Drinkers who choose not to drink

sunflowers4AC · May 2012

I am getting ready to start my next cycle which will be a medicated IUI cycle. I have decided to leave the "drink till it's pink" camp and move over to the "not drinking while in treatment" camp. My question is for those of you who normally drink, what do you say when people ask you why aren't you drinking? I have heard a lot of people say I am taking antibiotics or something general like that, but that won't fly with my circle of friends and family who are nurses and paramedics.

So how do you answer them when you choose to not drink?

LollipopsAndCrisps · May 2012

I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

SpartanGirl24 · May 2012

I might have a beer here or there, but I tell people I'm the DD. Pretty much everyone respects that.

SpartanGirl24 · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

Beer cheers to that!

sunflowers4AC · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

While I would love to say something like that to my SIL it just wouldn't go over well. She has to be in everyone's business. I do try to avoid her at most family functions sometimes I just can't get away from her.

Le Olive · May 2012

I'll probably just end up mixing mocktails. It'd be very obvious with my friends & family if I just stopped having cocktails at gatherings.

laurapacheco · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

Yes

Seriously OP, you don't have to give them any kind of excuse. Just tell them that you don't feel like drinking. If they press the issue, walk away.

URMySunshine77 · May 2012

SpartanGirl24:
I might have a beer here or there, but I tell people I'm the DD. Pretty much everyone respects that.

Thanks, SpartanGirl. I usually have one glass of wine, but I'd rather say this if people ask why I'm not drinking.

rayofsunshine99 · May 2012

I don't avoid drinking for TTC purposes, but a big reason I hardly ever have a drink or two lately at social functions is because of the unnecessary calories plus I usually just feel blah after 1-2 drinks.. it's not quite enough to buzz me up, but it has a tiny affect on me (fatigue) and it's just pointless. So if people ask (they don't but if they did) I'd just say that I'm really watching my calories I guess.

kelly321 · May 2012

I don't drink in the 2WW, so for me it's usually temporary that I'm not drinking. Then I either say I don't feel like drinking or that I'm the DD.

If it's a longer-term thing, though, (like when I was pregnant with DD or in your case for as long as you're doing medicated cycles) then I say that I'm cutting out alcohol for health reasons. If they argue that one drink won't hurt (I never had anyone say that, but it could happen), then I would say I'd rather just cut it out altogether.

Yellow415 · May 2012

Cutting down on calories and sugars for summer.

sunflowers4AC · May 2012

keelyd:
Honestly, very few people even ask. Depending on who's asking, I tell them I've cut out alcohol while TTC or that I just don't feel like it. But really, it's not anyone's business. Who cares, honestly?

Wish that was the case, not so much with my inlaws. SIL is a shove the drink down your throat type of B!tch. World revovles around her....just ask her. Like I said before I try to avoid her but sometimes I get stuck.

LollipopsAndCrisps · May 2012

sunflowers4AC:
LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

While I would love to say something like that to my SIL it just wouldn't go over well. She has to be in everyone's business. I do try to avoid her at most family functions sometimes I just can't get away from her.

If it becomes an issue, order a vodka soda, hold the vodka, and squeeze a lime in it. Then tell your SIL to suck it and stop being such a nosy biiitch.

mrskitton · May 2012

I say because I am recovering....takes the pressure off you if they try to pressure you into a drink.

Mrs. Mo · May 2012

Anytime I had a medicated cycle, I did not drink. Although I was a "drink 'till it's pink" lady, I didn't want to drink while cycling. Anyways, I would either mix up something that looked like a drink ( oj + cranberry juice= a N/A sex on the beach) or just tell people that my allergies have been acting up and I didn't want to mix booze with the allergy meds.

sunflowers4AC · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
sunflowers4AC:

LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

While I would love to say something like that to my SIL it just wouldn't go over well. She has to be in everyone's business. I do try to avoid her at most family functions sometimes I just can't get away from her.

