Ever left LO overnight?

HALFM00N · May 2012

Just wondering how it went... especially if you left them for a few days, were they clingy? I have never done it but I am getting pushed by work to go abroad to get some work done using the facilities there.

My options would be take her, get a nanny (provided by work, but would be Swiss/ German.. English speaking) or take my Mom with us, OR go by myself and leave her with my Mom (not DH). DH doesn't seem to mind (???) and said he'd visit her, but he gets home earliest at 8pm everynight and my parents live in the northern suburbs of NYC (so a bridge is involved). I don't really see that happening. While my Mom can go with us, I can't expect her to take a week off here and there based on my travel schedule.

I honestly can't think of leaving her for an entire week so I am thinking about taking her. I could probably leave her for a night but we've never really had to.

Mom2Mack1 · May 2012

Never for that long of a time. Last August DD stayed overnight with MIL. It went fine but I think now it would be alot different. She's much more clingy now.

HALFM00N · May 2012

Exactly, so I don't want to imagine what clingy will be like after one week of NO DH or me...lol or just me in general.

CaniacMom · May 2012

LO has had two overnights with MIL - once for DH & I to have a date night and just the other night when older DS had a late hockey game and DH was on night shift. He did fine with both of those.

He has also stayed with MIL for me to travel on business a week at a time. It seems that almost every trip falls on DH's week of night shifts- he goes out to her house to pick up older DS to take him to school and see LO then & again in the evening before he goes to work to drop older DS back off. My last trip was in March & he was not particularly clingy then. I am heading out for a 4 day trip on the 29th - I think he may be more clingy when I return from this trip.

RedZee · May 2012

I've never been away from DD for a night. A couple of weeks ago I had a job interview 2 hours away so I dropped her off at 1pm and DH put her to bed that night and I didn't see her until the morning. It was the longest I had gone without seeing her.

We'd really like to have her sleep at my parents' for 1 night at the end of June so we can have a date night, but we're not sure she'll STTN there. Also, I'm still nursing in the morning and before bed. So I need to cut the morning session before I think it's really practical. (I'm working on that now.)

debperdoo · May 2012

DS has had 6 overnights. With my mom twice, my sister twice, dh's mom, and dh's step mom. They always tell me he sleeps really well, usually better then he does at home. It has just been for 1 night at a time, he is excited to see us when we pick him up but not clingy. We do find when he has been with my sister he comes home super crabby, she has kids for him to play with and I think he is just overtired.

freeatlast2014 · May 2012

I left JT once and he slept at our house but my mom was here. He was only 9 months old at the time and he did just fine. I have had a night here and there where someone else was at my house and put him to sleep for the night but we came home at some point before morning. I am really nervous to leave him at someone else's house and I'm also nervous to leave him for any length of time.

This is a toughy - I would probably try to leave him at your mom's if it is feasible...and if that doesn't work then the next time around use the nanny. At least then it's only a few hours a day that you wouldn't be with LO. Or vice versa - try the nanny and if that didn't work use your mom.

Or tell work to stuff it - you aren't going anywhere ;0)

SweetHurricane · May 2012

Is the nanny someone who nannies for other people at your company, or would she be a random person from an agency?

Could your mom stay at your place while you're gone so DH could see DD without having to travel to ILs house?

StellaWeldon · May 2012

We haven't left him yet, but plan to in June for 5 days. He's going to stay with my mom. She's very excited to have him so I hope all goes well!

ffejsGirl · May 2012

With your situation I'd probably leave DD with your parents at their house. Whether you take her or not is sounds like your H won't get to see her much. This way she won't have to travel to another country and neither does your mom. She'll be with someone you trust, and your H will b within driving distance if needed.

DS has stayed overnight countless times at my in-laws or parents, anywhere from 3-10 days at a time.

DD has had 3 overnights without us all at my parents and DS. Both of them love staying with the grandparents. Never been an issue, even though DD is very clingy.

A week last July (6 months old) when we went to Mexico.

A week this past January while I was recovering from surgery.

5 days in April because my parents couldn't visit and wanted to see them, so they met up with us and took them back home with them (they live 3.5 hours away)

In June, H is going to Canada fishing for 8 days. I have to work weekends and don't have daycare then, so DS will be staying with my in-laws and DD will stay with my parents. I'm a little anxious about how they'll do apart because they both would prefer to have each other than either H or I if given the choice

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