Is anyone still doing "it"

topaz7777 · May 2012

Anyone still having sex? We tried it last night and it was hard for me to not laugh. I feel totally awkward and it was very hard to complete the act. I felt like a teenager doing it for the first time.

Michelle164 · May 2012

Not as much as we did before, but yes. This is our second so its not as awkward as it was with our first. Keeping my shirt on helps me be more comfortable too. Just do what you guys are comfortable with. There is plenty of time after baby is born.

mamayo26 · May 2012

I really want to, but as we have not done it for 12 weeks due to my lack of drive I am now a little nervous to.

1. It probably won't last long seeing as it has been awhile

2. I have been doing my kegels more so I am proabably pretty tight

3. I am much bigger and when I was on top the last time it was really uncomfortable for me (plus now I will have swelling to contend with)

4. I feel bad for DH, cause if we don't do it soon he will (an me too) wait for 4-6 pp for me to be able and who knows if we will even be up for it then.

Gismo123 · May 2012

Yes but DH insists on using Condoms because last time his little guys made me have contractions for over an hour lmao Stick out tongue

It was really funny going to the store to buy condoms....I kept thinking that the cashier's thoughts were "Isn't it a little too late for these" Embarrassed

venussapphire · May 2012

we do but since being pregnant we hardly ever do anymore. DH understands and has been really good about it, but i still feel guilty.

We probably only do it once every week or week and a half. I'm going to try and make more of an effort since once the baby gets here there will be no sex for 6-8 weeks.

smileon · May 2012

I would like to do it more often (we do it about once a week), but I need to be on top (he doesn't want me on my back for too long and we cant seem to figure out how the side thing is supposed to work. Haha). And it doesnt feel as good anymore. And during and after my uterus cramps up and it make me uncomfortable and nervous (which kinda kills the mood for me). And my belly has been super itchy so he needs to keep his shirt on. I feel like Im complaining the whole time. But I miss doing it.

aprillle · May 2012

Honestly - no. Though I really wish we were!

It's just comical now and we both end up laughing because it just turns in to such a mess. Guess we will just have to wait until after the baby - and we won't make it waiting 6 weeks, no way can I wait that long.

lmj8284 · May 2012

I can't stop laughing either! And it's just uncomfortable at this point. We're still doing what we can though:)

Sawyerplus1 · May 2012

Not for a long time

We tried a little while ago and it was a disaster. It was impossible to get comfortable in any position with, what feels like, a 20 lb medicine ball stuffed under my skin! I also really didn't want my belly rubbing on DH, so that limited our options. And this LO is SO active (still) that it's just straight up weird to be intimate with all that going on. It was never this bad in my other pregnancies

chicagocubsfan23 · May 2012

I really want to but DH is too uncomfortable with it. The last time we tried he felt LO kick and ever since then he's freaked out I guess. I'm trying to be understanding but sometimes I take it to heart and feel like it's because he's not attracted to me, though he assures me he thinks I'm beautiful. I almost feel guilty that he isn't getting any but I guess it's his choice lol

khill86 · May 2012

We were having sex maybe... once every 2 weeks. I've been running on empty for about 2 weeks now, working way too much, that it's probably been about a month since we have. Today I'm feeling especially giant and not too interested. Honestly, I'm not feeling too sexual, but I feel like a big, fat (literally) prude and wish I had more desire to have sex, but I just don't. I was hoping maybe this weekend we'd do it, but with Mother's Day (DH's business is in the floral industry), I doubt he'll be up for much until he and his staff make it through Sunday. And heck, even after that, he'll be stressed until any Mother's Day "mess" is cleaned up. So who knows!

When we have had sex, the only way we've been doing it is spooning. My belly gets squished with DH on top, I feel like a cow when I'm on top, I feel absolutely disgusting "doggy style," and I don't want my belly touching him when we lay face to face on our sides. SO, spooning it is.

caeraRose · May 2012

We were still doing it about twice a week for awhile, but when I figured out I had a pulled groin, we realized that I always had my bad days after we had sex, so I told him about a week ago that we should wait until my muscle is healed... which very well could just mean waiting until after the baby comes and I'm healed from that. =/

jackpackage · May 2012

Ugh, I wish! I've been on pelvic rest since 20 weeks but my sex drive has been out of control! I am going to be so nervous when I finally get the go-ahead.

