June 2011 Moms

Moms of girls

Did you pierce LO's ears?  If so, when?  What were your reasons for it?  If not, why not?  Do you plan to in the future?

With DD1, XH and I agreed to wait a few years.

With this time around, I am torn.  I have heard positives and negatives about doing it early and doing it later, but I had mine done for my 5th birthday and I remember it, and all the ear infections from playing with them nonstop all too well.  So I would like to hear other people's opinions to help MH and I make the decision.

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  • I pierced Bay's when she was 8 months. DH didnt want me to do it, he thought she should be able to decide if she wants them done or not.  I explained to him that I would rather be the one to take care of them and get them all healed up. I knew I could do it with NO infections. So after about a month he finally said yes. Bay did great! She cried a little right after it was done, so I gave her a bottle like I do after her shots and she was fine. She was all smiles. Now they are all healed and she has never even bothered with them! I am glad I did it now rather than waited.

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  • We did ours when DD was 3 months. I had to wait until I was 10 to get mine done and while it was a fun day, I picked at them a lot and they got infected. I did DD's early - before she found her ears, and I took care of them and kept them clean. The healed perfectly. I'm glad I did it when I did because she is so used to them that she never pulls at them or touches them (but she pulls everything out of her hair!)

     Plus, it's really cute :-)

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  • We didn't get her ears pierced SUPER early... but earlier than most. We had them done at 8 months. She cried for a few minutes, but she NEVER plays with them. That was my biggest reason for wanting them done earlier/as a baby. I also happen to think it's cute, as long as they're small and tasteful. (DD has super simple, small 10k gold cz studs in her ears) It makes for another type of gift she can be given over the years. I know how long it took me to get my ears pierced, because I was afraid of the "pain." I didn't get them until I was 8.
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    We won't be piercing Caroline's until her 13th birthday if she wants to.  It will be part of a yay you are a teenager now! Birthday celebration.
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  • While I fully support body modification, I believe that it needs to be a person's choice, not something that is done to them. So we are waiting for our girls.
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  • imagekas80:
    We won't be piercing Caroline's until her 13th birthday if she wants to.  It will be part of a yay you are a teenager now! Birthday celebration.

    This is me too.  I had to wait until I was 13.  I have two girls and they will have to wait, much to the chagrin of my MIL as she is Portuguese and "all Portuguese girls get their ears pierced as babies", according to her.  Got news for her, my kids aren't 100% Portuguese.  LOL

    My grandmother never had her ears pierced and always wore clip-ons (she just never had the desire).  She had beautiful jewelry and it was fun to be able to play with her earrings since mine weren't pierced.  She was the one that brought me to get my ears pierced (which was kinda ironic) but I remember it well and it was a very good memory - lunch, ears pierced and a movie (Christmas Vacation) - like it was yesterday.  At any rate, I wanted my girls to be able to decide for themselves and, hopefully, it will be a good memory for them as well.

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  • imagemesr:
    While I fully support body modification, I believe that it needs to be a person's choice, not something that is done to them. So we are waiting for our girls.

    Same here.  We will wait until she wants them and can trust her to take care of them herself.

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  • imagemesr:
    While I fully support body modification, I believe that it needs to be a person's choice, not something that is done to them. So we are waiting for our girls.
    well this is a good way to put it and pretty much sums up how i feel about it. Laspet her decide if she even wants it done and make it part of a special day or milestone in her life (i had mine at 12).
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    We did do DD's ears.  I wanted to at her 6month apt with the Pedi but they only had huge studs and thought they would look ridiculous in her ears.  We ended up going in Feb so she was about 8months.  Our reasonings: I had mine done as an infant and was glad I did.  Mine never close up no matter how long I leave them out.  When they are little they aren't noticed and you can take care of them (vs them) so they are less likely to get infected.  The 6-8 week wait is killer to a child who wants to change their earings.  And she looks oh so cute Wink  And while "everyone" may not want it done it seems to me that 'everyone' in my life has wanted it done so I don't think she will not want them.  And if she doesn't they

    She did not cry much, really only upset that I had to restrain her.  Once I was able to hold her facing me she was fine.  She cries much harder for her shots!

    The one tip I took away from it though was not to do it again with diamond studs.  Next time we will do just silver/gold ball studs.  DH was 'wrestling' DD once to give her medicine and her earing got caught on the couch, it could have been bad but luckily wasn't.  Also don't let them do both ears at once as many people try to reccomend.  They are very likely to end up un-even. 

    GL with what ever you decide!

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  • I don't have an opinion either way but we haven't done it yet. MH really doesn't like the idea until she's much older although I'll probaby try to convince him to let her do it when she asks (Maybe around 6-8?).
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  • imageElatedMom2B:

    This is me too.  I had to wait until I was 13.  I have two girls and they will have to wait, much to the chagrin of my MIL as she is Portuguese and "all Portuguese girls get their ears pierced as babies", according to her.  Got news for her, my kids aren't 100% Portuguese.  LOL

    It's true. The tradition is that the ears get pierced before the Christening. The Godfather buys the Portuguese gold (earrings, bracelet, necklace) as the gift. DD got her ears pierced at 4 months.

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  • imagekas80:
    We won't be piercing Caroline's until her 13th birthday if she wants to.  It will be part of a yay you are a teenager now! Birthday celebration.

