I'm so nervous about telling our parents

MelissaRae1525 · May 2012

So this baby thing wasn't planned, although SO and I are very happy together and I am happy to become a mom even though it's not the best time (when is?). So far I have only told my grandma and a few girls from school that have been pregnant. I have my first appointment on Monday so maybe we'll tell after that. I know their reactions aren't going to be the best because I'm still in school for 6 more weeks and SO is looking for a better job. I just want them to be happy for us but I'm afraid they won't be. Trying to not stress but it kills me to not be able to talk to my mom about it. When I asked so when he would want to tell and he said when I go to the hospital to deliver. Um, I think we're going to have to it before that.

kenna_4 · May 2012

How old are you?

If you are an adult and they don't take care of you I think they shouldn't care as long as you have the means to take care of your kid. You are in school for 6 more weeks, your baby isn't coming until next year, I don't think that is a big deal.

We found out I was pregnant with DD a month before our wedding, my Dad was thrilled, my Mom was happy too, just surprised as clearly DD wasn't planned (we were going to try after the wedding so I guess she just wanted to jump the gun).

Tell them in a cute way if you'd like, send them a picture of your first ultrasound picture or give them mugs that say "world's best grandma" or something like that....

GL.

landosmommy · May 2012

Ummmm how old are you???

rjade9 · May 2012

Are you in college or high school?

I was super nervous to tell my mom and dh's parents with my ds because we were not married and hadn't been together all that long. Usually in the end it all works out and everyone is happy! This time around we had a lot of trouble so everyone knew that we were trying!

stardust317 · May 2012

This baby wasn't planned. I'm a 26 year old, married, independent person. I'm terrified of telling my parents. I have no idea why.

MelissaRae1525 · May 2012

Ummmmmm I'm 22. I live at home with my mom and grandparents in the house we share and was planning to stay here after I graduate since apartments here would be expensive to afford on my own. I have 6 more weeks of college, not high school.

rjade9 · May 2012

I'm sure it's not ideal for your parents but you are an adult and I hope you have a great SO! I was in school the whole time I was pregnant with ds and for a bit after. It can be done.

Good luck telling everyone!

Allycat11 · May 2012

MelissaRae1525:

Ummmmmm I'm 22. I live at home with my mom and grandparents in the house we share and was planning to stay here after I graduate since apartments here would be expensive to afford on my own. I have 6 more weeks of college, not high school.

I think your best bet when you tell them is to have a financial plan in place for how you are going to provide for your child. If you are still depending on your parents financially, I can understand why they may not be excited for you. Either way, I truly do wish you the best of luck.

ta78 · May 2012

I agree to get some sort of plan in place before you tell them.

With DS I was 25, newly engaged and DH and I both had good jobs, but I was still afraid to tell my mom. For good reason because she did get upset, she wanted me to be married and didn't think I was ready in general. She avoided the subject most of my pregnancy, but towards the end she did a 180 and really started helping me out. Then once DS was here she couldn't (still can't) get enough.

The baby is coming regardless of how your parents feel. In the end, they will be supportive of you as it seems they are right now while you are in school. Be glad you will get to finish college before the baby gets here also, a lot of moms have to drop out.

I wish you luck when you do decide to tell them and until then, try not to worry too much about it.

MelissaRae1525 · May 2012

Thanks everyone, I do plan on finding a cute way to tell them, like the u/s pic if we get one Monday. I know their first reactions aren't going to be the best but I think they will get over it quickly and melt once they see it, especially my grandpa. My grandma is going with me to the appointment and will be there with me when I tell my mom. I'm just so nervous so thank you all for your reassurance.

==N== · May 2012

I agree with pp's to have a plan in place when you tell them. Be prepared to answer any questions they will have about how you plan to support it. They might be shocked at first once they see that youre working hard to be able to take care of your baby Im sure they'll come around and be excited to be grandparents!

a eliza13 · May 2012

I'm nervous to tell my mom too. I'm not sure how she's going to react because my SO and I aren't married (yet) and she's very traditional with the "marriage before children" thing. Hopefully she'll get over it quickly and be excited for us. I'm sure your mom will be happy for you...after the initial shock. Just be confident and don't stress too much. Everything will work out and congrats!

sammich078 · May 2012

I'm pretty nervous to tell my parents too. My mom has talked a lot to me about finishing school and working for a few years before having kids (I'm about 1/2 way through my Master's degree).

I know they might be a little shocked at first but I'm positive they will come around pretty quickly. That initial reaction is what I'm dreading though!

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