Those with Toddlers - Anyone terrified?

cchill01 · May 2012

I'm having a major panic. My 2.5 year old is a big time Momma's girl. She insists that I do everything for her - bath, bedtime, breakfast, diapers, everything. She has recently become extremely moody and throws major tantrums on a daily basis. Tonight she had a tantrum that included screaming about how she didn't want a baby to come. I know she doesn't really get it, but I'm just terrified about what the future holds. I can't possibly do everything for an infant and a toddler. But, we can't figure out how to transition some of the responsibilities.

Anyone else really nervous?

misthang_1 · May 2012

Yup...I'm definitely worried about how this is all going to go down. DS will be 18 months when his sister is born. He has NO clue what is happening and I'm having a RCS, so I won't be able to pick him up or get up and down to play with him the way I usually do!

I'm lucky that we have family near by who will be helping me with him and DD A LOT!

tdjmah · May 2012

I feel the same way. Lately my son wants me to do everything for him. He hasnt said anything about not wanting the baby but I am afraid how he will act. I will be having a csection and I worry about how he will be while im in the hospital. I have baby sat multiple kids before but I am scared that I wont be able to handle a newborn and a toddler. I dont want DS to feel replaced or neglected.

Stefaniepr · May 2012

DS went through this about 2 months ago. I finally made DH step up and start doing bed and bath time every other night. It took some getting used to, but I know when baby gets here I won't be able to do it all. It was tough at first, but sooooo worth it. Now I sit downstairs and listen to the giggles coming from the bath tub.

HiggyFan42 · May 2012

I am definitely worried. DD will be 19 mo old when DD2 is born. She is also a total momma's girl. DH always puts her to bed and that goes just fine but, for instance, last night she had a dirty diaper and I was too exhausted to go upstairs to change her so DH tried to take her up. She screamed bloody murder and was hitting him on hte back of the head! I didn't even know she had that in her.

Like PP, we are trying to have DH do more with her, like baths and such. Thing is, if I'm not around, she is perfectly fine with DH... but as soon as she sees me- different story!

I know it will all work out in the end but it makes me nervous.

emberlee3 · May 2012

Start transitioning her now. There are times when DS wants me to give him his bath or pick him up or whatever, and I am just not feeling up to it. A few tears because Daddy has to do something are not going to scar him for life. It's a fact, especially if you are planning to BF, that you are going to be less available for a while. Your toddler will have to accept help from others. She will get over it.

My DS is definitely a little more clingy these days. I think he knows his life is about to be turned upside down.

aprillle · May 2012

I am pretty worried about it - DD just turned two a few weeks ago and lately she has been very clingy with me and having some major tantrums. But the H works from home so she is very attached to him and used to him doing things for her and with her.

I think she knows something big is about to happen but doesn't really get the whole baby thing because she is the baby!

We did get her a baby doll with a stroller and bottles and such - she took one look at the baby doll and flung it right over her shoulder!

Soooooo.......looks like we get to monitor her very closely with her baby brother!

sam19 · May 2012

Yes yes yes! It's absolutely my biggest fear about having this baby. My daughter has been extremely defiant lately. She also only wants me to do things. Her dad can't put her to bed or do certain things for her. It has to be me and that's not going to be feasible when I have my c-section. I have so many more fears when it comes to this. Ugh.

CaitlinJ22 · May 2012

This is #3 and when DD was born DS was onlly 18 months. He had a 2 week period where he was very upset, but we had my mom and DH around to distract him. Every time I nursed her DS cried, it was hard.

One big thing that someone told me was that I should expect the cold shoulder from my son for a little while. And my hormones would make me more upset about it. They were right, and it lasted a short time.

They are best friends now.

I can tell you that 2 is a HARD age. Remind yourslef that she would be acting like this whether you were having/or had a new baby or not. That helped me a lot. She is a toddler. Tantrums happen when they dont know how to deal with the desires and feelings they have, and get overwhelmed. It will pass.

EMOmamma · May 2012

Yes, H and I were just talking about this last night. J has had a few days lately where he goes on a mom strike & only mom can do anything (play, get food, change diapers, etc) if dad tries he has full on level 5 meltdowns.

We think he's going to be really curious about baby the first few days but after he realizes baby is staying for good we're afraid he'll be very jealous.

geauxfrogs · May 2012

DD is more of a preschooler than toddler, but I'm still worried. I think she is totally overestimating her role in taking care of baby. I'm worried she is going to try more than she should with baby. She talks about carrying baby, taking care of baby when he/she cries at night, and naming baby. She doesn't like it when I tell her that mommy and daddy get to name baby.

She's been our only child for 4 years, so it will be interesting to see her share us. I'm also a little worried about bathroom issues too. She's been potty trained for about a year and a half, but I've heard about kiddos regressing in that area.

mamameg11 · May 2012

I am more afraid of the first 2 weeks while I recover from my c section. DD is excited for her baby brother to get here, but she does like me to hold her and pick her up a lot, which I won't be able to do. I'll have help from DH and family, but DD is definitely attached to her mommy. I know we'll get through it, but I also know between the c section pain and lack of sleep, a fussy toddler who's not getting her way will add to my stress. We are planning on getting her some fun new toys to hopefully be able to distract/entertain her and keep her from crawling all over me in the first couple weeks. I am really nervous though, just ready for DS to get here so we can start tackling the challenges!

angelrue522 · May 2012

Yes, and the sad thing for me is that my DS just turned 4 and he is still SOOO demanding. He is a very "spirited" and stubborn child. This is definetely going to be a parenting challenge. I thought a 4 year difference would be a good spread, but I am thinking I was wrong. Lately he has reverted back to "baby ways" He wants me to dress him, hold him like a baby and do everything for him and the baby isnt even here yet!. I am worried he will start potty regression.

I guess just hope for the best.

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