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3rd Trimester
My mother is driving me crazy.
She doesn't like my husband. So when she found out that DH and i are still working on picking a name, she decided to rant on about how I have more of a claim to name the baby what I want because I'm carrying him. Since I like the name Aiden, she's already calling LO that, even though it's not set in stone or even close. Plus she has pretty much refused to come visit us after LO is born simply because she doesn't want to have t be around my husband. I seriously wish she would grow up and stop trying to make everything so dramatic!
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Re: My mother is driving me crazy.
I had a few family members like that.. Called my baby Kyle (neither DH or I liked it) because they decided at a family dinner that I was not at, what the baby was going to be named..
Mind you we found out a few weeks later that "kyle" was a girl... thankfully that shut them up.. not sure I could of handled it for much longer...
Good luck, hopefully, if you mom wants to see her grandchild, she is able to "Man UP" and accept your husband if for no other reason then to make it easier on you!
My nephew is Ayden - such a cute name but overly popular.
Her mind may change, once he enters in the world I'm sure she will want to do nothing more then see him regardless of your husband. You have enough stress... don't let her bother you. You cant change her actions or feelings so all you can do is just let things be.
It's too bad you're mom couldn't learn to get along with your husband before you got pregnant, but maybe having a baby will help her get over it. Obviously he's a big part of your life and he's not going away.
I would be honest with her and tell her that if she wants to spend time with her grandchild she needs to be around your husband. They don't have to be friends, but she has to be accepting of him. If you have this tough conversation before the baby is born, she'll have time to think about it. I'm sure she wants to see her grandchild as often as possible.
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
Yeah. He entered a relationship with me, then married me. My mom is crazy overprotective... still.
I get pretty annoyed when women say that the mother has more of a say in things. It takes two people to make a baby, and provided the baby will be raised by both parents, BOTH parents have a say in all decisions, IMO.
Your mom may say she refuses to visit after LO is born, but I'd be curious to see how serious she is about that. Babies can change family dynamics dramatically, and who knows....she might just learn to accept the fact that this is the man you chose to marry and have a family with, and give him a chance.