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Cranang · May 2012

Babies showers are becoming a little too precioius. Wanting something to be nice is WAY different from going over the top.

It's like Prom. I HAD to have a $400 dress (in 1995), go to dinner at the fanciest place, get a limo, etc. I thought it was such a huge deal. The reality was a night of mediocre food, a cramped limo, terrible pics and having sex with my boyfriend in a park before we went to his parents' cabin on the lake (they were there). Hardly a memorable evening. But I obsessed over it beforehand.

Apply this scenario to baby showers. Seriously, it's just a shower. It's not a wedding. It's not even the most important day in your pregnancy.

PunkyBooster · May 2012

Is this about the photographer?

I don't even remember prom. I vaguely do. And I didn't drink. How's that for unmemorable. LOL

Cranang · May 2012

There have just been a few posts lately where the ladies seem to think that it is going to be some sort of fairy tale event. Just putting a little TOO much thought into something that's supposed to be fairly intimate and low-key. You don't have a guest list the size of a wedding guest list. You don't have to fill up every second with little kitschy things. It just seems like a lot of over-the-top planning for something so insignificant in the grand scheme...

PunkyBooster · May 2012

Some people are just crazy. The bump just happens to see more of them than usual.

Ohh let's go troll 2nd tri for some goodies. lol

Cranang · May 2012

Boards are dead today...this sucks. We need drama. I'm about to create an AE.

jnjmommy0609 · May 2012

To each their own..some want to make it a big deal while others don't. There isn't a right or wrong way to do it in my opinion

dufferoo · May 2012

Hey now, sex in the park sounds memorable! Wheeee! But probably wouldn't translate well to a baby shower anyways.

cwm11985 · May 2012

I agree. I absolutely do not understand these women having MELTDOWNS and freak outs over their shower (people not buying off the registry, only 20 people showing up, not wanting to have to deal with duplicates, throwing their own shower, etc). I'd hate to know any of them in real life.

lovebug33 · May 2012

I guess I look at my baby shower differently. It took us four years and nine months to get pg and we had to do IVF, For my friends, this isn't a time to give me presents and all of that. It's a time to celebrate the fact that something we had almost given up on ever happening has happened. So, if I don't get everything off my registry, I could care less. I get to have my friends with me and we are going to have fun and praise God and all that is holy that we will get to welcome this little girl into our family!

Cranang · May 2012

lovebug33:
I guess I look at my baby shower differently. It took us four years and nine months to get pg and we had to do IVF, For my friends, this isn't a time to give me presents and all of that. It's a time to celebrate the fact that something we had almost given up on ever happening has happened. So, if I don't get everything off my registry, I could care less. I get to have my friends with me and we are going to have fun and praise God and all that is holy that we will get to welcome this little girl into our family!

I get that, but there are other ways to celebrate a baby. A shower IS about the presents. And just because something is overdone, that doesn't make it more special. Just like with weddings, the huge overdone weddings usually aren't nearly as intimate and special to everyone involved.

rhubarb123 · May 2012

I look at showers (bridal and baby) much the same way I look at graduation open houses. They are NOT the "best" or "most important" part of the whole process.

On that note...my niece is having an gradutation open house for her son and has already spent $6,000!!!!! She is expecting 500 people there. Now THAT is definitely over-the-top!!!

PunkyBooster · May 2012

First bday parties can fall into these categories. We attended one where mom spent $1500. She had a jump castle, a balloon artist, a face painter, and a magician.

HungryRunner76 · May 2012

Cranang:

Babies showers are becoming a little too precioius. Wanting something to be nice is WAY different from going over the top.

It's like Prom. I HAD to have a $400 dress (in 1995), go to dinner at the fanciest place, get a limo, etc. I thought it was such a huge deal. The reality was a night of mediocre food, a cramped limo, terrible pics and having sex with my boyfriend in a park before we went to his parents' cabin on the lake (they were there). Hardly a memorable evening. But I obsessed over it beforehand.

Apply this scenario to baby showers. Seriously, it's just a shower. It's not a wedding. It's not even the most important day in your pregnancy.

If a baby shower was like your prom, it sounds like mix of Teen Mom and My Sweet 16. (I know you weren't saying to literally apply the scenario, but that's where my head went). Big Smile

I also agree with what you said, btw.

boymomstrong · May 2012

So i dont get a limo? And my dress costing $600 is too much? What about the buttlers i hired to serve my guests? And the gold engraved plaques? All too much for my shower??? lol

Totally joking btw! And i so agree! i am really in it for the cake! I cant wait! )

Cranang · May 2012

HungryRunner76:
Cranang:

Babies showers are becoming a little too precioius. Wanting something to be nice is WAY different from going over the top.

