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DH is so stressed because I am a ticking time bomb!

kimikins79kimikins79 member
in May 2012 Moms

Today is my first day off from work.  I decided to take 1 week before her due date to relax, get some sleep, etc.  As a FTM, I know life is about to change completely and sleep will elude me, so I wanted this time.  I'd also prefer her to arrive this week if she so chose to arrive!

 Anyway, I called DH at work and he seemed upset.  He says he is just feeling soooo stressed because we don't know when the baby is going to get here, when he is going to run out of the office, if we will all be ok, etc etc.  I feel bad, this is really bothering him.

I had an opportunity for an elective c section due to risk levels for should dystocia, but we declined.  He has always told me it was my body,my decision, but now I almost want to pick a date this week for the section because I know it would ease his mind!  I won't do it, because I don't think the section isthe right choice for us, but we are both getting so anxious.

I have tried to tell him this waiting, being patient, etc, is a good exercise for us as new parents.  He agrees, but it doesn't make it any easier!

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  • MrsWPMrsWP member

    I feel you.  My DH hasn't really slept in 2 nights because he has been certain I'll go into labor.   He wakes up at every movement I make (and when you are as pregnant as we are, you move ALOT in your sleep because everything is uncomfortable after a few minutes.)
    He's texted me four times from work today asking if I'm okay and if I need to go to the hospital.  LOL.  It's sweet but I feel bad he's so stressed about it.  I mean.. I'm stressed about it too but not I've kinda accepted that at any moment, our lives are going to change and we just have to go on with our daily lives till that happens.


    Good luck to you and your DH!

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  • lyndsey774lyndsey774 member
    I hear you!!! While DH is a lot more laid back about this, everyone else seems to be not so patiently waiting on LO, and it stresses me out a bit.  I think the best thing to keep in mind, is that this is such a short amount of time in our lives....we are going to look back at this time of anxiety and anxiousness and see it as sweet anticipation.  The main event will be WELL worth the wait, we will be holding our babies, and all will be right with the world.  Hang in there, girl!!! :)
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  • TamTam624TamTam624

    Awe, hang in there.  It is crazy the waiting game.  We have a scheduled c-section date and to be honest it has not helped with the anxiety at all.  Everytime I get up to go the bathroom, DH asks if it is time and this is our 2nd LO. 

    I think it is just part of the whole process and it stinkks. 

    Plus like the previous poster said we move so much and have such a hard time getting comfortable it adds to DHs anxiety that it is going to happen anytime.

    I just called DH to ask him a question about the grocery list and he thought I was calling to tell him to come home we need to go to the hospial.

    Good luck to you!

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  • babydawsonbabydawson
    Right here with yall. The other night I woke up to a pretty big contraction so I let DH know. He sits up and starts blowing in my face. Turns out he was still half asleep but he thought he was helping my breathe. :) He is so ready to time my contractions, but I have only had a few real strong ones at random times. I think that he is so excited because he hasn't been able to do alot in the past 9 months and now he is ready for his job as a coach to start.
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  • michellepeanutmichellepeanut member
    I love our men Smile My DH won't go out with his friends anymore because he's afraid I'll go into labour, I ended up at a bar this weekend with him so that he could spend some time with his buddies and he wouldn't drink more than 2 beers "just in case". I'm pretty sure he has his phone basically glued to his ear because anytime I call him he answers on the first ring.
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  • k8edgertonk8edgerton member

    I would not regret your decision to not have a c-section.

    You are a FTM and he is a FTD... I think it is normal for our DH's to feel a bit apprehensive. My DH has a meeting two hours away tomorrow, he is so convinced that I am going to go into labor while he is at his meeting. I told him that if I did go into labor that he would have time to drive back! I've also stopped calling him at work becasue every time I do, he thinks "ITS TIME!!!" --- Also, if I turn over at night, he is instantly like "Are you okay" and I say "YES! Go to sleep."

    I feel so bad for him but I think it is sweet that he is just as excited as me! 

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  • blueshamrock7blueshamrock7 member

    imagebabydawson:
    Right here with yall. The other night I woke up to a pretty big contraction so I let DH know. He sits up and starts blowing in my face. Turns out he was still half asleep but he thought he was helping my breathe. :) He is so ready to time my contractions, but I have only had a few real strong ones at random times. I think that he is so excited because he hasn't been able to do alot in the past 9 months and now he is ready for his job as a coach to start.

    OK I LOLd picturing him blowing in your face. That is so cute lol.

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