If it becomes an issue, order a vodka soda, hold the vodka, and squeeze a lime in it. Then tell your SIL to suck it and stop being such a nosy biiitch.

I love it!!! Maybe I will even tell her that Lolli said so, so take that b!tch!!!

In all seriousness I do like the "trying to cut calories" answer. Thanks ladies you all rock!! Especially you Lolli with your straight forward answers.

jdulce · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
If it becomes an issue, order a vodka soda, hold the vodka, and squeeze a lime in it. Then tell your SIL to suck it and stop being such a nosy biiitch.

LOL!!!! That is exactly what I was thinking!

6to82010 · May 2012

dnh2486:
I'm driving tonight.

I don't feel like it.

I have a headache.

I have to get up early in the morning.

I drank too much last night and I'm still recovering.

These are all so great! Frankly, for some people I am sure telling someone its not their business works, but I am in a heavy drinking circle of friends and family and we are all in our mid 30s, we know what's up when someone is standing there with a water (whether we ask or not). I am guilty myself of assuming. I have found that the cutting calories thing works the best, as does "I am feeling nauseous from too much last night/this morning at brunch" or "I just had a glass of wine before we left the house" etc. (these are great because it implies recent drinking LOL) I also like the allergies/don't want to mix booze with allergy meds thing, will have to use that!

kmgrecco · May 2012

One of my friends sister's was pregnant, and not telling anyone until she was 12 weeks. Her family would know something was up if she wasn't drinking. So she would do a couple of things.. bring her own bottle of wine (filled with something else). Or if she had a beer, she would dump out the can, rinse it out, and put something else in there. I couldn't believe all the effort she went through to trick people!

cs026a · May 2012

I'm going with acid reflux/ulcer issues....DH has a lot of ulcer issues and stops drinking for long periods of time...I'm jumping on board with him

JumpAroundBucky · May 2012

I tell them I am trying to cut back and cut the calories or start a healthier lifestyle. They can't say that's a terrible idea.

harleykay · May 2012

You can always tell them that you and your hubby have a bet going on. If you hold out from alcohol for ( however long you want ) Then he has cook for two weeks, etc... make it fun. Of course talk it over with your DH first.

notkateanymore · May 2012

I tell them, but I'm not really one for secrets. Everybody has been great about it, so it worked for me.

ariaforte8 · May 2012

It always seems weird to me that people have huge issues with this. To me - "I don't feel like drinking tonight." should be a sufficient enough answer. If you're such a heavy drinker that you friends would go "WTF, you MUST be pregnant then" you should probably reevaluate your drinking anyway. Even if friends pester you just hold up your guns. If they try to force you when you don't want to it says a lot about your friends though. *shrug*

ETA: If you're in a really sticky situation, I think PPs gave really good one-liners for this.

Juicy71 · May 2012

I just wanted to say good luck! We are in our first medicated IUI cycle now (starting Clomid tonight) and I just told DH I was going to try to abstain since we're now spending big money on this so I'm with ya! I don't know a lot of people where I live yet and those I do know know that we are TTC so I don't have to worry about it. If I did though, I would totally use the trying to lose weight excuse. Part of why I actually want to stop drinking is that I think it has been keeping me from losing weight lately. We'll see how I do. :-). Anyway, good luck to you again!!

brittandjp · May 2012

LollipopsAndCrisps:
sunflowers4AC:
LollipopsAndCrisps:
I tell them it's none of their goddamned business what I'm drinking.

While I would love to say something like that to my SIL it just wouldn't go over well. She has to be in everyone's business. I do try to avoid her at most family functions sometimes I just can't get away from her.
If it becomes an issue, order a vodka soda, hold the vodka, and squeeze a lime in it. Then tell your SIL to suck it and stop being such a nosy biiitch.

This exactly. I usually order vodka sodas, so I just plan on continuing this trend until I'm ready to tell people. Other nights I might say I have to get up early or I drank too much last night, but those are the only options that will really fly with my friends. They know me too well and to just not drink, I might as well have PREGNANT plastered on my forehead.

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