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Struggling with sadness over the end of "just the two of us"

LER091811LER091811 member
in May 2012 Moms
Maybe it's the hormones but I made the mistake of reading two articles about how hard, draining, exhausting and unhappy it is being a mom. This brought up feelings of extreme sadness that the days of just me and DH are drawing to a very rapid close. I have talked to so many of my mom friends who have told me they never get any alone time with their husbands! I am very excited for LO's arrival and I think she will just make us happier really but I just feel sad right now.
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  • LilLionessLilLioness member
    It's a bit scary, isn't?  I have these moments when I suddenly realize the gravity of the situation and I feel sad about the end of the era of just being a couple.  Like you, I'm super excited about our LO's arrival (Lord, it's taken us over 2 years to get here), but I think it's completely natural to be a little nervous about this huge change that is is about to occur in your life.  I'm sure it will all fade as soon as I hold my baby for the first time :)
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  • stemms8810stemms8810 member
    I have found since having our LO it has made us closer.  Even though we are sleep deprived and have someone that takes all our time and energy, we have come to appreciate each other more.  I am also finding (if it was possible) that I am loving my husband even more through this experience.  It's the end of the two of you but the start of something else that is great too.  Don't worry :)
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  • Jess & DrewJess & Drew member

    imagestemms8810:
    I have found since having our LO it has made us closer.  Even though we are sleep deprived and have someone that takes all our time and energy, we have come to appreciate each other more.  I am also finding (if it was possible) that I am loving my husband even more through this experience.  It's the end of the two of you but the start of something else that is great too.  Don't worry :)

    This exactly! I have found that I love my DH on a whole new level that I never even imagined.  

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member

    I never wante kids. But, I have to admit I have loved every minute of being a mom. My daughter is the light of my life. Sure, there are hard time. And yes, it's exhausting. But, it's so rewarding. In fact, I think I'm going to go squish her...she needs loving. 

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  • JulesFoJulesFo member

    Such normal feelings! And you just don't know how you both will react. Don't anticipate anything. :) DH and I were married for 4 years before we had DD #1 -- I'm not gonna lie, there were times in the first few months when we said, "what was so wrong with our lives before that we felt the need to have a child?" I know it sounds terrible, but I share that only to let you know if you DO feel that way, it will pass. 

    DH and I cannot fathom not having our daughter as part of our family now. We are closer than ever, and better than ever, and we wouldn't trade all those early, sleepless night for anything! Plus, we got our time back -- you get your evenings back and go on dates! Of course, we're getting ready to start the process all over again, haha! So you know it can't be all that bad. ;-) 


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  • winter-shockwinter-shock member
    I Totally remember feeling like that with my first, I think it is quite normal.  And honestly DH and i still got tons of time just us.  Especially when we got DD on a good schedule we often had many evening hours alone. They are just different hours. They are ones we would find things to do together at home rather then out and about. 
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  • papeetepapeete member

    imagestemms8810:
    I have found since having our LO it has made us closer.  Even though we are sleep deprived and have someone that takes all our time and energy, we have come to appreciate each other more.  I am also finding (if it was possible) that I am loving my husband even more through this experience.  It's the end of the two of you but the start of something else that is great too.  Don't worry :)

    This is so nice to hear.  I love this post.  Thanks. :-) 

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