Conversations when you have a lot to say, buy don't

mAnYaSha · May 2012

Yesterday we went to watch our Goddaughter play Tball. One of the moms on the bleachers is due, so much of the conversation was about birth. This is her 4^th one. One of her horror stories was that her epidurals do not take. Man, the nurse did not believe it and said it was in her mind because she was watching the machine. So, she turned her back to the machine and was telling the nurse when she would start and stop contraction. The nurse was surprised. Lady: ?I told you I could feel EVERYTHING!!!?

That?s a horror story, right?

My Goddaughter?s mom: ?Yeah, I was in labor with #2 for 20 hours, but it?s ok, I was happily medicated the whole time?

Ready- to-pop lady: ?Oh man, I thought my water broke, but it was my clip-on hand sanitizer dripping. I would love to experience my water breaking on its own. Instead all my births were induced.?

Of course I do not know her well enough, but what are the odds of all 3 kids needing to be induced? Mind you, she is in a very good physical shape and did not seem to be having any problems with blood pressure or sugar (just observing her eating, moving, etc)

I was glad when the game was over. LOL

RockyMtnMama · May 2012

LOL at the clip-on sanitizer?! Why was she wearing clip-on sanitizer and why would Purell dripping down your hip be like your water breaking?! Hilarious. I would have asked more about that to steer the conversatoin away from comparing war-stories about labor.

Birth stories are very easily percieved differently by different people. Heck, I call my second birth a great birth - 6 hours, unmedicated, surprise vaginal breech baby birth, healthy baby boy, only complication was a bad tear (4th degree) after a necessary episiotomy. My friends who saw it (and are totally natural birth moms) and my DH were like - woah...scary moment with gross episiotomy and baby's butt out long before the head.

That opened my eyes to the idea that other people's stories don't factually represent birth so much as their own perception wrapped in emotions and labor stress.

It doesn't stop me from being a little judgy either, but I'm working on that.

LaurelBee · May 2012

I was a little confused about the hand sanitizer=water breaking too! But I guess if you've never felt it, your imagination could go wild

judahsmommy1 · May 2012

mAnYaSha:
Yesterday we went to watch our Goddaughter play Tball. One of the moms on the bleachers is due, so much of the conversation was about birth. This is her 4^th one. One of her horror stories was that her epidurals do not take. Man, the nurse did not believe it and said it was in her mind because she was watching the machine. So, she turned her back to the machine and was telling the nurse when she would start and stop contraction. The nurse was surprised. Lady: ?I told you I could feel EVERYTHING!!!?

That?s a horror story, right?

My Goddaughter?s mom: ?Yeah, I was in labor with #2 for 20 hours, but it?s ok, I was happily medicated the whole time?

Ready- to-pop lady: ?Oh man, I thought my water broke, but it was my clip-on hand sanitizer dripping. I would love to experience my water breaking on its own. Instead all my births were induced.?

Of course I do not know her well enough, but what are the odds of all 3 kids needing to be induced? Mind you, she is in a very good physical shape and did not seem to be having any problems with blood pressure or sugar (just observing her eating, moving, etc)

I was glad when the game was over. LOL

You can appear to be in perfect health and still routinely get pre-eclapsia with pregnancy. It's not something that you can tell someone has by looking at them. I try not to judge the reasons for people's interventions without knowing what happened.

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