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when it rains it pours

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ss finally was diagnosed adhd/bipolar and medication started yesterday, of course bm is refusing to administer his medication on her time.

the boy is excited about feeling better and she actually yelled at him on the phone last night, screaming at him "you better not take those pills or else"

 

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  • IlumineIlumine member
    Then stop sending him.
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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member

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    Then stop sending him.

    I would too until you get a court order stating she has to administer it.

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    co clearly states that father makes all decisions regard medical, education and day to day, clearly states that she has no say.  however, according to the attorney, we can't just stop sending him, we have to file contempt charges against her and that won't halt the visitation immediately. 

    we are considering a temporary protective order that may halt her visitation, but due to a change of venue, our attorney tells us that will not happen quickly either :(

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  • CheerileeCheerilee member

    Could you also get another bottle for the meds to send to BMs and make sure only enough for her visit is contained within?  I've experienced with my students non-custodial parents throwing away (or selling) their child's medication during the weekend visits.  The custodial parents were then up sh!t creek because they couldn't refill until the refill date so the child couldn't received the medication at all.

    I hope your BM comes around! 

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  • IlumineIlumine member
    imageldmessing:

    co clearly states that father makes all decisions regard medical, education and day to day, clearly states that she has no say.  however, according to the attorney, we can't just stop sending him, we have to file contempt charges against her and that won't halt the visitation immediately. 

    we are considering a temporary protective order that may halt her visitation, but due to a change of venue, our attorney tells us that will not happen quickly either :(

    last I heard/read, you cannot stop taking most Bi-Polar medications, given the side effects are quite dangerous.   So the possibilities of the various side effectsmsuicide due to inconsistent dosing or withdrawl SHOUD BE ENOUGj for an emergency injunction.  
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    imageCheerilee:

    Could you also get another bottle for the meds to send to BMs and make sure only enough for her visit is contained within?  I've experienced with my students non-custodial parents throwing away (or selling) their child's medication during the weekend visits.  The custodial parents were then up sh!t creek because they couldn't refill until the refill date so the child couldn't received the medication at all.

    I hope your BM comes around! 

    You can go to a pharmacy and ask for an empty pill bottle. Just explain the situation,  I had to get one for SS's meds. Of course he still doesn't use it.... 

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  • ldmessingldmessing member
    imagetifanico:

    What is her reasoning for not giving him the meds?

    Also, I would email her saying that this and this is his dose and giving her all the instructions. You need to make sure to have a record of saying that and hopefully, she will answer saying that she will not administer the meds. 

    Crazy.  

    We did this, cc the attorney and yes she did say she didn't agree. Our attorney says she needs to NOT administer before ww can do anything, and when that happens emergency tpo to suspend her visitation until a hearing 21 days later. So we wait until she brings them tomorrow and see what actually happened.
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  • ldmessingldmessing member
    We let him pick out a pill organizer with am and pm compartments and each day snaps off, he loved it and was so excited to take it to her house and show her. Sigh, she yelled at him in our front yard and made him cry. Can I say I hate her without risk of getting hit by lightening?
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    imageIlumine:
    Then stop sending him.
    I wish it were that simple
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  • ldmessingldmessing member
    Her reason is this 1. The lcsw he has been seeing for the past several months on a weekly basis, she has even attended sessions with the boy and told him she likes "dr "Carl" (this what the kids call him), in her words is not qualified to refer him to a psychiatrist 2. The psychiatrist had no business diagnosing him, since SHE said the boy is too young to be diagnosed with a mood disorder and his ADHD is normal kid stuff. Even though her entire family have told her repeatedly that he is out of control 3. She is a nurse practitioner and she diagnoses and treats ADHD all the time. Did I mention she is a liar too as in this state she is unable to do either by law 4. My husband didn't consult her first, even though the co clearly states he doesn't have to and that she has no decision making authority regarding the children 5. She hates me and said as much in front of the kids in my front yard for my neighbors to hear and I have no business being involved in medical decisions for her children
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    imageldmessing:
    Her reason is this 1. The lcsw he has been seeing for the past several months on a weekly basis, she has even attended sessions with the boy and told him she likes "dr "Carl" (this what the kids call him), in her words is not qualified to refer him to a psychiatrist 2. The psychiatrist had no business diagnosing him, since SHE said the boy is too young to be diagnosed with a mood disorder and his ADHD is normal kid stuff. Even though her entire family have told her repeatedly that he is out of control 3. She is a nurse practitioner and she diagnoses and treats ADHD all the time. Did I mention she is a liar too as in this state she is unable to do either by law 4. My husband didn't consult her first, even though the co clearly states he doesn't have to and that she has no decision making authority regarding the children 5. She hates me and said as much in front of the kids in my front yard for my neighbors to hear and I have no business being involved in medical decisions for her children

    At this point, I would use the threat against her nursing license.  As a NP, she should know that, even if she doesn't agree with the DX, she is both obligated to follow an MD's decision and that the results of going cod turkey with psychoiatric meds are dangerous and therefore is premeditatedly abuse.  

     Though given how early it is in SS meds, if might be best to have her do this, then you can legally deal with her. 

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    imageldmessing:
    Her reason is this 1. The lcsw he has been seeing for the past several months on a weekly basis, she has even attended sessions with the boy and told him she likes "dr "Carl" (this what the kids call him), in her words is not qualified to refer him to a psychiatrist 2. The psychiatrist had no business diagnosing him, since SHE said the boy is too young to be diagnosed with a mood disorder and his ADHD is normal kid stuff. Even though her entire family have told her repeatedly that he is out of control 3. She is a nurse practitioner and she diagnoses and treats ADHD all the time. Did I mention she is a liar too as in this state she is unable to do either by law 4. My husband didn't consult her first, even though the co clearly states he doesn't have to and that she has no decision making authority regarding the children 5. She hates me and said as much in front of the kids in my front yard for my neighbors to hear and I have no business being involved in medical decisions for her children

    At this point, I would use the threat against her nursing license.  As a NP, she should know that, even if she doesn't agree with the DX, she is both obligated to follow an MD's decision and that the results of going cod turkey with psychoiatric meds are dangerous and therefore is premeditatedly abuse.  

     Though given how early it is in SS meds, if might be best to have her do this, then you can legally deal with her. 

    Wow, I didn't think about the license thing, we are going to look into that. As for what you said about being early in his meds, that is what the attorney said too. Thanks !
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