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Please tell me I can do it!

stoneycakesstoneycakes member
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Hi ladies,

I'm mostly a lurker on this board and I love to read all of your inspiring stories. I'm a FTM who has been totally confident about giving birth naturally until now at 38 weeks when the reality of birth is so close.  I guess my big belly must be broadcasting a message to people to tell me their horror stories, lol.  I keep hearing ones that go "oh so and so wanted a natural birth just like you... (pause for drama) then she was begging for the epidural after a few hours!" Of course, a lot of these stories end with c-sections to boot.

I know I'm not a wimp when it comes to pain.  I've been through a few surgeries and have had natural miscarriage where I did have legitimate contractions for a few hours without needing any pain meds.  I guess I'm just afraid that maybe everyone is right and I have no freaking idea what I'm getting myself into.  Please give me a boost of confidence! Thanks!

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  • phq2011phq2011
    You can do it. It takes determination and confidence in yourself. I have been concerned about the pressure of nurses and doctors more than myself, but I have a very open bond with my husband and now a doula (which we will be hiring shortly) to advocate when I am most vulnerable. If you believe in your own power, you can do it. I really mean that.
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  • hannahbagelshannahbagels member

    You can do it! :) 

    Read some of the birth stories on here to counter the horror stories people are rudely telling you.

    Is SO on the same page as you regarding a natural birth? Your labor support makes the world of difference :) Hope it all goes smoothly.  

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  • byrne15byrne15 member
    There isn't anything you cannot do

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  • judahsmommy1judahsmommy1
    Your body is made to do this! Your body has been preparing to do this for months. You can totally do this!
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  • EMOmammaEMOmamma member

    Everyone likes to tell the roughest, toughest stories b/c they like the drama.  There are tons of wonderful stories but since they're "boring" they don't get repeated as much.  

    At 36 weeks I'm getting nervous now too.  Some days I'm excited and ready to go, others I just think WTF am I going to do?!  When that happens I try some positive visualization - it helps calm me down to picture everything going perfect.  


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  • BonidiebabeBonidiebabe
    I am the biggest whimp when it comes to pain and I did it. DH told me after the fact that he had no condifence I could go med free. It's all about mind set. You can push all those stupid stories aside and let your body do the work. Just relax your mind and your body as much as possible to allow your body to make it happen.  
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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    Ugh what is it with people telling pregnant women horrible birth stories.

    I've had two fabulous natural births, and wouldn't do it any other way.

     You can absolutely do this, I was amazed at how my body really just did what it needed and i really just tagged along. Yeah it's hard work but so is climbing a mountain.

    Best wishes for your upcoming birth and your new wee arrival. very excited for you!! 

     

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  • jennyann28jennyann28 member
    You can totally do it. Ditto what PP said about having a great support person as well. I don't really know the my DH thought I could do it, but he knew how determined I was & how much I wanted to go natural. He really helped me the whole time, and especially when *I* didn't think I could do it.
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  • katcarlskatcarls member
    You can do it!  I've had two med-free births and both were great experiences.  I was actually a little excited about the whole thing prior to my second birth and now that we're probably done having kids, I'm kind of sad that I won't be doing it again.
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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom
    You can do it! It is so worth it.
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  • stoneycakesstoneycakes member
    Thanks, Ladies! I feel better already Smile I'll let you know how it goes.
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  • RMama2012RMama2012 member
    You can definitely do it!  I just did this past Friday!  The biggest thing for me was having a good support person.  I thought my husband would be good but he turned out useless.  My mother in law was Godsend (go figure, I didn't even want her to come to the hospital) and I wouldn't have done it without her.  When I left my house I wanted the drugs so badly but my Dr wouldn't send me to the hospital.  I will share my story when I have some time in the next few days.
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  • choppinbroccoli22choppinbroccoli22 member

    Haha, at 38 weeks, I think I was studying my belly and seeing my upcoming L&D as an impossible physics dilemma. I was imagining Kirsty Alley yelling at John Travolta about watermelons and lemons.

    Did you know that right now, your uterus is the most powerful muscle in your body? And it's smooth muscle, involuntary contractions only. That says to me, nature knows what it's doing. It's so easy to fight nature, though. That's why it's wonderful to be prepared with a whole battery of relaxation and pain relieving techniques. If you have time to read a book, "Easing Labor Pain" was a huge help to me.

     Good luck!

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  • alanapalanap

    You can do it!!!! 

    I did it, I know lots of others that have done it and just think about the thousands/millions of women that did it before modern medical interventions - that's how mankind got to where it is today!

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