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rsp247 · May 2012

So I would like to start off saying that I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend and monthers day. I was away in the boondocks of PA with no internet. Well there was but it was so slow it wasn't worth trying to play on line.

Anyway I had told LO's father that I had an appointment for my anatomy scan for May 10th back in April. I got no response. I also asked if he wanted to know if it was a boy or girl if I found out. ( we are eam pink by the way) I got no response.

So I decided that I just wants going to contact him anymore because it was a waste of my time as he only responds if I want my things from his house. Which I should just go get one day cause I have keys to his house. What is he going to do call the police and say someone broke in and stole his ex girlfriends things?

Ok So Mothers day came and went and I didn't hear from him. Ok fine wasn't expecting to. I went to bed and when I woke up there is a text from him that he sent at 1:30 in the morning asking me to have dinner with him to talk about things.

Knowing that he is not stable I don't want to meet with him. So after an exhausting day of registering for LO I sent him a text that I didn't think there was all that much to talk about to go to dinner for. He came back with: then good luck with the baby I want nothing to do with it since I am already excluded. I told him that is his choice because when ever I send him a message to tell him about the baby I never get a response. Him: How the F**k should I feel you left me. I then said It is your child, me leaving doesn't change that. So he said: No this is your child and you just used me for a donation and left me everything is the way you want it. I said I'm sorry you feel that way.

I haven't heard from him since.

I wish I knew someone in family law in NJ that could explain all of my perental rights to because the internet is rather confusing. I know he isn't stable and have texts of him tell me he was hospitalized for trying to kill himself and have an email from his ex stating that he broke her ribs while she was pregnant. And I love the fact that he goes to see a therapist who says he is too depressed to work yet I have pics of him all over fb out with his friends drinking and having a good time.

rsp247 · May 2012

I stopped trying after he blew up on me last month for asking for my stuff back but didn't respond to anything i had to say about the baby. He knew I was finding out the sex on Thursday and didn't bother to ask about it or anything so i didn't feel the need to oblige the information for him.

I don't know if it is different where you are from but alot of people here celebrate mothers to be on mothers day. I just find it funny that he waited till it was over to contact me.

A friend of mine's mother works for a family lawyer and she said she would see if i could talk to him without him charging me to much.

FyreFlyeRush · May 2012

tifanico:
You need to only talk to him via email and nothing else. You should stop contacting him while you are pregnant. He already told you that he doesn't want to have anything to do with his kid. Stop trying and file for CS as soon as the baby is born.
It definitely sucks that he is being this way but there is not much you can do. I guess that is better not to expect something than try to reach out and having him to show you time after time that he doesnt care.
You need to talk to a layer before the baby is born. Its better to be informed of what are your rights and what do you want to do after the baby is born.
And, do you have any other kids? If not, I just never thought that you would wish Happy mother`s day to someone that is pregnant.

Well said, as always! Side note, it's generally customary to wish a pregnant woman Happy Mother's Day. Struck me as weird when they did it to me when I was pregnant with my Troll, but you see it a lot. *shrug*

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