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Intro from Dec BMB

drtarajpdrtarajp member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Hello Ladies.... ive been lurking for the past few days and finally got the strength to intro myself. 

We got our first BFP on 4.10.12, after 3 months of TTC. I havent been super involved on the bump boards (mostly a lurker on TTC), but i pretty quickly got active on the Dec BMB FB group. We were due on 12.8.12.

Last Tuesday evening,  i started with some VERY light brown spotting at 9weeks. Called the MD on Wednesday morning, and was told' it was totally normal, take it easy.' I was not comforted by this answer. I had my first prenatal appt at 6w, but they only did blood work and a pap. I hadn't yet had an ultrasound. I called back later on Wednesday and insisted i come in, and they scheduled me for an u/s. I work at the hospital  where my MD is, so i went alone to the appt,  straight from work- big mistake. 

The trans vag u/s was performed. I saw my little baby for the first time, but then the u/s tech said, 'unfortunately, i dont see a heart beat.' that's when my world came crashing down. I was all alone, and never felt in such despair. She also said that the baby stopped growing at 6w4d. The MD talked to me about a natural m/c vs taking the meds or a d&c... much of that conversation was a blur. Oh, and my birthday was the next day...

Yesterday (Monday), I passed the baby. I had been cramping pretty  bad and bleeding since Saturday, but yesterday was the culmination of this process. I haven't worked since Thursday, but plan on going back tomorrow. Im trying to be as strong as possible with the support of my husband and the family and friends who know about our loss. I appreciate the support of the woman on this board and i look forward to getting to know you all. I am so sorry for all of your losses, and appreciate any advice you have to share. 

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BFP #1 4/10/12, lost at 8 weeks.
BFP #2 EDD 4/18/13. Its a Boy!


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Re: Intro from Dec BMB

  • nkempnkemp
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I experienced my 1st loss by myself and it was horrifying. This is a very supportive board. Welcome and I'm sorry that you are here. 
    BFP #1~12/20/08, EDD~8/17/09, natural MC~12/23/08;
    BFP #2~5/25/09, DD born 1/27/10
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    BFP #3~2/13/12, EDD~10/24/12, MC at 12w6d, D&C - We love you baby Addison
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  • ireallywantapugireallywantapug member

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine being alone during that horrible time *hugs*

    I had the same EDD as you.... 

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers ~Michelle~
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  • luvsdogs2luvsdogs2 member
    I had the same EDD, too.  I'm so sorry you're here.  Don't go to work for another day or two unless you absolutely have to :(
    TTC #1 since April 2010
    BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
    BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope that at least the physical process is over soon so that you can start down the road to emotional recovery.

    BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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  • TheFutureMrs08TheFutureMrs08 member

    I'm sorry for your loss! I know how you feel, I just went through something similar but had a D&C over the weekend. 

     I am off work this week to recover both physically and emotionally. I recommend taking a few days off work for you, your employer will completely understand and your doctors office will likely write you off if you need that. 

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    Pregnancy Ticker BFP 4/15/12 - M/C @ 7W D&C 5/12/12
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  • SunshinyLeesSunshinyLees member
    Im so sorry for your loss. Left Hug

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    BFP#1 D&C May 18th 2012 at 9 wks. EDD Dec 17 2012
    BFP#2 CP Sept 17th 2012 at 4.5 wks. EDD May 23 2013
    BFP#3 EDD June 24th 2013 IT'S A GIRL!
    BFP#4 EDD March 2 2015
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  • drtarajpdrtarajp member

    thanks for the support, ladies. I cant believe there are a few of us with the same EDD- we will really need each other when that date nears. i appreciate your kind words. 

    the only reason i am heading back to work is because i need the distraction. DH had to return to work (he is a police officer)and i am driving myself crazy being at home alone. i have a few very good friends at work that know about my loss, and i plan to turn to them for support if i hit some hard times while at work. also, my boss knows about my situation and is very understanding. i know she will be okay with me leaving early or taking a lighter caseload until i am adjusted to being back to work. 

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    BFP #1 4/10/12, lost at 8 weeks.
    BFP #2 EDD 4/18/13. Its a Boy!


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  • racheljourneyracheljourney
    Just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss.  I didn't work for a week after my first MC and only took a day off for this one.  I am finding working is helping as at least it is something I can control.  Take care of yourself!  Its good you a support network. 
    37, TTC since Jan 2011, ectopic 1 at 6 weeks Aug 2011, started acupuncture herbs Jan 2012, ectopic 2 at 6 weeks May 2012, next step referral to a specialist
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  • TaylorCristenTaylorCristen member

    Im so sorry. I really enjoyed the December BMB FB page, it felt like a little family of sisters to me and it seems like so many of us are going thru this.

    BFP 3.28.12
    missed m/c @ 9w5d, baby measured 8w1d, no h/b
    D&C 5.23.12
    heartbroken
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