Do you think about IF on Mother's Day?

JillAly · May 2012

I remember how hard Mother's Day (and other holidays) was when I was struggling with IF. Obviously, we were all lucky and had our dreams come true with having a child. I still think about the struggle and remember wondering if I would ever become a mother. Do you? Do you think you appreciate it more because of your IF struggle? Does it hit your harder on Mother's Day?

halfnhalf · May 2012

I still think about IF almost everyday, unfortunately. Having more kids is always in the back of my mind, so IF creeps into those thoughts. Plus, if LO is being challenging I always remind myself of how I ached for the good and the bad. It's almost like I give myself a guilt trip. Probably not normal, lol. On Mothers Day I do think about my own IF and I also think about the IF issues that I know about, or maybe don't even know about, that others/friends are facing. I remember what a hard day it was for me.

flycka · May 2012

Yes, and ditto to halfnhalf. Not only yesterday but almost every day. I'm soaking in the experience and I'm still in awe that we got her.
And I still remember what it felt like having a full weekend to waste, calling all the mothers I know and and hoping to wake up one day to a little one crying to be fed. It makes the night feedings so precious.

scooterq · May 2012

halfnhalf:
I still think about IF almost everyday, unfortunately. Having more kids is always in the back of my mind, so IF creeps into those thoughts. Plus, if LO is being challenging I always remind myself of how I ached for the good and the bad. It's almost like I give myself a guilt trip. Probably not normal, lol. On Mothers Day I do think about my own IF and I also think about the IF issues that I know about, or maybe don't even know about, that others/friends are facing. I remember what a hard day it was for me.

All of this! I don't think there's a day that goes by that I don't think about IF at at least one point or another. And yesterday I thought about it even more. I thought about how thankful and blessed I feel to have DS, I think about how much MD sucked when I was in the trenches, I think about my friends from the boards and IRL that are still struggling.

PrincessShay80 · May 2012

I can honeslty say I am really put my IF life behind me, yes it will always be a part of my life, but it no longer is in my daily thoughts. I am now happy for people when they are pregnant- I can happily go to baby showers and not have an ounce of jealously. I went through the entire day yesterday just so grateful for my sweet girls that IF didn't even cross my mind. I do think that because of IF I appreciate the little things in life more.

MBandBud · May 2012

I def thought a lot about not really our IF struggles yesterday but more so those that are still struggling. I loathed mothers day although still celebrated our mothers on that day. I really feel for those that are still struggling. I don't feel like I can necessarily relate to them in a productive way, though, because now the success has lessened that hallow feeling of years gone by. I still think about IF but it is different now - I would like more children but there is a big difference between none and one. I pray for those still struggling and hope that they can find peace in some way. I wanted to post and give hugs to those still struggling but I felt like it was not appropriate.

Dragonfly1226 · May 2012

I think about IF all the time. Especially now that we are TTC #2. I do think IF has made me appreciate being a mother so much more. I also can't get through Mother's Day without thinking about all the couples still struggling through IF who would give anything to be parents.

JillAly · May 2012

MBandBud:
I wanted to post and give hugs to those still struggling but I felt like it was not appropriate.

I felt the same way- I remember when women would post on the IF boards after they had kids and while good intentioned, it always seem to end up causing more hurt then help to the other women. I didn't want to do that to them - but it seems I'm not alone in thinking of them as well.

patchen30 · May 2012

To be honest, I was just happy to feel "normal" on Mother's Day. Last year I was pregnant but way too scared to celebrate, and the years before that I was sad (although I tried to concentrate on just celebrating our mothers - something I feel we're lucky to have as well). I try not to think about IF b/c it's still a very painful subject for me. I also feel badly offering support of women still struggling to get pg b/c when I was in the trenches (I feel weird saying that - I feel like I'll always kind of be in the trenches and if I try for #2 certainly will be) it didn't always make me feel better, although people meant well.

FabulousMrs.P · May 2012

Yes. Yesterday I remembered how low I used to feel on this day not knowing if I would ever get the opportunity to experience motherhood. I definitely had some moments yesterday where I remembered our struggles and prayed that the other women out there who are also struggling with IF have their dreams come true.

krissyh21 · May 2012

I am always careful who I say "Happy Mother's Day" too. I knew it stung hard when people would tell me that and I was struggling. I also don't AW about what I was given on FB or other places, because the greatest gift I could ever have is my baby.

And I always want to address the childless mother's out there. It is such a painful day, all holidays were for me - so yes, I do think about it.

krissybegs · May 2012

Yes, I think about infertility on Mother's Day and almost everyday. I also think about the women who I have met on the other boards who are still struggling and mu heart aches for them.

sherryberry2 · May 2012

I think about IF almost everyday. I am so grateful for our daughters but unsure if we will be successful on TTC # 3. I hate the financial, emotional, etc. you have to consider when TTC.

One my first comments yesterday was how I thought I would never get to celebrate Mother's Day. I feel so lucky. I also feel so sad for anyone still struggling to have their first child. I just wanted to hug my girls all day.

newsbaby · May 2012

halfnhalf:
I still think about IF almost everyday, unfortunately. Having more kids is always in the back of my mind, so IF creeps into those thoughts. Plus, if LO is being challenging I always remind myself of how I ached for the good and the bad. It's almost like I give myself a guilt trip. Probably not normal, lol. On Mothers Day I do think about my own IF and I also think about the IF issues that I know about, or maybe don't even know about, that others/friends are facing. I remember what a hard day it was for me.

This exactly.

so1966 · May 2012

krissybegs:

Yes, I think about infertility on Mother's Day and almost everyday. I also think about the women who I have met on the other boards who are still struggling and mu heart aches for them.

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