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ldmessingldmessing member
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my dh has full custody of 4 sks, bm has visitation weekends only.  this weekend is mothers day, also tonight is my dd college graduation.  4 sks need to go to after school program since we need to leave before bm's visitation time starts at 5pm.  she is refusing to pick them up at school, even though the CO does not specify a pick up/drop off location, and she has picked them up from school before when we have had to travel.  dh even told her she can get them early.

 so we are taking them to the graduation and now she won't get them until sometime tomorrow.

I just don't get it.

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  • ldmessingldmessing member

    she is even threatening to call the police and report the kids as kidnapped if they are not at our house at 5pm today.  the school is 1 mile away.  oldest DSD asked last night, "why suddenly is picking us up at school a problem, she has done it before"  we answer "don't know, guess you need to ask her"

     

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  • ldmessingldmessing member

    I am totally venting here, so forgive me.

    but I don't understand a mother who only gets to see her kids 6 days a month, would not jump at the chance to pick them up a few hours early, regardless of the location

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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member
    imageldmessing:

    I am totally venting here, so forgive me.

    but I don't understand a mother who only gets to see her kids 6 days a month, would not jump at the chance to pick them up a few hours early, regardless of the location

    Because she wants to make you miserable.  Make sure you have in writing (text,e-mail, something) that you offerred to let her get them early or pick them up at school, and then let her call the police.  She doesn't have a leg to stand on.

    Mama of 2: one who grew in my womb, both who grow in my heart.
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  • ldmessingldmessing member
    imageFutureMrsWittig:
    imageldmessing:

    I am totally venting here, so forgive me.

    but I don't understand a mother who only gets to see her kids 6 days a month, would not jump at the chance to pick them up a few hours early, regardless of the location

    Because she wants to make you miserable.  Make sure you have in writing (text,e-mail, something) that you offerred to let her get them early or pick them up at school, and then let her call the police.  She doesn't have a leg to stand on.

    as per our attorney's advice, we have not only the court order that show dh has full custody, including all decision making, it is also OUR weekend with the kids, we traded so she could have them mothers day.  we also have a letter from our attorney that states we made every effort to accomodate her.  as long as those are in our possession, he says exactly what you said, she doesn't have a leg to stand on

    thanks for your support!

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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member
    imageldmessing:
    imageFutureMrsWittig:
    imageldmessing:

    I am totally venting here, so forgive me.

    but I don't understand a mother who only gets to see her kids 6 days a month, would not jump at the chance to pick them up a few hours early, regardless of the location

    Because she wants to make you miserable.  Make sure you have in writing (text,e-mail, something) that you offerred to let her get them early or pick them up at school, and then let her call the police.  She doesn't have a leg to stand on.

    as per our attorney's advice, we have not only the court order that show dh has full custody, including all decision making, it is also OUR weekend with the kids, we traded so she could have them mothers day.  we also have a letter from our attorney that states we made every effort to accomodate her.  as long as those are in our possession, he says exactly what you said, she doesn't have a leg to stand on

    thanks for your support!

     

    Enjoy YOUR mother's day and your DC's graduation.

    Mama of 2: one who grew in my womb, both who grow in my heart.
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  • ldmessingldmessing member

    imageMelRC117:
    I don't know what state you live in and what the rules are but here in Wisconsin, it isn't criminal until it gets to the 24 hour point if a parent doesn't follow the CO.  It could be civil, however I doubt the judge (if it would go that far) or even police will realy get to heavily involved, because like you said there is no specified dropoff or pickup location in the CO.  Police will probably, depending on the circumstances, just tell BM to go to the location to pick up the SKs.  What would happen is they will probably call your DH to see what's up and he can tell them what is going on and they will think BM is just wasting their time because she is being petty and immature.

    there isn't a damn thing she can do, dh has custody, it is his weekend, he traded to do her a favor, the kids are coming with us and she will just lose out.  she can call the cops all she wants, we are NOT breaking the law

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  • jnjmommy0609jnjmommy0609

    First off congrats on your daughter graduating..that's awesome

    Second that lady sounds like a bit of a psycho. I don't know why she bothered threatening to call the cops. Dealing with custody things myself I understand it takes some patience.

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  • aracelylunaaracelyluna member
    sounds like this are just starting to get bad...my advice get out of the relationship
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  • ldmessingldmessing member
    imagearacelyluna:
    sounds like this are just starting to get bad...my advice get out of the relationship
    Worst advice ever, abandon my Step kids and my husband, I don't think so
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