MWM0903 · May 2012

We do and its pretty great! We have found a position that works for the both of us. We are both able to see and touch each other but I am not being squished. MIL works for a different gyno and she says that the sperm in a good cervial softener. With that little bit of info we plan on having a quite enjoyable last few weeks

dnh · May 2012

We werent having sex for a while but now my drive is back. We did it the other night the only comfortable positions I found were on my side like spooning and the scissor position. I must say I didnt realize how much I missed it until I had an O...It was such a nice release. I did have some cramping after but it was totally worth it. Sex is great for the cervix the last few weeks

kjem182 · May 2012

We talk about it. And then I fall asleep. Although my dreams have been causing spontaneous orgasms, but they just aren't as satisfying.

AndromedaEclipse · May 2012

More than normal! I guess I'm just a lucky duck

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Crescent683 · May 2012

We were at least once a week. DH just left for military though so it will be FOREVER!!!!! or so it feels. He'll be back 2 weeks after LO makes her debut...not sure if we're going to make it to the 6 week mark after birth considering we will have not seen each other in 8 weeks.

tuki06 · May 2012

Oh yeah and we can still manage him on top. I'd be going insane if we weren't, it's not as much as it used to be since I fall asleep so easy and early but I try to get me some at least once a week if not more.

KrissyMiss · May 2012

Yup, still getting it on. We usually do the spoons/side lying position, but when we're feeling frisky we'll do it doggie-style and I use pillows as support for my torso (I highly reccomend this one for anyone who finds being on top too exhausting or who finds their bump gets in the way when on your back).

rissa_n · May 2012

No

I have no drive and feel so huge and awkward, it's not even on my radar. Poor DH.

amberleeb · May 2012

We did 2 weeks ago and it was fine. Before that it was like a month. I just have no drive and I seem to be annoyed by every little thing DH does and that makes me not want to have sex

crlacey · May 2012

Yep, every couple of days on my good days. It's mostly for DH.

We've learned that I need to keep my shirt on this time around since the baby does like to move and it's a little weird to see that while in the act.

As long as you and your DH have come to some sort of agreement on things, do what is right and comfortable for you.

LoveyFNR · May 2012

Yup, DH and I have always had a very good sex life and, although we don't do it as often, we still do it. Maybe every 2-3 days usually depending on how I'm feeling and how tired we are. But it's gotten a bit boring as we can only do a whopping 2 positions I am comfortable with and even then during the act I get horrible heartburn and it's hard to focus. I wanted to keep going strong until baby was born but it's getting more difficult every time so we may have to stop soon.

KarynR25 · May 2012

Zero...zilch....Nada...Nothing Embarrassed

DH is so not comforable with it, and my drive is not there. Its been since early feb since we've had ANYthing remotely close to sex or other "interactions". But we talk about it often, and are both on the same page so its not affecting our relationship in a negative way.

SugarhillHnA · May 2012

We're down to every other week pretty much now. I am just so huge and uncomfortable and we're both exhausted by the end of the day. We used to do it in the shower to get around doing it at night after DD is asleep, but now that's impossible with my huge belly so it's limited us a bit more.

topaz7777 · May 2012

smileon:

I would like to do it more often (we do it about once a week), but I need to be on top (he doesn't want me on my back for too long and we cant seem to figure out how the side thing is supposed to work. Haha). And it doesnt feel as good anymore. And during and after my uterus cramps up and it make me uncomfortable and nervous (which kinda kills the mood for me). And my belly has been super itchy so he needs to keep his shirt on. I feel like Im complaining the whole time. But I miss doing it.

This exactly

CaitlinJ22 · May 2012

yup, I tend to be fine the whole pregnancy. I think it helps knowing what positions work for us and knowing my DH has no issues with my pregnant body (nor do I). I need sex more while pregnant, hormones I guess

dutton3741 · May 2012

Yes, a few times a week. We've found some good positions and have found pillows and The Wedge (https://www.liberator.com/eng/product/liberator-wedge/10021) really help me get comfortable. It helps take the pressure off my back and gives more freedom to try various positions. I have about 4 weeks left and am still enjoying it for the most part and he's totally into my pregnant body, so that makes me feel so much more confident and exploratory.

ericamanuela · May 2012

chicagocubsfan23:
I really want to but DH is too uncomfortable with it. The last time we tried he felt LO kick and ever since then he's freaked out I guess. I'm trying to be understanding but sometimes I take it to heart and feel like it's because he's not attracted to me, though he assures me he thinks I'm beautiful. I almost feel guilty that he isn't getting any but I guess it's his choice lol

I'm in the same exact boat as you. It's so hard not to take it to heart :-(