May 2012

clineak:
If it were me, I'd probably still use Grey. What if he and your sister break up at some point? You'll probably kick yourself for not using it.

Yes, you might kick yourself for not using it, but you also might be glad you didn't use it (like if the bf and your sister break up nastily).