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November 2012 Moms
Vent about brother-in-law! Ugh!
So me and the hubby decided to let my brother in law (who is older than my husband) stay with us for what I said would be a little bit until he found a place. Well...an unhappy three months later he's still here! We told him he needed to be out by June 1st but seriously he is the laziest, grossest, rudest house guest I would jump for joy if he left tonight. Love him cuz he's an in-law..but omg. My hubby works second shift and so I lock the doors when my son and I doze off, my BIL knows this, but every night he jovially goes to the bars thinking it's ok to just come knocking on the door at any hour of the night wanting in. Well I did this for a while saying seriously? I am sleeping and that he can't do that and he needs to be there before I go to bed or after my husband is home so he can let him in. I don't want him to get a spare key made because I DON'T want him feeling at all more comfortable thinking he can stay longer. Well tonight he came knocking at almost 12:30 at night, and so I just didn't answer the damn door. I did this last weekend when him and his buddies wanted in at 4:00 in the morning (my hubby was outta town so it was just me and the little one) and just said no and he stayed somewhere else. Well tonight HE BROKE IN to my house! Yup. Busted up the door handle and just broke in and went to bed. I'm ready to explode! My hubby is way more lenient with him than I am, and the room he's staying in is gonna be the kids room and seriously I want his nasty, disrespectful butt OUTTA here asap!!!
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Re: Vent about brother-in-law! Ugh!
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Kick him out, it's your house.
IMHO he should have a key though. He's living there, like it or not you can't give an adult a curfew. I would have just given him the key to avoid being woken up.
Geez, I would have called the police. That's ridiculous.
I thought my SIL was bad bc when we all stay at the family vacation house she goes out to the bars and just wakes us all up when she comes home. But she's never broken in.
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
Well I woke up to talk to by husband about it and my BIL left a disgusting mess all over the kitchen, dishwasher and cupboards wide open, and then I heard him say (at 8 am) "oh ill be back around 11 to pick up my mess". Really, you want me to leave your scrambled egg remains rot on my counter for three hours? So after telling my husband that if he was actually going to stay here till June first then I was going to stay somewhere else he agreed that we can kick him out! Success! I still want to have a good relationship with him but our family's sanity comes first..happy my husband will back me up. I know it's hard but my brother actually stayed with us about a year ago and was a not-so-fun house guest and I bucked up and kicked him out, still have a good relationship with him, everyone just moves on. He's a grown man, a couple weeks different won't be the end of the world!
Oh, and hello fellow Schroeder! Tell me how annoying it is to spell that last name over the phone lol. E as in Edward, D as in Dog, E as in Edward, R as in Robert. Bla.
LOL I know right! Do you pronounce it Schray-der? Or Schrow-der? I get people that mix it up all the time...I have had mail come to Shrader, Schoedeer, Schrodr, ect..what a last name!
Yeah I do realize maybe in the long run it woulda eased the issue a lil to give my BIL a key but with this guy, ya give him an inch and he takes a mile I feared he would get way too comfy but he did that anyways. Oh well, I gotta just be the B for the day because I know after this I can start decorating the room he's in which is gonna be the kids' room and that will make me happy
When I'm feeling particularly German I do "shrayder" but normally I'm trying to aid someone's ability to spell it lol. I have had it my whole life and am debating whether I should give my child my last name, because when Moore is the other option... I don't think I have a choice lol
You know, I agree with him NOT having a key. A key is something someone who pays rent gets. It's for someone who may have IMPORTANT things to do after people in the house are asleep. Like work. If he's not paying rent and has nothing important to do, what is keeping him from being in the house when you lock up? JMO, you did the right thing all around. AND you aren't really a B for your decision, you're just done with the BS.
You're not gonna believe this but Moore is my maiden name!!!
How funny is that! Yes, it was WAY easier back then when Moore was my last name! Go with Moore! I'm glad you think it was good to not give him the key..idk we were just trying to be nice and it kinda backfired but that is ok everything happens for a reason, right? It feels good to finally have my backbone grow in, those pregnancy hormones sure do help with that!
OMG how funny!
Oh my word this is horrible!! I currently have sister-in-law and brother-in-law living with us and am having a completely opposite experience. Now, we say down with them regarding expectations and they were very clear with their timeline. But i think theyre just much more respectful people. I am so sorry that your BIL is so disrespectful and such a problem!
I'd sit down with DH and talk about a concrete plan and then tell BIL "you need to be out by X date" DH isn't there when you're experiencing the major problems, so he needs to hear you and support you.
Maugham! My hormones are making me so mad at your BIL for you!!!