Community› The Bump Message Boards› TTC after 35
TTC after 35
New Discussion

Did we stop too soon?

MarylandWedMarylandWed member
in TTC after 35

Obsessing newbie here. I get ovulation cramps and I have been monitoring their occurance for the last several months. I usually get them CD12, 13 or 14 which would have meant today, tomorrow or Friday. We BD'd Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday. Today we took a break. Tonight I finally got a positive OPK. Last time I had a positive OPK I got the cramps the next day (of course I have no idea if the cramps coincide with before, during or after ovulation). I did start having EWCM on Monday that seems to have ceased tonight

So my question is, assuming I ovulate tomorrow, was it a bad idea that we didn't BD today? Should we try again tomorrow? Does the OPK detect ovulation or just that ovulation is close? Thank you for your insights. I have TCOYF but I haven't had a chance to read it yet. Btw I am 39 and h is 37. I have LPD and a "High normal but acceptable" FSH. This is our second cycle trying for our first. Thanks!

Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
Report Reply to Post

Re: Did we stop too soon?

  • annaliselannalisel member
    No, it's not bad that you didn't BD today. If you have good CM, the sperm can live for a few days. However, you can ovulate from the day of the + OPK to up to 3 days later so definitely BD tomorrow night. Good luck!
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • Maybe JoleisaMaybe Joleisa member

    The +OPK detects rising LH, which means you are gearing up to ovulate--an OPK does not detect ovulation. 

     


    image
    TTC since 10/2010
    IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
    IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
    IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
    IVF # 3 (June 2013) = BFN 
    IVF # 4 (September 2013) = BFP Fraternal twin boys! (Loss at 21w6d due to IC on 1/26/14...devastated.)
    3/21/14--TAC (transabdominal cerclage) w/Dr. Davis in NJ
    IVF # 5 (May 2014) = BFN
    FET (August 2014) = BFN

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
    Report Reply
  • MarylandWedMarylandWed member
    Thank you. I am having the cramps now (on the left side which is weird because that almost never happens on the left). I just took an OPK which looks like it may be inconclusive (I may not have put it in the urine long enough). I also have the EWCM again. I have a meeting this afternoon but I guess I'll race home after to DTD.
    Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
    Report Reply
  • dhreczuckdhreczuck member

    I've been told to BD, day of positive opk and the two days after. That being said i've always jumped the gun and BD several days before I get my actual positive. I think you should try to get one in this evening.

    I've also heard the cramps don't mean all that much in terms of exactly when you ovulate, you can be crampy before, during and after so try not to read too much into it.

    Good Luck!

    nate and teddy
    Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
    ** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!     Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Report Reply
  • JennyP1JennyP1 member

    I've been doing IUI so I've forgotten all about timing of BD-ing, (other than just for fun of course) so I'm of very little help on this topic :)  But based on the great advice from all of the PPs you should be good if you DTD tonight!

     Good Luck!

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • mnemonemnemone
    I'd do it again today, just to be sure!  I usually ovulate the day after a positive OPK.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • MarylandWedMarylandWed member
    Thanks so much - we did it! And I must say I am happy to be done for the time being. You couldn't pay me to have sex again right now LOL. I did have another positive OPk today and am satisfied with the old college try we gave it. We shall see!
    Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"