    I am leaning towards this same idea so that it's a special memory for her and she'll be old enough to understand how to care for them. My mom had my ears pierced when I was an infant and they are absolutely uneven. 

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  • At 4 months at a pediatrician's office- I'm Puerto Rican and it's tradition to do them very young-- I don't think I've ever met someone who regretted having theirs done as a baby.

    My father was very against it and didn't want mine done at all-- I finally won the argument when I was 7- they did mine at the same time so they are SUPER crooked- and I remember the pain and how scary it was-- I definitely didn't want her to go through that!

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  • I will wait until she can carefor them on her own. I got mine for my 10th birthday and it was special to do it with my mom.
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  • Nope, and she's not getting them done until she's 12 or 13, assuming she wants it done at all.  To me, jewelry is something you get to wear when you grow up, and she is too little for it.
  • DD1 got her ears pierced when she was 6.  She asked for it so we had her "earn" it by getting so many stars on a reward chart.  We decided to allow her to decide if and when she wanted them.  She was also old enough to help us with cleaning and can change her own earrings.  We will do the same with Violet, let her decided if and when.
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  • imagemarch2008:

    imagekas80:
    We won't be piercing Caroline's until her 13th birthday if she wants to.  It will be part of a yay you are a teenager now! Birthday celebration.

    I am leaning towards this same idea so that it's a special memory for her and she'll be old enough to understand how to care for them. My mom had my ears pierced when I was an infant and they are absolutely uneven

    this and i hate them. we will wait for DD to ask and then evaluate. but i want it to be her choice and i want her to know that it's something she needs to earn and take care of. much to the dismay of my italian mom and nanna.

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  • imageMrs.SparklesMcGee:

    imagemesr:
    While I fully support body modification, I believe that it needs to be a person's choice, not something that is done to them. So we are waiting for our girls.

    Same here.  We will wait until she wants them and can trust her to take care of them herself.

    Me too. We are waiting until she is old enough to take care of them and have the choice to say whether she actually wants to them or not. I had mine done in the 5th grade and loved going to school to show them off. I also learned how to take care of them. I was NOT traumatized by the pain of getting them pierced. I actually went on to get my 2nd holes and my cartilage pierced (altho all of those I have since let fill back in). They were all my decision though. I want my DD to be able to chose for herself and pick out her own earrings. It's a big thing for little girls and I want her to remember it, if she gets them done. 

  • We did it at 12 weeks...I wanted to make sure her lobes were big enough but that she was too small to play with them and get them infected. 

    She only recently has realized she has earrings...she occasionally will play with them now, and just once she accidently pulled out the back...but they weren't her best earrings that day.

    I got mine when I was 9...I wanted them "forever" but my dad didn't want me to get them...eventually I did and while I was old enough to know I wanted them, I wasn't responsible enough to care for them very consistently.

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  • imageLolo4283:
    I will wait until she can carefor them on her own. I got mine for my 10th birthday and it was special to do it with my mom.

    This is what we're waiting for, too, if she wants it done. I had to wait until I was 13 (well, my mom snuck me in a little early, ha ha) and I hated that! I think an 8-10 year old can be responsible enough to care for a new piercing. I also want it to be her choice and to have it done with a needle vs. a piercing gun. 

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    Hannah's ears are not pierced. She can have them done later if she wants and is responsible enough to take care of them. I got mine done when I was about 7. I think that is an appropriate age.
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  • We had DD1's done at Piercing Pagoda in the mall the same day she had her 3 month shots (we asked the pedi while we were there and she said it was fine and it was a good time because they just gave her tylenol). We never had any problems with her touching them or her era getting infected.

    I never got around to doing DD2s and don't plan to do DD3s either.

    When my oldest was 4 and started sports she had to take her earigns out for games. Then when she turned 6 she decided she hated her earings and wanted them out for good, so we took them out and let the holes close.

    She asked me why we "gave" her earings and I didn't have an answer for her, so I decided I'll let the girls tell me when they want them.

    If there 3 or 13, I'll take them -- I just want it to be their choice. So, if 4 years down the road they ask why they have earings, I'll tell them it's because they wanted them -- not that I wanted them.

    It's one of my biggest "mom regrets" so far because I felt like such an a$$ for not having a reason for getting her ears pierced. It never even occured to me that I was doing it without even asking if she wanted it done.

  • We did not pierce C's yet and we won't until she is older.  I'm not exactly decided on what age she will be getting it done (if she wants) but it will likely not be until 5th grade or so.

      
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    imageMrs.SparklesMcGee:

    imagemesr:
    While I fully support body modification, I believe that it needs to be a person's choice, not something that is done to them. So we are waiting for our girls.

    Same here.  We will wait until she wants them and can trust her to take care of them herself.

    We feel the same.  I got mine pierced when I was 12 and they ended up getting infected, so I don't want the same thing to happen to LO.  I'm personally not a fan of babies with pierced ears, but to each their own.

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  • imageOctoberCAPA:
    Nope, and she's not getting them done until she's 12 or 13, assuming she wants it done at all.  To me, jewelry is something you get to wear when you grow up, and she is too little for it.

     

    This!! I don't see the point at such a young age.  

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