It's like Prom. I HAD to have a $400 dress (in 1995), go to dinner at the fanciest place, get a limo, etc. I thought it was such a huge deal. The reality was a night of mediocre food, a cramped limo, terrible pics and having sex with my boyfriend in a park before we went to his parents' cabin on the lake (they were there). Hardly a memorable evening. But I obsessed over it beforehand.

Apply this scenario to baby showers. Seriously, it's just a shower. It's not a wedding. It's not even the most important day in your pregnancy.

If a baby shower was like your prom, it sounds like mix of Teen Mom and My Sweet 16. (I know you weren't saying to literally apply the scenario, but that's where my head went).

I also agree with what you said, btw.

morethancottoncandy · May 2012

Cranang:
HungryRunner76:
Cranang:

Babies showers are becoming a little too precioius. Wanting something to be nice is WAY different from going over the top.

It's like Prom. I HAD to have a $400 dress (in 1995), go to dinner at the fanciest place, get a limo, etc. I thought it was such a huge deal. The reality was a night of mediocre food, a cramped limo, terrible pics and having sex with my boyfriend in a park before we went to his parents' cabin on the lake (they were there). Hardly a memorable evening. But I obsessed over it beforehand.

Apply this scenario to baby showers. Seriously, it's just a shower. It's not a wedding. It's not even the most important day in your pregnancy.

If a baby shower was like your prom, it sounds like mix of Teen Mom and My Sweet 16. (I know you weren't saying to literally apply the scenario, but that's where my head went).

I also agree with what you said, btw.

Now that is hilarious!

HungryRunner76 · May 2012

Cranang:
HungryRunner76:
Cranang:

Babies showers are becoming a little too precioius. Wanting something to be nice is WAY different from going over the top.

It's like Prom. I HAD to have a $400 dress (in 1995), go to dinner at the fanciest place, get a limo, etc. I thought it was such a huge deal. The reality was a night of mediocre food, a cramped limo, terrible pics and having sex with my boyfriend in a park before we went to his parents' cabin on the lake (they were there). Hardly a memorable evening. But I obsessed over it beforehand.

Apply this scenario to baby showers. Seriously, it's just a shower. It's not a wedding. It's not even the most important day in your pregnancy.

If a baby shower was like your prom, it sounds like mix of Teen Mom and My Sweet 16. (I know you weren't saying to literally apply the scenario, but that's where my head went).

I also agree with what you said, btw.

Oh. My.

I'm really curious to know what the original source of that PIP is!

lizztheo · May 2012

rhubarb123:
I look at showers (bridal and baby) much the same way I look at graduation open houses. They are NOT the "best" or "most important" part of the whole process.

On that note...my niece is having an gradutation open house for her son and has already spent $6,000!!!!! She is expecting 500 people there. Now THAT is definitely over-the-top!!!

That costs more than my wedding! Our wedding was 5k, not including honeymoon. I can't believe how much people spend on throwing parties and showering, I understand food costs but when you start having it so big you have to rent a separate venue...I think that's nuts. My bridal showers were at the hosts backyards. My baby shower is going to be a bit larger and I think it'll be at our church, but it's not like they are renting out a hotel ballroom.

And there are way too many posts about people obsessing over their registry. I will be so thankful for any gift I receive, even if it's a duplicate or not on the registry. Has anyone heard of returns?

littlepenguins · May 2012

Whatever gene it is that makes people want to be the center of attention, I do not have it. I didn't have a bridal shower, I probably won't have a baby shower (of course I lurk here anyway), and our wedding had 50 people. In general, I resist any occasion where people feel obligated to bring me a gift.

I totally get it if someone who has had problems conceiving for years wants to have a big shower (or, rather, if her friends are so excited for her that they want to throw a big shower, if she's thrown shower after shower herself over the years), but I agree that the trend is way too over the top.

MelleTX · May 2012

"How precious is this wedding going to get, I ask you"

- M'Lynn Eatenton, Steel Magnolias.

Cranang · May 2012

MelleTX:

"How precious is this wedding going to get, I ask you"

- M'Lynn Eatenton, Steel Magnolias.

LOL...EXACTLY the line I was thinking of when I wrote the post!

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