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Before I had DD, I worked in a real estate development office. One of the corporate sales execs came to visit our office on occasion and went on and on about how unprofessional he thought it was to have pictures of your family in your office.
He went so far as to say that he thought the more pictures you had, the less you loved your family (because you needed to be reminded of them). He actually said he suspects those with family pictures of cheating on their spouse more than people without family pics.
(He was also a massive misogynist and asked me to get him coffee every time he came to the office.)
Anyway, my question to you is: do you agree? Do you have pictures of your family in your office/workspace?
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That's pretty effed up. I have photos of my kid and my hubs and I in my office. I work in labor and delivery, so I suppose it is more apropriate. Either way, I like seeing how people personalize their office space.
I do. I have tons of pictures of DD on my desk, bulletin board and on the hutch behind me. Nothing cheers me up better during a long, assy day than looking at her smiling face.
But I do have coworkers with small children that don't have any pictures of their kids, so I'm thinking corporate sales guy X isn't the only one that feels that way.
What kind of messed up theories are those?! Makes me wonder if he was guilty of all of that himself. What a wanker.
I have 1 pic of DS and 1 of DH on my desk, and I have a desk job. I have a total of about 5 personal items on my desk (including my two pictures) and I keep it that way so I can make a quick exit when the day comes I can give my notice. I just like planning ahead for that fantastic day.
Oh yeah, it was an office full of men. He was directing his comments toward the sales force (them).
Aggreed on his asshattery.
It wasn't even because they would have buyers in their offices, they never had buyers in their offices. It was just his belief that you see enough of your family outside of work, you shouldn't need to see them while you're in the office.
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It may sound strange, but it's legit...
This was the first job I've had where i had an actual desk to myself! I got so excited about all the space, I spent days hanging up pictures of my kids and DH, proud to show them off.... Next thing you know, maybe 2 or 3 months later (very gradually), I started having strange dreams, trying to reconnect with old flames on facebook, i found myself flirting and sleeping with my co-workers, my DH and i started having problems like we never had before.
I actually went to talk to someone about it, first question he asked, "Do you have pictures of your kids and husband on your desk?" I was puzzled, but answered, "Of course, i do! I love those guys..." Then he replied, "Take them down... If problems persist, come see me in a week." I took everything down about a month ago and haven't had any strange dreams or affairs since... You should thank that man for saving your marriage.
If its not in company policy anywhere, then he can keep his opinion to himself. If he thinks it unprofessional then he doesn't need to do it and should leave you alone about it.
A good friend of mine works as a career consultant and I've heard her say that when you work in a profession where you work with people/clients, the more personable and genuine you can seem to them, the better. I don't know what is more personable and genuine than displaying pictures of your family in your office.
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Anyway, I have a handful of pictures of Claire and H in my office. I also have a cow that poops brown jelly beans. Everyone here has family pictures up *shrugs*
When I worked in our office, I had some pictures in my cube. We were non-customer facing and people had all kinds of stuff in their cubes.
I work from home now but have a dedicated office with 3 book cases. I have a bunch of pictures of friends and family in here.
I actually feel like when people have a sterile desk with zero personal effects, they have one foot out the door.
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Same here. But I also have a pack-n-play and a toybox. My office has become stress relief central around here. People having a bad day come in for a baby break, a few smiles, couple giggles from E and they are good to go.
I keep pics of DS and a couple of DH and I from vacation on my locker. I recently changed jobs and don't get to my locker much, if at all, during the day. I miss seeing my little man and the hubs, especially on crappy days.
Before my unit moved hospitals, we used to have our lockers in the middle of the unit (not the best location in the world). Everybody had pics of our families, kids, pets, etc on the lockers, and our patients/families LOVED them. It was a good way for some of our families to take their minds off their own kids being sick, I think.
One of the partners at my old firm told me once that having photos up in your office/on your desk makes you appear vulnerable and weak...He had no photos in his office at all.
I personally have tons...And I don't work at that firm anymore.
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I think how MANY pictures you have of your family might vary from industry to industry, but I like to see family pictures when I go to a business or workplace - I think it humanizes the people I am dealing with.
I am a high school counselor and I do have quite a few pictures of DS and DH around my office. The students love to see how DS is growing, and I think the parents feel that I can relate more because I'm a parent also.
Well that's pretty stupid. I don't have pictures of my family in my office because I'm not the sappy type, but I don't think anything negative (other than, omg they're sappy
) when I see other ppl with pics of their family in their office. However, I do pull up facebook or my pictures folder on the computer whenever someone's in my office and asks about DD. I mean, come on. See siggy. She's adorable.
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I have quite a few photos of DS on my desk. I work with 6 other people. The 4 guys all have even more pictures than I do, one of the women has one picture, and the other woman has none. I've never seen what her daughter looks like, and she's the only one whose marriage is falling apart as a result of cheating.
I don't think there's any connection, but that definitely works against his theory.
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Agreed.
I keep one picture in my office and usually a discreet one only because of the nature of my job and need to keep my personal life pretty private.
I'm pretty sure she's kidding. lol
FTR, I think he's totally full of sh!t and just a deeply unhappy man who traveled and was away from his family too much and felt the need to justify his lack of pictures & closeness with them while he was away.
I have tons of pictures of H and DD (and my dogs) in my workspace and I am not a cheater. DH has zero pictures of us (mostly because his work has requested that, he sees lots of customers and has a busy workspace) and he's not a cheater either.
I just thought it was interesting that he was so adamant about this belief that he felt the need to pass it off as "sage advice" to a young crew of workers. Totally bizarre. I'm really glad no one here agrees!
...as evidenced by my previous post.
One of my son in a frame.
To remind me why I still work here.