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Birthday present WWYD

Andie_83Andie_83 member
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So we decided that a great first birthday present for Z would be a swing set, one of the nice wooden ones. My parents offered us $200 towards it as they thought it was a great idea as well.

My mom suggested that I ask DH's parents if they want to contribute towards the swing set as well bc it's something that Z is going to love and be able to use for a long time. I mentioned it to DH but he said they'll probably just get her whatever they want. Should I even bother asking them if they'd be interested or would it sound greedy? We're seeing them for a Mother's Day bbq tomorrow so I was going to ask them then, but I don't know if I should even bother anymore. They obviously don't have to give as much as my parents, but anything would greatly appreciated, those darn things are expensive LOL Any thoughts?

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  • Syncronicity09Syncronicity09 member
    What if you just mentioned being excited about the swingset you are getting and that your mother pitched in (I would leave out how much)? That way if they want they can offer to pitch in too, if not they can go ahead and get her whatever they want.
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  • tulipblossomtulipblossom

    Have they listened to any other suggestions for gifts in the past? I guess that would factor into if I would ask or not.

    Personally I would mention that since LO has so much stuff, clothing, toys, and what not that you and your parents are going in on the swing-set for her birthday and if they wanted to also contribute they could. One thing I would NOT do is say how much $$ my parents were contributing.

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  • Andie_83Andie_83 member

    LOL Oh god no I definitely will not be saying how much my parents are contributing. I like the idea of just saying how excited we are to be getting this for her, and mention that my parents are chipping in and see what they say. If they don't want to give anything, that's completely fine too!

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    TulipBlossom, I've never actually given any suggestions in the past, I have a thing where I just feel weird asking for anything from people. They've always just gotten Z whatever they wanted.

    Kind of a side note, DH's parents are very detached from other members of the family. They're "home-bodies" who never really leave the house except for work, so suffice it to say that they haven't seen Z since Easter, and that was bc I personally made the effort. They never make an effort to see her and yet act offended that I don't take her there more often (another side note, they both smoke in their house and see no problem with smoking around children so I don't take her there unless absolutely neccessary). Basically where I'm going with this is that because they're not involved, they don't know what kinds of things she likes to play with, etc and just get her whatever, and I feel horrible when Z has no interest in it. I feel like if they chipped in on the swing set, it would actually be something that Z would love (not that they would ever come over to see her enjoy it, but still).  

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  • mesrmesr
    i agree with pp that you shouldn't ask them to contribute.  but if they volunteer, that would be awesome!  if they specifically ask what to get LO for her birthday, you could mention that they are welcome to pitch in toward the swingset or that they could get her something else.  that way it's really their call.
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  • jen&jay07jen&jay07
    We are in the EXACT same situation. DH and I have known for a very long time that we are getting DS a really nice wooden swing set for his first birthday. I mentioned it to my mom about a month ago and she said she would like to contribute. I'm thinking she will give us about $200. I would love, love, love for my ILs to contribute too. They would easily spend that much  money on him, probably more. But they never ask us what we want/need for him. I could never ask them to contribute but we will be seeing them tomorrow so I guess I will really talk up the swing set and quietly mention my mom is contributing. Let's hope out ILs get the hint!
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  • Andie_83Andie_83 member
    Jen+Jay I hope it works for you too lol I will just talk about it and see what happens. The IL's would totally spend that kind of money on Z as well so I would rather it go towards the set, but it's ultimately not up to me :)
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  • Syncronicity09Syncronicity09 member
    Beer Heres to awesome swing sets for both of you! Good luck!
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