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"I want to buy a gift for the baby..."

MadAsh127MadAsh127 member
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"...what do you need??"

 

I am fairly certain people only ask this so they know what not to buy, because I always end up with something different than what I said I needed.  Despite telling these individuals I literally had an over abundance of every other item a newborn could want or need.  I think they ask you to be nice, and then just buy whatever they please.  Very frustrating.

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member

    At least ppl are offering. No one has bought (or offerred to buy) me anything save my mom and a friend. I'm not saying I want them to get the big ticket items, but...as selfish as it sounds, I went to their showers, I bought their babies gifts...it'd be nice if they'd returned the favor. 

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    I always appreciate the offers, but what they fail to realize is that by buying me stuff that I already have an overabundance of they are just creating more work for me when I already have enough to do because now I have to go return these items for the things I actually needed to begin with.
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  • TamTam624TamTam624
    I had co-workers asking me that over and over again, I just said we are pretty set since this is baby number 2.  They said well I still want to get you something and I said a baby always needs diapers and wipes.  I did get a few boxes of them as gifts before I went on bedrest.  Others said they would wait til LO is born since we are team green.
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  • MadAsh127MadAsh127 member

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    I had co-workers asking me that over and over again, I just said we are pretty set since this is baby number 2.  They said well I still want to get you something and I said a baby always needs diapers and wipes.  I did get a few boxes of them as gifts before I went on bedrest.  Others said they would wait til LO is born since we are team green.

    Honestly, that's all I was hoping for.  That, or cute little summer outfits since DD1 was a winter baby.  I got neither. 

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  • tifdaski84tifdaski84 member
    I hate getting this questions - it's so awkward to answer I find since I don't like asking for things.  I usually just say "we've got everything we need, thanks!"  I'm sure, by doing that, we'll get lots of clothes but, really, we don't need anything.  Maybe we'll get some diapers and wipes too - I'd never thought of suggesting that.
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  • MadAsh127MadAsh127 member

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    I hate getting this questions - it's so awkward to answer I find since I don't like asking for things.  I usually just say "we've got everything we need, thanks!"  I'm sure, by doing that, we'll get lots of clothes but, really, we don't need anything.  Maybe we'll get some diapers and wipes too - I'd never thought of suggesting that.

     

    "Diapers and wipes" is genius, you can never have enough.  Especially if you tell people to buy a range of sizes.  When we have our 'Welcome Baby' party in a month or so we're going to let everyone know that we have everything they need, but if they want to buy something diapers are more than welcome.

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  • babydawsonbabydawson
    CASH MONEY!!! That is what I want to say :) It would in fact be the most helpful! Too bad we can't actually say that.
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  • livinrealitylivinreality member

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    CASH MONEY!!! That is what I want to say :) It would in fact be the most helpful! Too bad we can't actually say that.

    So true but diapers and wipes can save you money/ free up money for other fun things :)

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  • fyziksgirlfyziksgirl member
    imageFyreFlyeRush:

    At least ppl are offering. No one has bought (or offerred to buy) me anything save my mom and a friend. I'm not saying I want them to get the big ticket items, but...as selfish as it sounds, I went to their showers, I bought their babies gifts...it'd be nice if they'd returned the favor. 

    This. The woman throwing my shower decided not to without telling me, and I basically got no gifts at all. It's fine, I'm not having a baby to get gifts, but it kind of sucks. My dad gave us a big gift, other than that we've gotten a few unneeded things from random students and that's about it. Sorry for the extra work, though :(

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  • ElinJElinJ member
    imageMadAsh127:

    "...what do you need??"

     

    I am fairly certain people only ask this so they know what not to buy, because I always end up with something different than what I said I needed.  Despite telling these individuals I literally had an over abundance of every other item a newborn could want or need.  I think they ask you to be nice, and then just buy whatever they please.  Very frustrating.

    GAH!  I know what you mean!  One one hand it's awesome they want to know what I need.  But at this point, we've had our showers, and have purchased the majority of "need" items ourselves already!  Luckily though, most people who asked what I needed, I've been able to give them 2-3 options, and they've eached actually purchased something I've suggested.  But it's been funny/annoying that even that required some bouncing back and forth.  As in, I'd suggest 2-3 things we truly need, and they'd ask if I needed something completely different.

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    imageFyreFlyeRush:

    At least ppl are offering. No one has bought (or offerred to buy) me anything save my mom and a friend. I'm not saying I want them to get the big ticket items, but...as selfish as it sounds, I went to their showers, I bought their babies gifts...it'd be nice if they'd returned the favor. 

    This is appalling, but not surprising.  Same thing happened with my wedding.  I had friends who I was in their wedding, and also spent craploads of money doing things for their wedding (bachelorette parties, showers, etc etc), and when I got married and didn't have a "wedding" (we had about 10 guests, immediate family), NADA.  I even invited them to a reception/cookout/celebration a couple months after the wedding, and still nothing.  Not a gift or even a card saying congrats.

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    CASH MONEY!!! That is what I want to say :) It would in fact be the most helpful! Too bad we can't actually say that.

    Umm, yes please!  To pay off the credit card I've used to purchase those necessities myself! 

    (Just wanted to add, I don't have a ton of credit card debt, in fact, we've never carried over a balance, just I mean I use my credit card for online shopping.)

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